R was awake screaming 5x between 8 pm and midnight. After she woke up 10 minutes after I put her down the last time, I am letting her scream. I'm at my breaking point with this. It's been 35 minutes. GO THE F TO SLEEP BABY. I'm clearly MOTY for starting CIO in the middle of the night because I can't take it anymore.
It's totally fine. She's okay, don't be so hard on yourself.
B was up every 1.5-2 hours all fucking night. At 5am he woke up and didn't stop screaming until 6:00 when I said screw it and brought him downstairs to start our day.
I already cried this morning, took a shower while H was home and had a coffee.
R was awake screaming 5x between 8 pm and midnight. After she woke up 10 minutes after I put her down the last time, I am letting her scream. I'm at my breaking point with this. It's been 35 minutes. GO THE F TO SLEEP BABY. I'm clearly MOTY for starting CIO in the middle of the night because I can't take it anymore.
It's totally fine. She's okay, don't be so hard on yourself.
How it going now?
I gave up on her putting herself to sleep not long after that. I sat next to her crib and sang/shushed. It took like 45 minutes, but she finally went to sleep. I was surprised, I thought me being in the room would make it worse since she previously flipped out and cried harder if tried to soothe her without picking her up. I'm going to stick with this tactic. I can't stand to not do anything anymore.
B was up every 1.5-2 hours all fucking night. At 5am he woke up and didn't stop screaming until 6:00 when I said screw it and brought him downstairs to start our day.
I already cried this morning, took a shower while H was home and had a coffee.
Big hugs to everyone who had a rough night. I've been there so many times - it's awful.
Things are improving since we started sleep training. E has finally learned to put himself to sleep. He was up crying for 45 minutes around 9, but got back to sleep on his own with us just doing some checks. Then I did a dreamfeed at 10, fed him at 2 when he woke up, and then he was up around 6:15. This isn't amazing but better than waking every 2 hours all night long. I hope for those of you who choose to sleep train soon, things get better ASAP.
Hugs to all those who had really rough nights. I hope you guys can catch a break soon. I feel so bad for anyone dealing with it, I've been there too and know how hard it is.
J has been waking up every 20-30 minutes after I put her to bed at night and does it like 4 times before she finally settles down for the night. I think it's from staying up late for 2 nights due to the holiday but I don't know. Last night after she finally settled down she only woke up twice. That's the best she's done since she was 2 months old. I hope she's turned a corner but I'm not going to get my hopes up.
I really need tonight to go better than last night. We are suppose to leave the boys with my parents for NYE and I want to puke thinking about leaving Benjamin when he wakes up every hour.
Ok- first official night of sleep training, I am ready!
DH and I came up with a plan we're both good with. We're going to try 'camping out' style sleep training since that was essentially what I ended up doing last night and it at least felt like a step in the right direction. I'm going to stay next to her crib if she's crying and sing/shush but not pick her up. My air mattress is set up and my phone is charged. Last night took 45 min so I'm hoping that's the worst case scenario. Here we go.
I really need tonight to go better than last night. We are suppose to leave the boys with my parents for NYE and I want to puke thinking about leaving Benjamin when he wakes up every hour.
I feel the same way. I haven't ever left R at bedtime. I have a new job that's only 1 night per month that starts in 2 weeks and I'm terrified.
Knock on wood better than expected. He puts himself to sleep after crying for about 5 minutes. Bedtime takes half as long as before bc I used to nurse him to sleep and then wait 30 minutes to make sure he was asleep before the transfer, and he would still wake up half the time! I dreamfeed around 10 and do 1 MOTN feeding. Last night he woke up 2 other times - one lasted 45 minutes and one 5, but he put himself back to sleep with us only doing a few checks on him (no touching just talking to him). And his naps aren't super long, but he falls asleep on his own in his crib which never happened before.
It's only 9pm here so the night is young, but he fell asleep well. Hopwfully the rest of the night will be ok.
I just had a total break down you guys. B won't nurse, I gave him Motrin 2 hours ago, sucked out boogers, tried a million ways to soothe him and he just screams. He has been screaming in my face all day, and now all night. I can't do this again.
I put him in his crib and walked away. Some how H is sleeping through all of this, and I was shaking and crying too.
He's up there with B now.
I know he's got a cold and two teeth are breaking through. But I'm going to loose my mind. I posted in the STing thread, but I need ideas on where to start.
So if I had to choose who to be up with at 3 am every morning I would choose W. Dh is like a really overtired child at 3am and annoys the shit out of me.
melody330, hugs. I'm so sorry. I've definitely had moments where I had to put M down and walk away. You're doing a great job, momma. Is it possible his cold could have turned into an ear ache? Maybe that's why he wouldn't nurse?
prvc678 how did sleep training go last night for you?
It went as expected. DD has gotten used to cosleeping and having my nipple in her mouth all night. So we are sleep training to break that association, as well as getting her back into her crib. I made her wait 2 hours between feeds, so she went down at 7:30, up at 10:00 to eat, then again at 12:00, then 2:00. She fussed at 4:00 but put herself back to sleep after 1 check, then woke up at 6:00 with a poopy diaper. She's exhausted right now and fussing in her swing. I'm about to run to Costco and fully expect that she will nap in the car. I want to get her night sleep straightened out before focusing on naps.
So our problem is that she wakes up screaming 2-4x every night between 7:30 (when I put her in bed) and 11. I have no idea wtf it is about. I thought it was overtiredness but it happens even on days with good naps. But then she sleeps great from 11 pm to 7 am, usually 1 max wakeup. It's been 8 weeks or more like this. So each time I'd spend 30 minutes holding her while she went back to sleep, sneak her into her crib and then she'd wake up again 20-30 min later. I basically spend the entire evening every night putting her to sleep.
I put her in bed drowsy but awake, and she probably woke up 5x before 10 pm. Each time I sat next to her crib, held her hand and sang to her. It took less than 10 min each time for her to fall asleep. I am feeling optimistic about this!
melody330, hugs. I'm so sorry. I've definitely had moments where I had to put M down and walk away. You're doing a great job, momma. Is it possible his cold could have turned into an ear ache? Maybe that's why he wouldn't nurse?
I don't think it's any kind ache. I gave him Motrin so that should have taken care of any discomfort.
H is convinced something is wrong and wants me to take him to the pedi.
I'm convinced he doesn't know how to fall asleep and we are balls deep in a sleep regression.
Post by rungirlrun on Dec 30, 2016 14:44:15 GMT -5
melody330 I'm sorry last night was a disaster. And I'll never understand how men can sleep through those disaster nights. Do you put him down awake? That's the only thing that's made a big difference for us. E is finally learning to put himself to sleep at bedtime and MOTN which is huge. I know you don't want to sleep train yet, but are you ok with some crying when he goes down?
melody330 I'm sorry last night was a disaster. And I'll never understand how men can sleep through those disaster nights. Do you put him down awake? That's the only thing that's made a big difference for us. E is finally learning to put himself to sleep at bedtime and MOTN which is huge. I know you don't want to sleep train yet, but are you ok with some crying when he goes down?
At this point, I'm okay with just about anything. Last night was bad. I was shaking, crying and gasping for air. I don't have anxiety or panic attacks normally, but B's lack of any kind of predictable sleep is really triggering some.
melody330 I'm sorry last night was a disaster. And I'll never understand how men can sleep through those disaster nights. Do you put him down awake? That's the only thing that's made a big difference for us. E is finally learning to put himself to sleep at bedtime and MOTN which is huge. I know you don't want to sleep train yet, but are you ok with some crying when he goes down?
At this point, I'm okay with just about anything. Last night was bad. I was shaking, crying and gasping for air. I don't have anxiety or panic attacks normally, but B's lack of any kind of predictable sleep is really triggering some.
Big hugs. I totally understand. E's sleep issues had really been causing a lot of unhappiness and anxiety. I'd dread bedtime because I knew it would be a disaster. I'd dread waking up in the morning because I knew I'd have to be on my game with my 3 year old while stressing about E's naps (or lack thereof) all while being completely exhausted. My H and I bickered constantly. I kind of regretted having another baby. Things were bad which is why sleep training had to happen asap.
I put him down awake and then do 5, 10, 15 minute checks until he's asleep. Each night, he gets better and better. Tonight, he only cried for 3 minutes. There are still night wake ups, but I only feed him if it's been 4+ hours so I do checks instead of feeds. Him sleeping through the night isn't going to happen anytime soon, but I'm seeing huge improvements, and I'm in a much happier place. I hope you figure something out that can help him and you.
Thanks rungirlrun. I think I'd be handling this a little better if I didn't have to be parenting a 3 yr old too. I feel like he's getting the raw end of this deal because I'm constantly rocking, bouncing, and soothing B because he's so damn tired.
He used to sleep 4-5 hour stretches. Why are we back To 1.5-2 hours tops? I don't get it.
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