Self Care 12/26

[cam]

What did you do this past week? Did you take time for you amidst holiday festivities, if applicable?

Any plans for this week?

Challenge: Do something fun.

[numbbears]

Past Week: DS was sick on Christmas Eve, but he was better on Christmas Day. We just ordered Chinese and stayed at home by ourselves on Christmas Day. It was pretty stress-free. For myslef, I got a lot of sleep last week.

This Week: I finished reading the Kon Mari book and started going through clothes today. I got rid of half the tops I had and it feels awesome to have the free space. I have the whole week planned around finishing going through clothes.

Challenge: I'm having lunch with a high school friend one day and going to a dinner theater to see Rogue One with DH on another day.

[mrsbuttinski]

I managed to get a walk in the park in on Christmas day. It was lovely. DH kind of slowed me down, but it was nice to have the company. Other than that the holiday was complicated. DS got a stomach bug and threw up all over the upstairs hall, so I left him home and took dinner to my parents' tiny apartment. I felt kind of guilty because it was a bust as holidays go and my mom kept gushing about "best Christmas ever". Between her ADHD cooking style (table is half set, Brussels are next to a pan but not in it or in the oven and Yorkshire pudding is burned because she didn't set a timer) and my dad's mean-spirited brand of dementia, it was not my zen place. DH was great at redirecting dad which I appreciated. I need to get better at this.

Not so many appointments running up to the holiday, so I was able to grab some time for lunch with my BFF. We spent the time comparing our minimalist approaches to the holiday- each trying to under-do the other. Thursday I have Indian buffet lunch and sales shopping with another friend. And we'll be doing a nice New Years dinner at a fancy restaurant. No party after as the usual hosts are in Patagonia visiting their son who leads wilderness tours. This is a kid who refused to become an Eagle Scout and is now basically and Eagle Scout for a living. Crazy.

On my to-do list? January bring 11 doctors appointments between mom, dad and DH, plus 2 eye surgeries for DH and settlement on the new house for them. DH can't drive, Dad's not allowed and my mother still gets lost from time to time. She's getting better but still gets spun around at times.

[akafred]

Usually I fail so miserably at Self Care that I don't participate. I try to make the most of the small moments when DD plays upstairs or after she is in bed to just sit in silence and not listen to her whining or asking questions lol. But the week after Christmas DH and I take off work and put DD in gymnastics camp and just enjoy time together again. Today he took her to camp and I am going to have my first chiro appt. I have been in my current job for a year so I am hopeful they will be flexible with me to go there as needed in the coming weeks/months. I have let it go too long. So hopefully that will be important long-procrastinated self care. Tomorrow we are keeping her out of camp to meet up with two sets of friends, and Thursday while she is in camp we will do an escape room, which I adore. So fingers crossed for a nice week.

[Deleted]

Well my FIL was basically a huge jerk for the holidays. There were at least 3-4 incidents of him being a jerk. And my MIL got us a really hurtful present.

When they came back over to visit the next day for about an hour, I just focused on cleaning the house. H was doing some work, so I didn't feel guilty and they could hang with the kids. Yesterday, we went to the park. It was 50 degrees. It was sooo nice to be outside again! I think it made our day. We spent the rest of the day getting rid of toys, taking down the tree, wrapping presents for my mom to take back to my sister. DS had optional homework that if he does it he gets a prize. He decided to do it all at once and spent 1.5 hours on it completely content, and only asked me one question. I tried to read a book, but DD wanted me to read to her. I know its too early to teach her to read- turning 4 next week. But part of me wants her to at least know some sight words and be able to read those super easy one word on a page book type things, so she can entertain herself, and I can stop hearing her complain about not being able to read.

Both kids complained for about 6 months to a year about not being able to read before they learned.

Challenge- I think I am going to call the ski hill for lessons for the kids.

[akafred]

Dec 27, 2016 12:32:48 GMT -5 @clarypax said:

Well my FIL was basically a huge jerk for the holidays. There were at least 3-4 incidents of him being a jerk. And my MIL got us a really hurtful present.

When they came back over to visit the next day for about an hour, I just focused on cleaning the house. H was doing some work, so I didn't feel guilty and they could hang with the kids. Yesterday, we went to the park. It was 50 degrees. It was sooo nice to be outside again! I think it made our day. We spent the rest of the day getting rid of toys, taking down the tree, wrapping presents for my mom to take back to my sister. DS had optional homework that if he does it he gets a prize. He decided to do it all at once and spent 1.5 hours on it completely content, and only asked me one question. I tried to read a book, but DD wanted me to read to her. I know its too early to teach her to read- turning 4 next week. But part of me wants her to at least know some sight words and be able to read those super easy one word on a page book type things, so she can entertain herself, and I can stop hearing her complain about not being able to read.

Both kids complained for about 6 months to a year about not being able to read before they learned.

Challenge- I think I am going to call the ski hill for lessons for the kids.

4 is not too early to read if she wants to and is motivated. It is way too early to push it though.

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Dec 27, 2016 13:00:04 GMT -5 akafred said:

Dec 27, 2016 12:32:48 GMT -5 @clarypax said:

Well my FIL was basically a huge jerk for the holidays. There were at least 3-4 incidents of him being a jerk. And my MIL got us a really hurtful present.

When they came back over to visit the next day for about an hour, I just focused on cleaning the house. H was doing some work, so I didn't feel guilty and they could hang with the kids. Yesterday, we went to the park. It was 50 degrees. It was sooo nice to be outside again! I think it made our day. We spent the rest of the day getting rid of toys, taking down the tree, wrapping presents for my mom to take back to my sister. DS had optional homework that if he does it he gets a prize. He decided to do it all at once and spent 1.5 hours on it completely content, and only asked me one question. I tried to read a book, but DD wanted me to read to her. I know its too early to teach her to read- turning 4 next week. But part of me wants her to at least know some sight words and be able to read those super easy one word on a page book type things, so she can entertain herself, and I can stop hearing her complain about not being able to read.

Both kids complained for about 6 months to a year about not being able to read before they learned.

Challenge- I think I am going to call the ski hill for lessons for the kids.

4 is not too early to read if she wants to and is motivated. It is way too early to push it though.

Its definitely kid led not parent led.  I just grabbed some of DS's early reader "A" books, and she wanted to go through all of them.  When they repeat the word then she remembers it.  She knows the letter/ word "I" and a couple of others.  She is naturally a very progressive child because she wants to be like her big brother, so she pushes herself to do a lot of things that her brother did not do at that age.  Maybe a second child thing, but not all second children are like that because my neighbors child could care less about being like her brother. 

[mamaturtle]

One day late.

Last week: We have not exercised last week.

Diet was thrown out the window. DH made a delicious beef tenderloin for Christmas Day. We have had too much tamales, cookies and candy. We still have candy from Halloween. I think I may have to take some of it to work for the candy dish for students that come in our office.

I did watch some Netflix on Thursday. I have not done that in awhile.

DH and I went to Buffalo Wild Wings on a lunch date on Thursday.

Our holidays were nice and quiet. MIL came over to visit and eat lunch with us. DH got her a tablet for Christmas from us. I just don't get why she wanted a new tablet when she does not have any internet access. DH got me a cat book and a taser thing. I was jealous at first that MIL got a better gift than me. I do like the book but the taser is something I didn't know I wanted. DS enjoyed his few gifts that he got this year.

My birthday was yesterday. I turned 35 and I just was really hard on myself. I am not where I envisioned my life to be. Then I thought of DH and he was not where he envisioned his life to be. It was stupid to cry over this when I have DH, DS and the cat in my life who love me a lot.

This week: I hope to exercise at least twice this week.

I hope we can get our diet back on track.

DS goes to daycare three days this week. So I am hoping DH and I get to spend more time together.

I hope to at least rest this holiday break. I have holiday break till January 4.