ClassyMrsA I loved All the Light We Cannot See. Wonderful story and beautifully written. Hope you enjoy it!
this is on my list. I keep hearing amazing things about it!
I loved that book but it took my 5 weeks to read lol. It's not *that* long just very prosey which my sleep deprived brain kept having to reread paragraphs to actually absorb.
Tonight we are putting Mr C to sleep in his own crib in his own room. I am both excited and terrified. Excited at the possibility of better sleep not hearing so many of his grunts and terrified it could be a rough night for all four of us.
I tried to start an early bedtime routine and put E down in her bassinet. Ugh, no dice. Looks like I'll be continuing with the 10 pm bedtime and co sleeping tonight. Someday.
I haven't had time to get on much today other than to skim and LT thr thread. Hugs to all who need them, and crossing my fingers your boys avoid any sickness waitwhat. Also kleigh I am so sorry to hear that about your uncle. Sending lots of positive T&Ps.
D just fell asleep on my chest. It took forever to settle her tonight; she was so overstimulated by this ridiculously busy day and was just screaming and screaming and refusing to eat. I really hope she can get a good stretch of sleep now because we could both use it.
Good luck aggiebug! kleigh, I'm sorry about your uncle, I'll be keeping your family in my thoughts!
How do some moms look so put together this early on? I barely remember to brush my teeth and forget showers unless I know I'm going out with people! I dread the first family visit. Luckily it was put off till DH gets home (his family) so that helps some.
danib, you get along with your ILs, don't you? Just wondering if you do stuff with them when YH is away? Asking because before L, I didn't even try... but when your MIL tells you you're ruining her family, it's easy to not feel obligated to try! (This was 2 years ago) Sometimes, I feel like their grandchild incubator! Only important because I'm the mother of their grandchild.
cheshie6 not that this helps, but if I lived closer to ILs and/or H was away like yours, I know I would have a hard time maintaining a relationship by myself. I guess I'm just saying, you aren't alone or weird.
We've been successfully using C's crib for 5 nights now but we've also been out every night and he's been initially falling asleep in the car seat on our way home. He did OK tonight with going to bed at 10 but I'm curious how it will go tomorrow when we're home and can do an early bedtime routine. It's been so nice with him in his room. He's giving us 5+ hour stretches!
I'm in another night of not getting L to sleep before 5!?! I'm seriously feeling like an awful mom. We purposely didn't let him sleep longer than 2 hours during the day... I'm at a loss as to why he won't go to sleep when he has to be tired. I don't even know how you ladies have bedtime routines when it takes 6 hours for me to lay him down. Every time I try to before he's fully asleep, he startled wake and is wanting a boob. I can't tell if he's hungry or if he's using it as a pacifier and it's hard to not let him when he cries otherwise. Le pause doesn't work on my Bébé just yet.
Sorry to sound like a broken record, here's hoping I get a nap today!
I'm in another night of not getting L to sleep before 5!?! I'm seriously feeling like an awful mom. We purposely didn't let him sleep longer than 2 hours during the day... I'm at a loss as to why he won't go to sleep when he has to be tired. I don't even know how you ladies have bedtime routines when it takes 6 hours for me to lay him down. Every time I try to before he's fully asleep, he startled wake and is wanting a boob. I can't tell if he's hungry or if he's using it as a pacifier and it's hard to not let him when he cries otherwise. Le pause doesn't work on my Bébé just yet.
Sorry to sound like a broken record, here's hoping I get a nap today!
You are not an awful mom! Every baby is different and yours apparently is a night owl
I think it's possible that not letting him sleep during the day may be contributing to his wakefulness at night. Though it seems counterintuitive, a well-rested baby is easier to settle than one that's overtired. "Sleep begets sleep" is the expression I've heard. This has definitely proven true for me with both of my kids.
Are you swaddling? Wondering if that could help avoid him startling awake. Also has he taken an actual pacifier? One way to tell if he's eating or just pacifying is to listen to see if he's swallowing. Sometimes it sounds like a soft click or you might be able to hear the liquid going down. If he isn't eating I would definitely try swapping in a pacifier. Your poor boobs could probably use a break!
cheshie6 I agree with dashook. You are definitely not a bad mom! This stuff is hard and every baby is different. I should have clarified that we let her sleep during the day as much as she wants. We just try not to have a long nap before bedtime so she'll go down when we get in bed. What are you doing for bedtime? Different babies find different things soothing. Lillian liked nursing and music combined with white noise (she never liked to be swaddled). We also always did a short bath to relax her. Lilah likes to be swaddled, a dark room, and the white noise. She does not like the bath (yet I hope). I hope that you start getting some better nighttime sleep! Hang in there.
I love that Lilah is sleeping so well, especially since Lillian didn't, but I find that a) I always have to pee and I never think to go until she resettles and b) since Lillian wakes up by 7, I'm getting this little chunk before I have to get up for the day with her. Do you go pee before you pick up the baby to feed, take them with you, or suffer? And is it better to get up for the day at 4:30 or get the 1-2 hours more even though I wake up exhausted and groggy?
Post by jubilantsquirrel on Jan 2, 2017 6:56:51 GMT -5
Ugh, my poor toddler woke up crying at 3:15am, he never has MOTN wake ups. The poor thing threw up all over himself and his bed. He hasn't thrown up in over a year when he had an ear infection. 🙁
goldenlove3 it went pretty well. He slept about the same as he has slept in our room and I was extra sensitive to noises last night making sure I didn't miss his cues so my sleep was worse . The latter will quickly improve though and hopefully his sleep will too.
cheshie6 day night confusion is a very real thing in babies they don't make melatonin/ develop a circadian rhythm until 3 months or so. You aren't a bad mom you are desperate for sleep with a newborn who is making it incredibly difficult.
Oh no jubilantsquirrel! Are you by yourself with both today? Hope you can give lots of cuddles. Also, keep a towel close by.
cheshie6 I can't put my baby down by herself right now or I might be in the same situation as you. Do you have an RnP or swing? Some babies don't like to be flat when they are so little. Remember yours is younger than a lot of other babies and his neuro system is less developed. He likes to be curled up and held now. Have you researched or considered safe cosleeping? If you are thinking about it, make sure to look up all the safety issues.
I love that Lilah is sleeping so well, especially since Lillian didn't, but I find that a) I always have to pee and I never think to go until she resettles and b) since Lillian wakes up by 7, I'm getting this little chunk before I have to get up for the day with her. Do you go pee before you pick up the baby to feed, take them with you, or suffer? And is it better to get up for the day at 4:30 or get the 1-2 hours more even though I wake up exhausted and groggy?
I always pee before I go in to pick her up. No exceptions lol
I think I'd take the extra sleep, unless I knew I would be likely to have time for a nap during the day, in which case I might be okay with getting up for the day at 4:30.
Poor little guy jubilantsquirrel. I hope this is a quick bug and he feels better soon.
I agree with a lot of what the other ladies have recommended, cheshie6. It is tough being sleep deprived, and also hard when your H is gone and you don't have 'back up'. I also tend to think that sleep begets sleep so I wouldn't limit daytime naps unless it's close to bedtime. If L has his days/nights confused, as someone mentioned as a possibility, try and get him exposed to sunshine during the day, especially in the mornings. If it's too cold out, you can put him in a diaper in a sunny window in your house. (These tips were all from my pedi, when we were having this issue with DS). I hope things get better soon!
Post by jubilantsquirrel on Jan 2, 2017 10:29:44 GMT -5
Thanks you guys. It's been a couple of hours since he last got sick and MH is sleeping in his bed with him. Thankfully H is off work today, so I'll at least have an extra set of hands.
I love that Lilah is sleeping so well, especially since Lillian didn't, but I find that a) I always have to pee and I never think to go until she resettles and b) since Lillian wakes up by 7, I'm getting this little chunk before I have to get up for the day with her. Do you go pee before you pick up the baby to feed, take them with you, or suffer? And is it better to get up for the day at 4:30 or get the 1-2 hours more even though I wake up exhausted and groggy?
I always go pee first. And I've been in that situation before and have gone both ways. Sometimes I feel OK and just stay up but usually I'll go back to sleep.
dashook, he is swaddled at night. I've been avoiding the pacifier because of his weight issues to make sure I wasn't ignoring his hunger signals. During the day, he'll sleep for hours at a stretch! (Like 4-5) and wake to eat, be changed and he'll go right back to sleep! I was hoping to try to shift that to night time. ClassyMrsA, I haven't started a routine with him really. I was told only bathe once or twice a week. I usually leave him with my mom a few minutes, to get dogs settled, go to the bathroom, I get changed etc. After I get him, he eats off one boob, I swaddle him, he eats off other boob, I burp him and try to rock him to sleep. Usually I do this 10-12 times a night because when I put him down asleep, he'll sleep 3-5 minutes before he wakes up, (not startled), I wait/hope he goes back to sleep and usually he starts getting fussy, crying, etc in a few minutes. Sometimes he just stares for 30 minutes before getting fussy and the process starts all over. I usually have white noise playing, I was trying to see if that was keeping him up. Last night he was asleep after a few minutes of it playing but it was already 5 at that point! waitwhat, I only have a nightlight so I can see where I'm going should I need to change a diaper. L likes to pee when his diaper is off and until you feel it, pee is hard to see in the dark. hangry, we are co-sleeping! At least in a swaddleme by your side sleeper. Is that what you mean by safe? Sometimes he won't sleep unless on me, which I've done 1 or 2 times! He doesn't like the swing or RnP for sleep. During the day, he'll sit in them but he's wide awake and staring at the ceiling fan (why is that so entertaining) or at lights.
Post by jubilantsquirrel on Jan 2, 2017 13:09:52 GMT -5
cheshie6, is L relaxed in the bath? We do nightly baths but only use soap a couple times a week. The other nights we just let him float (H holds his head and let's his body float), it really relaxes him.
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