Post by mustloveerica on Jan 1, 2017 11:01:25 GMT -5
Happy new year!
I feel awful today. My body is not happy about staying up so late. I feel hungover! We are heading to DHs parents for New Years dinner. DH wants to tell his mom we picked our daycare so we can get that fight out of the way early.
I feel awful today. My body is not happy about staying up so late. I feel hungover! We are heading to DHs parents for New Years dinner. DH wants to tell his mom we picked our daycare so we can get that fight out of the way early.
That is how I feel too! I woke up and was like "why do I feel hungover?" Lol
Why are they going to fight you over the DC?
+2 to feeling hungover, complete with the splitting headache.
mustloveerica, I hope the daycare discussion goes well. I am getting a ton of pushback from family on using daycare as well and it's extremely upsetting because it feeds into all of my doubts about being an adequate mother. I really think this is something that should only be the parents' decision. Input and advice, especially coming from a judgmental place, is not at all appropriate.
notagoddess - Sorry your family isn't supporting your decision. That's pretty crappy of them. I agree about input/advice. First, if it's unsolicited, that's a no-go. Then add on judgmental, ugh!
Post by silvermelody on Jan 1, 2017 12:03:22 GMT -5
Good morning ladies! I was fighting a headache all night but more Tylenol and some coffee seem to have resolved that. Quiet day at home for us: laundry, sorting out baby stuff, grocery shopping.
I feel awful today. My body is not happy about staying up so late. I feel hungover! We are heading to DHs parents for New Years dinner. DH wants to tell his mom we picked our daycare so we can get that fight out of the way early.
That is how I feel too! I woke up and was like "why do I feel hungover?" Lol
Why are they going to fight you over the DC?
Because MIL is extremely opinionated. I left their house on Christmas in tears because she made me feel like daycare is the worst thing I could possibly do to my children.
Post by thelittleredm on Jan 1, 2017 12:31:01 GMT -5
With January and all the DC talk, I'm starting to mildly panic about our kid situation. I have no idea what we're doing for childcare when this one comes and I'm having a hard time planning for it because with what I make now, someone would basically need to watch one kid for free. We're already paying next to nothing for DS but I couldn't keep paying that amount when two are involved because I'd feel awful. Plus, my brother has 3 under 3 and I'd hate to have him watch a baby on top of those 3 + DS. Need to figure shit out...
With January and all the DC talk, I'm starting to mildly panic about our kid situation. I have no idea what we're doing for childcare when this one comes and I'm having a hard time planning for it because with what I make now, someone would basically need to watch one kid for free. We're already paying next to nothing for DS but I couldn't keep paying that amount when two are involved because I'd feel awful. Plus, my brother has 3 under 3 and I'd hate to have him watch a baby on top of those 3 + DS. Need to figure shit out...
I'm freaking a bit as well because I plan to stay at home, and we haven't layed out a financial plan yet to how that will work.
That is how I feel too! I woke up and was like "why do I feel hungover?" Lol
Why are they going to fight you over the DC?
Because MIL is extremely opinionated. I left their house on Christmas in tears because she made me feel like daycare is the worst thing I could possibly do to my children.
That is awful. I'm so sorry you're in that situation. I hope your H is helping.
Whatever is best for your family is what is best, period. She needs to remember that daycare has so many positives and is not the end of the world. We'll be using daycare too.
Post by ladytiffany24 on Jan 1, 2017 13:23:40 GMT -5
Now that the holidays are over and my in-laws are gone (thank god!), it's time for us to focus on new baby and everything that comes with it. Including buying big girl furniture for DD which we just did online! I hope it goes well.
Already have all the nursery furniture for baby boy because we're using all the same stuff we used for DD. Just need to buy all the fixins (bed clothes, decor). I also need to get lots of sleepers and onesies because that's likely what he'll live in for the first several months.
Post by mustloveerica on Jan 1, 2017 14:34:02 GMT -5
MIL is not speaking to me hahahahahah. It's awkwardly silent and she's pretended to not hear me a few times now. Ha oh well silent treatment is better than another fight.
MIL is not speaking to me hahahahahah. It's awkwardly silent and she's pretended to not hear me a few times now. Ha oh well silent treatment is better than another fight.
MIL is not speaking to me hahahahahah. It's awkwardly silent and she's pretended to not hear me a few times now. Ha oh well silent treatment is better than another fight.
Oy vey. Sometimes the silence is the better option. Hope she gets over herself quickly.
MIL is not speaking to me hahahahahah. It's awkwardly silent and she's pretended to not hear me a few times now. Ha oh well silent treatment is better than another fight.
I'm not even sure why you and YH feel the need to discuss it with her. Not her kid, not her opinion.
I would keep her out of the loop for most, if not all of your parenting decisions.
MIL is not speaking to me hahahahahah. It's awkwardly silent and she's pretended to not hear me a few times now. Ha oh well silent treatment is better than another fight.
Been there, done that. I'm pretty sure my MiL is still moping that we moved away over a year ago and she doesn't get to see DS1 weekly now (because all that matters is her ability to see him whenever she feels like it, duh). She hates the concept of daycare and would prefer that we never had moved so she could watch him while we worked even though we moved due to our job situation and needing the better opportunities. 🙄🙄
The first day of 2017 has been glorious. H and I stayed in bed with LouDog all day and watched movies, and now we're headed to my ILs for dinner. We're over the moon about our baby boy and already having fun picking out boy things.
We can't wait to meet our little Oliver Stephen this year!!
mustloveerica, I'm sorry your MIL is being a douche. What would she prefer you do instead of daycare?? I know it's different for everyone, but we don't exactly have other options...
I'd like to cross daycare tours off my list in January. We already visited a few when I was pregnant with Emmett, so at least we don't need to see those again. I loved the Goddard School here in town but it's outrageously expensive. No way José.
I'd like to cross daycare tours off my list in January. We already visited a few when I was pregnant with Emmett, so at least we don't need to see those again. I loved the Goddard School here in town but it's outrageously expensive. No way José.
Also on my list for January. I'm not staffed on a project right now so I'm going to try to get in to see the two close to us this week.
The first day of 2017 has been glorious. H and I stayed in bed with LouDog all day and watched movies, and now we're headed to my ILs for dinner. We're over the moon about our baby boy and already having fun picking out boy things.
We can't wait to meet our little Oliver Stephen this year!!
mustloveerica, I'm sorry your MIL is being a douche. What would she prefer you do instead of daycare?? I know it's different for everyone, but we don't exactly have other options...
She would prefer I quit and go on food stamps I think. This is an exaggeration. We could live on one income but I need to work a couple days a week for both sanity and so that we can keep living the lifestyle we're used to. Whatever. I'm very happy with the daycare we chose. I'm excited for the girls to go there.
The first day of 2017 has been glorious. H and I stayed in bed with LouDog all day and watched movies, and now we're headed to my ILs for dinner. We're over the moon about our baby boy and already having fun picking out boy things.
We can't wait to meet our little Oliver Stephen this year!!
Love your sweet boys name. I love Oliver so much but couldn't use it with our last name.
MIL is not speaking to me hahahahahah. It's awkwardly silent and she's pretended to not hear me a few times now. Ha oh well silent treatment is better than another fight.
Um, is she an adult?! I just couldn't fathom being that upset over a daycare decision and also giving anyone the silent treatment.
Act your age not your shoe size, lady <-------- that comment is an oldie but a goodie.
She throws tantrums a lot.
Honestly I wouldn't want her watching the girls all the time anyway. She lets the grandkids get away with murder and it drives me nuts. Like today, all 6 grandkids are playing in the basement while me, DH, MIL and 2 SILs are playing a pretty adult game. There's tons of very child inappropriate questions and we were rolling laughing having a good time. All of a sudden MIL yells down the stairs asking the kids if they want to play too. So now we have to pick thru the card pile to find questions that are ok for the kids. And of course we have to let them win. Why? They were all perfectly happy playing downstairs.
Then DH volunteers to put the baby down for a nap. He's a very difficult baby but DH is patient and he wanted to try. Great!! MIL waits 10 minutes before going upstairs, taking the baby from DH and tells him that she'll just do it because the baby will never relax for DH. While all the while he was upstairs rocking the baby by himself we didn't hear a peep out of the monitor so obviously he was doing fine.
Honestly I wouldn't want her watching the girls all the time anyway. She lets the grandkids get away with murder and it drives me nuts. Like today, all 6 grandkids are playing in the basement while me, DH, MIL and 2 SILs are playing a pretty adult game. There's tons of very child inappropriate questions and we were rolling laughing having a good time. All of a sudden MIL yells down the stairs asking the kids if they want to play too. So now we have to pick thru the card pile to find questions that are ok for the kids. And of course we have to let them win. Why? They were all perfectly happy playing downstairs.
Then DH volunteers to put the baby down for a nap. He's a very difficult baby but DH is patient and he wanted to try. Great!! MIL waits 10 minutes before going upstairs, taking the baby from DH and tells him that she'll just do it because the baby will never relax for DH. While all the while he was upstairs rocking the baby by himself we didn't hear a peep out of the monitor so obviously he was doing fine.
She drives me nuts.
Ugh, the worst kind of control freak. Well at least with your own kids you can tell her to shove off.
Also, as an aside, I'm against always letting kids win. They need to learn to be gracious winners and losers. DH hasn't mastered this when it comes to Monopoly so nobody will play it with him to this day!
Same here. They need to learn to control their emotions and to be good losers and good winners. They also don't need to be included in everything. If we're playing an adult game, they can play a kid game. Boundaries! Like hey kids I would love to play candyland with you after we finish this grown up game, but you'll have to be patient.
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