Post by gratefulgirl on Jan 1, 2017 10:26:03 GMT -5
How is your 2017 so far?
I got to be sleeping at midnight, but barely. DD3 has spoiled me by sleeping great at the ILs and was a little more herself last night. Sigh. But at least I know that she can only wake to eat, which means no need to Ferber her. Much as I value sleep training I am glad to skip it if I can.
No resolutions here. I'm trying out the word of the year thing this year. You?
We are going to a wedding, so my ILs are here babysitting and will stay over tonight. They've been driving me crazy since the minute they got here. I'm in the bedroom pumping and I just heard MIL ask where the bottles are for the third time (the first two times I told her I would set them up and show her after I pump).
This is the longest I have ever left my babies and I am panicking about something happening while I'm gone. I've already made us late because I got so anxious I couldn't get myself ready. I feel like I shouldn't have agreed to go. I'm not ready for this yet.
Last year was so rough on my family with R's diagnosis, finances due to all the medical expenses, and having two under two. Though it was tough, I learned that I have so much to be thankful for.
This year, my goals are to lose those last 10 pounds of pregnancy weight, get better at meal planning/cooking good meals for the family while balancing my lawyer job, and reconnect in relationships with friends, husband, and myself.
Last night, we came to my parents' place for a party and to a children's theme park. The kids both slept in bed with me (DD is in a mommy phase and R is going through a growth spurt) and that was a sweet way to start 2017.
I'm back from the wedding. We had a nice time, but it was really hard to be away from them for so long. I was very anxious and I missed them so much. M gave me a huge smile when I got back.
Me (30) MH (32) Dx: MFI (low all the things) M. 10/11. TTC Since 01/14 IUI#1-3(Letrozole + Trigger) = BFN Second Opinion. Changed RE's. IVF 09/15 Long Lupron 12R/9M/8F, Transferred 1=BFN. 4 frosties. FET #1 12/15 Transferred 1 (3 still on ice)
Shoot. I was so tired last night I accidentally fell asleep without pumping. And without breast pads. G woke up at 5:15 and my boobs were exploding, so I had FIL give her a bottle and I'm pumping. While I was getting the bottle ready she cried and I let down and there was milk dripping down my shirt... really hoping FIL didn't notice but that's probably impossible lol.
I'm pretty bummed that I didn't pump and got engorged though because I'm trying hard to boost my supply, and this is going to have the opposite effect.
I got desperate trying to get DD to sleep yesterday so I swaddled her even though it's been a couple months since she slept swaddled. It helped her a lot to fall asleep on her own a couple times and she stayed asleep longer. Except she can roll to her stomach so she can't sleep swaddled. Guess I need to get one of the swaddle transition things.
I got desperate trying to get DD to sleep yesterday so I swaddled her even though it's been a couple months since she slept swaddled. It helped her a lot to fall asleep on her own a couple times and she stayed asleep longer. Except she can roll to her stomach so she can't sleep swaddled. Guess I need to get one of the swaddle transition things.
There's a Facebook group for resale Zipad.ee Z.ips. I have never found anything similar for the Mer.lin.
I can't believe DS is 6 months old already. We're giving him purees and cereal for two meals each day. He sits up for a short time and is trying to pull his legs under himself during tummy time. And during his (wet) diaper change tonight, he learned he could grab everything with his hand and pull as hard as he could. It was interesting trying to pull his little fingers off.
I know Wonder Weeks says to go by due date. But he is hitting the leaps by his birthdate maybe 1 or 2 late, not 7.
I feel like he has changed so much over these last 2 weeks. He doesn't look like a baby anymore. He's growing too fast, but I'm excited to see what the new year brings.
Eta: oh and he also loves to shove his face into clothes and yell. He's so weird sometimes... Which is how H and I know he belongs to us.
We bundled off the last of our holiday guests and S1 goes back to school tomorrow. I am so ready to get back to our routine!
Same here. DH's uncle, aunt, cousin and his family were visiting and we had a very busy and wonderful time with them. But it's now time to get back to our routines.
DD goes back to school tomorrow and I go back to work. Since our au pair won't be back until tomorrow afternoon, DH is bringing her to school and DS to his SM, who kindly agreed to watch him until I finish at 1230. When I read all the horrible MIL stories, it makes me appreciate her even more. And she is not DH's mother, but stepmother and was not involved in his life growing up.
After 8 nights of lighting candles, saying blessings and singing, I do miss the Hanukkah ritual.
Did anyone have any realistic new year's resolutions?
Formerly MoFree on the other board. TTC since 2008 Diagnosis of Severe MFI 3-2009 IVF#1 Nov 2011, BFP DD born @31 weeks gestation, 6-24-12 FET#1, Nov 2013,, BFN FET#2, Feb 2014, BFN Freeze only cycle with PGD August 2014 FET #3 another BFN FET canceled due to cysts FET #4 Dec 2015, BFP Baby Boy born 8-28-16 via VBAC
I just need vent over something terribly stupid that has been happening since this baby was born.
Every time someone wants to hold the baby and she spits up, they freak and yell at ME over where the spit cloth is. Every. single. time.
Guys. I brought it and gave it to you when I gave you the baby. If you can't keep track of it, that's not my problem? Why do I have to find it? Why is it my problem? What do you think I do when I'm with the baby? I yell at no one - I pluck up the energy and find the cloth, a napkin, use my sleeve. Come on. Why am I the only one with problem solving skills?
Mostly this upsets me because they are taking the baby to give me a "break," but making me find shit and yelling at me isn't a break.
- Do you like your baby more now that she's interactive? - How could you be tired by this adorable baby? - Are you sure you should be walking outside with her twice a day in the rain/wind/cold? - When I grew up, babies were home with their mother.
I'm sensitive after so many days of no daycare/work and feeling like I'm doing every damn thing for this baby. I'm tired. I'm frazzled. I'm stressed. Just because she's "an easy baby" doesn't mean that I don't need a break. These comments make me feel like other people think I don't like my child and I don't want to take care of her when all I do is everything she needs.
I may have cried all weekend because I just can't handle it.
::deep breath:: Back to daycare today. Back to work. Several hours worth of a break. This mom needs it.
I just need vent over something terribly stupid that has been happening since this baby was born.
Every time someone wants to hold the baby and she spits up, they freak and yell at ME over where the spit cloth is. Every. single. time.
Guys. I brought it and gave it to you when I gave you the baby. If you can't keep track of it, that's not my problem? Why do I have to find it? Why is it my problem? What do you think I do when I'm with the baby? I yell at no one - I pluck up the energy and find the cloth, a napkin, use my sleeve. Come on. Why am I the only one with problem solving skills?
Mostly this upsets me because they are taking the baby to give me a "break," but making me find shit and yelling at me isn't a break.
I am soo ready to have our routine back. Ds1 has behaved so poorly the last couple days - I think he's ready for it too.
As far as resolutions, it's silly and common, but to lose the baby weight. I plateaued soon after ds2 was born. Since I started trying to lose at the beginning of October, I've lost 7lbs. I gained 1 or 2 back over the holidays, and have at least 20 left to go. The weight from ds2 (and the 10 that I gained with my loss) have really hung on but need to leave.
Did anyone have any realistic new year's resolutions?
This year I am doing a focus word (see the One Little Word project and Susannah Conway's blog). I look forward to seeing if it makes a difference. The last few years my resolutions have been easily encapsulated into a word (joy for 2014, gratitude for 2015, kindness for 2016) so it makes sense. This year I went with dependence. I know it's not a typical focus word, but it reminds me to lean on God since I am a believer.
- Do you like your baby more now that she's interactive? - How could you be tired by this adorable baby? - Are you sure you should be walking outside with her twice a day in the rain/wind/cold? - When I grew up, babies were home with their mother.
I'm sensitive after so many days of no daycare/work and feeling like I'm doing every damn thing for this baby. I'm tired. I'm frazzled. I'm stressed. Just because she's "an easy baby" doesn't mean that I don't need a break. These comments make me feel like other people think I don't like my child and I don't want to take care of her when all I do is everything she needs.
I may have cried all weekend because I just can't handle it.
::deep breath:: Back to daycare today. Back to work. Several hours worth of a break. This mom needs it.
Yes. Deep breaths. People can shove it. Anyone who says that junk is either forgetting what it is like or was never a SAHM or even the primary caregiver. Or one of those unicorn moms who loves this stuff.
I was the most overwhelmed by my easiest baby. She's now 4.5 and she dresses herself, handles her own bathroom situation, feeds herself (except cutting), etc. She still has needs, but they are so much less constant and physical.
I'm LOLing at my stupid ideas. I thought for the new year I would make a goal to get "for real" dressed each day even though I'm just at home with the kids. This is the first day back to our routine, so I put on a sweater and jeans. Within 5 minutes I was covered in spit up, already annoyed with hiking up my jeans while sitting on the floor, and sweating. And my jeans seemed to be attracting DD's play dough. So - back to yoga pants and my fave long sleeved nursing shirts. 😜
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