Names DH has found

[xcrissx]

Roark isn't the most terrible thing I've ever heard.
I consider Adair a girls name (like Ashley)
Axel is the car in the Leap Frog videos.
The others are just no.

Looking at the two sets of names, Dominick comes to mind.

[chibiyui]

Most of those are surnames, and not surnames that work as first names either.

Your list is great. Maybe add Alistair and Eamonn?

[tarheelmom]

Point him towards www.behindthename.com as a website that only has legit names. Of his list, Adair (which is masculine) and Axel are the only ones listed. Xavier is my favorite from your list.

[coconuthead]

Miles is the only one I like. I would like Ronan better than Rohan. I love previous poster's suggestions of Alistair and Eamonn though!

[jazzra369]

Howard Roark is the main character in an Ayn Rand novel (the Fountainhead) and he rapes the lead female character who goes on to marry him later. Not a good name for a child IMO.

The rest of your husband's list is not good, some are completely made up and sound like you are trying to hard.

Miles and Xavier are lovely. Push for those!

[estrellas]

Tell DH "Honey, the internet says those are not names".

You have a good list - Rohan is our boy-name choice.

[dreadpiratebuttercup]

Axel and Adair are the only semi-good names on his list, though I'm not a particular fan of either of them.

[ugotstarbucked]

Yeesh, his taste is questionable. I love yours. I think Ronan would be a good compromise.

[mags]

please dont let him name the baby

[joy]

Feb 15, 2015 14:06:27 GMT -5 @blackpearl08 said:

Feb 15, 2015 13:15:49 GMT -5 xcrissx said:

Roark isn't the most terrible thing I've ever heard.
I consider Adair a girls name (like Ashley)
Axel is the car in the Leap Frog videos.
The others are just no.

Looking at the two sets of names, Dominick comes to mind.

I agree that Adair sounds feminine. I looked up Roark and it may be another spelling of Rourke like Mickey O'Rourke.

Adair is MASCULINE.

[jil]

Feb 15, 2015 19:52:31 GMT -5 @blackpearl08 said:

This is even more complicated because we are an interracial couple--black American and white Irish-American. I fear if he has an Irish first and last name, I get lost in the naming equation. That may be a silly fear, but it's my hang-up.

I think that is a legitimate concern. My DH and I have different heritages and I have similar concerns. Since we've agreed that our children will have his last name, I'd like to find a first or middle name that honors my heritage.

Do you have any middle name ideas that would help you not feel "lost?"

[beevol]

DH and I are interethnic and making sure that our kids names reflected both of our heritages was important.

[cosmicav]

Oh Axel lol

I think your name choices are great--Miles sounds awesome, and I think it pairs well with your DS1! DH's choices are... not ideal... lol. Brexton makes me think of Braxton Hicks contractions.

Making sure your kid's name has both heritages represented is so important! I am Puerto Rican, and I remember how much I internally struggled when I changed my traditionally Hispanic last name to my husband's last name--which is a fine last name, just very 'white' (for lack of a better descriptor). I felt like I was losing my culture (which sounds so dramatic, I know!) I think it is important to have that cultural connection in your name somewhere. I really hope you guys find the right match for your family!

[MauiBliss]

I think it might be odd to put the Sanskrit male name Rohan on him, but that's just me. Adair isn't bad. Axel isn't bad, either, actually. I do like Miles and Xavier as well.

[Deleted]

I agree with PPs/ His list is bad. And, while I'm not usually a big Ronan fan, I think it could be a good compromise, maybe. Rory could be awesome too. Honestly, as a Lord of the Rings fan, I see Rohan and automatically think of the fictional country Aragorn helps save in The Two Towers.

Miles is great too, from your list.

[bromios]

I freaking LOVE Axel, and it is a legit Scandinavian name. I also love Rohan and Miles (but prefer Milo). Here are some suggestions:

Alexander

Auberon

Adrian

Eamonn

Edmund

Frederick

Faron

Godfrey

Harlan

Harold

Isaac

Justus

Lorcan

Laurence

Magnus

Mortimer

Myron

Orrin

Oren

Orion

Oscar

Ronan

Rhys

Seamus

Scott

Sirius

Theron

Torin

Torsten

Willem

[chibiyui]

Feb 21, 2015 8:09:28 GMT -5 @blackpearl08 said:

Thanks bromios. DS1's middle name is Alexander and I sometimes do wish we had saved that as a first name for a future kid. I love that name. I also like a few others from your list.

Sadly, DH is now excited about Maddox. He is so difficult!

Oh dear.

Tell him it sounds like "Mad Cocks". 

Cause, well, it kinda does.

[Bubbles]

Feb 15, 2015 19:52:31 GMT -5 @blackpearl08 said:

I really appreciate the feedback and suggestions. I will tell him that though DS1 has a surname for a first name, I don't want to make it a pattern and point him towards behindthename.

This is even more complicated because we are an interracial couple--black American and white Irish-American. I fear if he has an Irish first and last name, I get lost in the naming equation. That may be a silly fear, but it's my hang-up.

I don't think that it's a silly fear at all. I'm black, and have friends that have married interracially that ALL have had your same concern, having a half black child, with a first and last name that doesn't "represent" both backgrounds. 
I'm not a fan of your husband's list, but I do kind of like Axel. (Thanks to the sitcom, The Middle)
My vote goes to Xavier, next would be Miles and no to Rohan and all the other names on your husband's list. 

[brynnlux]

Feb 15, 2015 12:59:02 GMT -5 @blackpearl08 said:

I am 28 weeks along and we are struggling with a name for DS2. DH and I have very different tastes in names. We are looking for something uncommon, but easy to spell and pronounce. DH has found some website (babyknology) and has seriously presented a few awful names from that site to me. Two questions for this group--1) these names are not good right? 2) how do I steer him away from them without seeming like I am just stubbornly stuck on my favorites?

DH list:
Brexton
Roark
Adair
Calder
Hagan
Axel (not terrible but there's an inside joke on my BMB about this one)

As an fyi, my faves are Miles, Xavier, and Rohan. DS1 is Col.son, a derivative of Nicholas.

Brexton sounds to close to Braxton to me, and names like that are so common now. Almost everyone I went to HS school has a kid with a TON or TEN name. 

Roark isn't horrible but makes me think of Mickey Rourke. Not to mention that name is defo not bully proof. 

Adair is the least bad on this list but I think Finnick O'dair (or however its spelled), a dare (let's play truth or adair!) and stuff like that. 

Calder sounds like caldron or something that belongs on a car. 

Hagan is like Hogan or Hagar. I expect Hagan to be a dwarf living in Middle Earth. 

With Axel I also thought of Axel from those awful Leap Frog movies.

From your list I like Miles and Xavier. I wouldn't do Rohan because of LOTR, and because some people might struggle with pronunciation. I've heard some people say Row-Han, Row-anne, and Row-en. 

[brynnlux]

Feb 20, 2015 23:31:59 GMT -5 bromios said:

I freaking LOVE Axel, and it is a legit Scandinavian name. I also love Rohan and Miles (but prefer Milo). Here are some suggestions:

Alexander

Auberon

Adrian

Eamonn

Edmund

Frederick

Faron

Godfrey

Harlan

Harold

Isaac

Justus

Lorcan

Laurence

Magnus

Mortimer

Myron

Orrin

Oren

Orion

Oscar

Ronan

Rhys

Seamus

Scott

Sirius

Theron

Torin

Torsten

Willem

I love Rhys and Willem! Those are on my 'in my dreams' list because DH hates those.