H is very helpful. He brought the boxes up so I can put away the Christmas stuff, but forgot to bring the box for the tree and I think a couple of other ones. He went to his game night, and I'm going to attempt to put everything away after the kids are in bed. If I can find the motivation.
Post by dizzycooks on Jan 10, 2017 20:14:34 GMT -5
kcrkcs fb bst has been a total bust for me lately and I'm pretty over it. Also, your doc sounds special. Wtf? NellieOleson sharpies, omg no! Side note, my brother gave our dog a hair cut as a child. It was a golden retriever. It was bad... Lollipop I am sorry you're all sick. I think your h still needs to be on, sorrynotsorry mr lollipop. silverspoon we need to get in gear and sell too. Dh has been very clear recently that staying here is not on his agenda. At some point I have to respect that and move I guess. I know our house isnt perfect and more space would be nice. I'm just so lazy.... I'm feeling like I should get out the little ball pit soon. Maybe dd3 would like it. Hadn't thought of that. Also not ready to put away all the baby stuff. I should though. But are we having more babies?? Ugh.
dizzycooks somehow S is still fine. I don't get it. H was actually doing more than I did today. He made supper, and hauled some of the boxes up. I mostly sat around whining about my head hurting. After the kids are in bed (half an hour or so, can't wait), I'm going to take down the Christmas decorations and try to shower without waking anyone up.
I also really need to pack up baby stuff. I have no feels about it, aside from laziness. We are definitely done, and there's no reason to keep all of this stuff around.
E's favorite Christmas gift was her play kitchen. She loves that thing. And Sharpies? Oh no, I can imagine! MH gave E his man-cold. So now I have man-cold + sick nearly toddler. 😳
14joa31, I hope the rash clears up soon, poor sweet girl. pinktartan9, hope y'all had a good birthday despite baby feeling sick. nikiswimr, noooo that does not sound fun look forward to your week off at least! crimsonandclover, hope DD3 is better today. Lollipop, hope the kiddos don't get sick! dizzycooks, I totally understand your mood. Whenever something unexpected comes up, particularly with DH, I turn into mommy monster. (sort of) scorpioscuba, LOVE your project! Great job silverspoon, ohhh a cozy coupe sounds great, i think that will be my next purchase for DS. kcrkcs, JFC WTF is wrong with your dr?!?!?! Good lord. NellieOleson, sounds like you and YH had a wonderful evening, I hope me and MH will have one like that soon.
dizzycooks, awww I bet she loved her rainbow cake!
I've been writing DH a long ass letter explaining all this "stuff" that's been going on between us in the hopes that we can improve our relationship because it is in the gutter right now. I don't think we would be together if it weren't for the kids. I'm really sad about it and I'm trying to stay hopeful. I have more time to think about all this since he is gone for the rest of the month. DD went back to school today. We went to an open gym in the morning and to noodles and co for lunch. OMG DS was obsessed with the buttered noodles and broccoli. It was hilarious.
icequeen have you and your dd considered couples therapy? You've been incredibly stressed and dealt with a ton this past year. I know you want more kids and I really worry about how much you're taking on when your marriage is in such rough shape. Take time to get o the same page. Can you get a vacation together so you can relax and just focus on you guys?
My morning has started off with a bang. I considered getting up at five with h and having coffee and reading before the children woke. I didn't. Now they are up and I feel like I've been hit by a truck. I slept like crap last night, but dd3 was only up twice. Dh actually handled one of the wake ups successfully. Maybe there's hope that she's not a boob addict....
Post by NellieOleson on Jan 11, 2017 8:29:01 GMT -5
We are in the midst of a full on snowpocalypse here. Around a foot of snow fell last night, which is insane for our area. If we get 2" that's generally considered a good snowfall. Power is out all over the city, including our house. The power outage woke me up at 4:30 and I'm halfway freaking out about what we are going to do if its out for an extended period of time.
Of course my H is sleeping soundly and not worried about a thing.
Post by silverspoon on Jan 11, 2017 8:40:09 GMT -5
I'm feeling some type of way today.
I have a sister I've never met that lives in England. She flew over yesterday with her daughter for the first time and is meeting our dad. She's here for 10 days. I've never spoken to her or anything. I just know all of this because of my dad's wife's Facebook.
I stopped speaking to my dad after some erratic behavior on his end shortly after J was born. We've never been close anyway and after that I decided I was done. I will not be a part of the little family reunion happening.
I don't feel like I even want/need to meet her. I just feel... something I guess. Another sister that was adopted (I've met her twice briefly, but I know she has never met our dad) commented on one of the posts that she wishes they could meet, but she will be out of the state for her whole visit.
I'm comfortable with my family sort of not including my dad and everyone that comes with him (that's a terrible way of putting it, but I'm not sure what else). Just feeling some type of way.
Thanks for letting me ramble here. I have a hard time talking to H about it. He had his mom and dad and sister. I have 5 siblings that I know of from my dad and I've only met a few of them a handful of times. If he had found out at 18 about a 12 year old sister he never heard of it would have rocked his world. For me it was basically just another tidbit in the life of my dad.
Post by crimsonandclover on Jan 11, 2017 8:48:44 GMT -5
icequeen , I'm so sorry you're having such a rough time with your DH. I second looking into couple's therapy - maybe you can get a therapist recommendation from your church?
silverspoon , I don't blame you for having feels about that situation. It sounds like your dad is a complicated person. Maybe you can just FB-stalk her for a bit to see if she's the kind of person you'd like to meet eventually?
As for us, DD3 got vaxed yesterday and then got a fever last night and was miserable, waking up constantly. We finally gave her Tylenol about 10pm and she settled down after that, but this morning's nap was also very rough. I called her in sick to daycare, so yet another day delay with the adjustment period. Then just before noon preschool called and said DD1 isn't doing well and I needed to come get her. She is below the growth curve and has no body fat, so she doesn't deal well with the cold. But she looks really pale and has dark circles under her eyes (she's sleeping fine as far as I know), so I don't know what's going on. I made a dr's appointment for her for tomorrow. So tomorrow is going to be yet another day of running around with everything timed down to the second. I just need a week of doing absolutely nothing!!!
Post by NellieOleson on Jan 11, 2017 10:34:41 GMT -5
Crazy days for everyone here so far!
Dd2 and I managed to get back to sleep for a bit and just woke up. I checked the power company's outage update list and for our zip code they give 1/13/17 early morning as when the power should be back on. This can't be right, can it??! Two days without power?? It's already getting chilly in here and I can't make coffee. Also, they don't plow side streets here, so we can't drive anywhere.
I should get off here and save my phone battery for as long as possible. Of course, my H is using his phone as a white noise machine while he continues to sleep.
Post by crimsonandclover on Jan 11, 2017 10:49:05 GMT -5
NellieOleson, $10 says when his phone battery dies he asks to use yours to check something "real quick" on the internet. Seriously, though, do you guys have any non-electric heating alternatives? Fireplace? Wood-burning stove? Do you happen to have a gas oven? We sometimes had power outages in winter (I grew up in a rural area), and we would start fires in the fireplace and wood-burning stove and could still cook with the gas stove. Since it was usually really cold out, my parents would put some things from our chest freezer outside so it didn't thaw inside.
H, M, and I are all still sick. It's going to take forever for H to get better, since his holidays are over and he works in a cooler. I don't want to drag the sick baby outside for over half an hour, so I think S is going to stay home for the day. It's cold and windy here.
I got nothing done last night, M decided to wake up about an hour after I put her to bed and wouldn't go back down until 2 hours later. I seriously have to clean. M's party is Sunday.
Post by scorpioscuba on Jan 11, 2017 16:37:02 GMT -5
I'm so sorry so many of you and your littles are sick. We are holding steady here for now and I hope that keeps up!
icequeen, I hope the letter works. I'm sorry things are so rough right now. Is counseling an option?
Oh at NellieOleson, I saw a picture of the snow in OR and it's insane! I hope your power is on soon. I'd be freaking out too!
Vent away silverspoon! That's hard. While my parents are still married and my Dad isn't like yours, we did have an "OMG, I have a daughter" moment back when I was in HS. She was born when my dad was in Vietnam (between tours) and way before he met my Mom. So, yeah, that was weird. And tough to deal with at the time. I also never really felt the need to know her. Like at all. The feelings were difficult to sort through and still are.
Post by scorpioscuba on Jan 11, 2017 16:40:09 GMT -5
I've been busy working, cleaning the house a little at a time, and "training" the nanny. She is doing awesome so far and I love her. She is motivated and offers to do things I didn't even ask her to do. She picked up DS from school today and is handling his homework and doing some fun science experiments. He's happy, which for him and his babysitter aversion is like a miracle! DD did great with her yesterday. DD goes to my sisters on Wednesdays and had her own fun playdate with some of my sisters friends kids today. But I can't wait to go pick her up. Even if she woke me up at 4am this morning to party. I swear, sleep, or lack thereof, will be the death of me.
Post by NellieOleson on Jan 11, 2017 20:11:48 GMT -5
We have power!
It was out for the first part of the day, then came on for an hour, then was off for another few hours, but is back now. We aren't supposed to get much more snow, so hopefully the power outages are over. I know some people who haven't had any power all day and still don't, though.
crimsonandclover - We have a fireplace, but don't really have any wood for it because we never use it. It makes the house a little smoky and it drove me crazy when dd1 was tiny and then when I was pregnant with dd2. We have a gas furnace, but it requires electricity to power the fan. Luckily since we got a break from the power being out, it never got too cold in here.
kelltothekell - oh no! Your poor dd. I hope you guys are home soon. How did you know to take her to the hospital?
We had a great bday party! Unfortunately, dd got a terrible stomach bug and became severely dehydrated with mild renal failure. We are in the hospital and tonight will be our second night. She is doing very well though and almost feeling back to herself. Only one episode of vomiting / diarrhea today. She needed iv fluids. Never would have guessed that a stomach bug would land us in the hospital.
OMG how scary!!! I'm glad she is doing better and it sounds like you caught it quick. Poor baby girl. I hope you are holding up too. It's so overwhelming.
silverspoon I haven't had your same family experiences but you feel however you need to feel. It is valid to have all the thoughts and feelings in this situation. And always feel free to vent it here. To everyone that's sick... I hope you and your peanuts all are better soon. Glad you got power back Nellie. This winter weather has really been something this year. And..... it's only just begun. 😳😵
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