Post by scorpioscuba on Jan 11, 2017 20:49:12 GMT -5
We went to Target this afternoon to do some returns and get a few groceries. We are in an aisle picking out jelly for PB&J sandwiches. I ask DS " would you like raspberry, strawberry or grape jelly for your sandwiches?" Before he can respond, an old bitchy lady walks by and says to me "that's your first mistake. You should just tell him what he is gonna eat." 😡😡😡 I was nicer than I should have been and very snidely told her that my son makes good choices, I value his opinion and thank you but no thank you for your "help". Ugh. I wanted to say a lot more but I bit my tongue.
Thank you ladies so much for your heartfelt concern and suggestions. I have definitely brought up counseling numerous times and we have gone together a little over a year ago. We only went once because DH was still in training out of state. We had multiple family sessions while I was in treatment but we didn't really get to the bottom of our marital issues, we mainly just discussed my issues. Now without a doubt I feel that he needs to be in counseling either by himself or preferably with me. The problem is that he works SO MUCH and is gone half the time. I know that the time he does have at home he wants to spend relaxing at home with family. I definitely want to have more kids but now it seems that he is pulling away from that. I am crushed. I know he is hurting and I do not want to be selfish and only think about my wants. We did text and talk a little today and we can have a good conversation. I want so badly to have hope.
Post by crimsonandclover on Jan 12, 2017 5:00:55 GMT -5
NellieOleson, if your fireplace is smoking into your house you might want to contact a chimney sweep and have them look at it. That shouldn't happen if your flue is working properly. I'm glad your power is back on, though!
kelltothekell, how scary! I'm glad your DD is doing better now!
icequeen, hugs. Even if what your DH most wants to do is relax at home with the family, I'd say that getting counseling to save your marriage is more important than another hour or two of relaxation. I get that it's hard to schedule, though.
I'm exhausted down to the bone right now. All the sicknesses and then running around to dr's appointments plus normal stuff like grocery shopping, laundry, cooking, and then DD3's adjustment period are really getting to me. The good news is that today I brought DD3, handed her over to the teacher, then sat in the coatroom for 2 hours reading while DD3 played. She was a little fussy at times, but the teachers handled it well and we're definitely making progress. And when we were getting ready to leave and "her" teacher was standing right next to me, she actually leaned out and reached to go into her arms from mine! After a few seconds she regretted her decision and wanted back, but still - progress!
crimsonandclover I'm glad it's going well for dd3 despite the setbacks with sickness. I'm sure your dd3 is a doll and will do very well! Two hours of reading sounds great, but I would just sit there thinking about all the things I *should* be doing. scorpioscuba your dd is so cute! I love when they start to notice the pets. My dd3 loves our dog. I can't say it's a mutual relationship.
Two hours of reading sounds great, but I would just sit there thinking about all the things I *should* be doing.
So much this. I mean, I was reading for the continuing ed course I'm doing so it wasn't just for fun, but still. At home I could be reading those chapters *and* have a laundry load in the washer and dryer *and* do a load of dishes *and* do some prepping for lunch.
Post by silverspoon on Jan 12, 2017 12:12:04 GMT -5
kelltothekell Poor little kell. I hope she feels better soon and you guys can go home.
icequeen I definitely agree that counseling is going to be more valuable in the long run. I can see how it could be so hard though with how often he is gone to make steady progress in counseling. I hope you guys can get a plan together.
scorpioscuba That lady would be on the end of a major bitch look from me. WTF old lady. Why do people feel the need to interject? Your little girl and the cat is adorable.
scorpioscuba we had a lady (not that old, maybe my mom's age) do that in the cereal aisle. We let S pick his cereal and this random came up saying that we should really check the box, because some of the "healthy" cereal has more sugar than the "kids" cereal. I was like, yeah we know. And then let S get corn pops lol. She side eyed hard. Judgy cow.
My BFF came over today, and she drove S (and M and I) to his school for drop off, then we went to get coffee and came back and she helped me clean my house. We got so much done, despite clingy babies who wanted constant attention. Now I'm making a super late supper.
scorpioscuba, DS and our dog are so adorable together too. DS actually said "doggie" last week! Animals and babies are the best. kelltothekell, I'm glad you guys are home and hopefully YH can kick the bug soon. NellieOleson, so relieved you have power, I would have been panicking for sure. crimsonandclover, awww I bet DD3 is going to do wonderfully! I am praying for you guys to get and stay healthy. silverspoon, I hope J gets into a better mood soon. That must be rough Lollipop, your BFF is such a great help, glad you have her.
icequeen she's the best. She actually likes cleaning LOL she was really excited to help. She wanted to organize my DVD SET by series, category, and alphabetized, but we didn't have time.
S is being a pain a out eating supper. He's only doing it because if he doesn't he's going to bed without a story.
Today was frustrating. We went to the store in the morning and then we were going to go to story time but the library parking lot was completely jammed with cars. So we had to go right to CFA for lunch and had to kill 1+ hour before DD's preschool. Then my sister called and said she didn't need a ride to the airport after all so I had to change my afternoon plans. When we came home from preschool DS has fallen asleep and DD was about to have quiet time so I thought I could get a nap in, but DH texted that he wanted to skype. Arrgghhh! Of course by the time we were done DS woke up. My mom and sis came over later so I thought the kids would be distracted, but big fat nope on that one. I'll sleep when I'm dead, I guess. Lol! Can't complain too much, though, because the babies really are the loves of my life.
Post by scorpioscuba on Jan 12, 2017 23:03:53 GMT -5
Guise! There is hope! H came home from school tonight and he put his keys and other pocket junk in the drop zone bowl in my new mock mudroom AND he hung up has jacket on the new hooks in the laundry room. Which means there is not a trail of his shit from the door leading to the kitchen as per usual. And I didn't have to nag.
Hmmmm...now that I think about it....what does he want!?
Post by scorpioscuba on Jan 12, 2017 23:06:23 GMT -5
silverspoon is J teething? I have found than whenever DD is a drama queen/upset about everything it's usually due to her teeth. I threw some ibuprofen at her this morning after a rough couple hours and the rest of the day was good.
silverspoon is J teething? I have found than whenever DD is a drama queen/upset about everything it's usually due to her teeth. I threw some ibuprofen at her this morning after a rough couple hours and the rest of the day was good.
Yep, if DD3 is a fussy, whiny mess for no apparent reason and if it lasts for longer than a couple of hours (or at least long enough for me to want to lose my mind and there's no naptime in sight) then I try some Tylenol. If it helps I figure it's teething.
Post by sjames2015 on Jan 13, 2017 12:00:32 GMT -5
kelltothekell I am very glad you caught it early and are home. icequeen One of my NYR is to do couples therapy along with singles at least for me. H and I are like a giant roller coaster. We have great days and we have crappy days with a few ok thrown in there. But the crappy days are really crappy. I know that it'll help us as a couple and I'm hoping it'll help me understand more about myself. I get very frustrated very easily these days. silverspoon we are in the same crying and attitude boat. She just got a cold but it's more than a stuffy nose. She isn't happy no matter what. Holding her, changing positions, setting her down. Nothing is working. Tylenol and Motrin haven't made much of a difference. I need a do over morning and it's not even 10am. H is working nights and is getting home and to bed around 530am. Today DD1 woke up crying as he was coming to bed. I knew it was a bad idea for him to go in but he didn't listen to me. So it woke her up more to see him and she ended up in bed with me. As soon as she or DD2 wake up I have to get up so they don't wake him. So no waking up for me it's just up and run out of the room. DD2 is sick and is up 4-6 times a night with 2-4 of those times I bring her to my bed because I just can't deal. And when she's asleep she's not in a deep sleep because she's having a hard time breathing through the snot. After dealing with normal morning crabbiness I found out that DD1 already lost some Legos to her Sofia castle, 1 day, and then she broke the elevator to her brand new doll house. Plus all the Barbie shoes that are everywhere that were supposed to stay away from DD2. TLDR: I'm having a bad morning and need a do over. Wine or coffee won't fix it.
We have a panel of baby gate leaning against the fire place, and with the boxes of Christmas stuff sitting in front of it, it keeps trying to fall down. So instead of leaning in toward the fireplace, it's leaning out toward the boxes. M keeps trying to push it back in, and the crying when it won't stay. I'm trying hard not to laugh.
Post by silverspoon on Jan 13, 2017 12:59:55 GMT -5
He might be teething. He has quite the set of chompers at this point. He's actually bit both me and H on the shoulder and it HURT. Neither one of really knew what do to when he did that and we both took the same action without realizing it. We both just set him down and walked away from him.
My sweet easy baby has disappeared again and in her place I have a fussy, demanding, unsatisfiable, tiny dictator. This pointing thing is the source of our trouble. She knows what she wants. Often it's something she can't have. And she expects when she points I will hup to and produce. At least half the time I have no idea what she wants. 😵
M was so tired she was stumbling around like a tiny drunk, so as soon as she was done eating I put her to bed. That was 10 minutes ago, and she was silent when I left, now she's up there crying.
S had a rough day. He was talking in class (he says it was an accident because someone was talking to him so he had to answer)so he missed 5 minutes of recess. And then he found out that his best friend at school is moving to a new school. He's so sad. I explained to him that his friend was still going to live close enough that we could get them together, and I think it made him feel a bit better.
In other news I think I just bought my kid her first pony. 😬
H's aunt bought a pony for the kids last year. H and I were taking bets on how long it would be before his cousin bought her daughter a pony of her very own. I thought it would be sooner, but they ended up waiting until after their new house is built.
In other news I think I just bought my kid her first pony. 😬
H's aunt bought a pony for the kids last year. H and I were taking bets on how long it would be before his cousin bought her daughter a pony of her very own. I thought it would be sooner, but they ended up waiting until after their new house is built.
I mean I know it's crazy to buy my, not even 1yr old a pony, but I can use him for the biz until she is ready and ponies like this one don't come along every day.
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