Post by marygracerich on Jan 12, 2017 10:42:27 GMT -5
I am parked outside the library waiting for it to open. There is a church across the street from the library. There must be a funeral or something today because there is a bagpiper playing outside of the church. UO: I like bagpipe music.
Post by lgsdesigner on Jan 12, 2017 10:52:47 GMT -5
honda13 - Most men do, but what if you have a boy and he never reproduces? The name stops anyway. I have two gay brothers that don't want kids, so our name ends and it's just the way it is.
smilesp, I see what you're saying. I think a lot of it has to do with how society views traditional male/female roles. We have come a long way, but in some aspects we still have a long way to go. A lot of men long to have a son so they can teach him things and carry on the family name. However, it doesn't mean they can only teach those things to their sons and women can carry on names now too. If the situation was reversed and I was surrounded by males, I would have feelings about that as well. It wouldn't make me a different parent and I would love my children the same. I think it's only natural to have feelings about what will never be.
Try to have examples of your experience to pull from for a question, so if they ask something about working as an individual and in a collaborative environment, have examples of when you excelled at both. "I completed XYZ with my team which resulted in ABC. I was responsible for blah blah, and met these 3 requirements of the job I'm applying for."
When I worked in Career Development at my college, we recommended pinning back hair if it has a tendency to fall in your face so you don't figet with it. This was during the swoop bangs trend though, so may not apply now.
Guys!! It's interview day!! I feel pretty prepared, but also feel not prepared enough. I havent interviewed in 4 years!! I leave work in an hour to run home and change and then get on the road to head to the interview. Cross everything you have for me! And feel free to send over any advice you have! AHHHHHH!!
lgsdesigner, very true! If we were to have a boy, there is no guarantee. Maybe a boy wouldn't want to play sports, change the oil in the car, or hunt (all traditional males things).
I think it's different too, when it's a second+ child or possibly the last.
I'd ideally like to have at least one of each sex because I think there can be different types of relationships with a mother and daughter or mother and son.
Like I understand a sense of missing out on something, while also being excited about another girl or whatever.
linny12, I agree. MH is set that we are done and two. That brings different feelings than a first child. I'd be open to a third, but if he doesn't want three then I'm happy being done.
emu0013, thanks! We are going to need a house with more bathrooms for sure now! I wanted to ask you since you camped with baby. I'm worried about MOTN crying, do you think it bothers other campers or am I just worrying for no reason.
emu0013 , thanks! We are going to need a house with more bathrooms for sure now! I wanted to ask you since you camped with baby. I'm worried about MOTN crying, do you think it bothers other campers or am I just worrying for no reason.
lol, yes you do! Don't worry at all! We have never had a problem and honestly, we do try now that we have kids to do the campgrounds that have a "family" section, so we aren't in with all the "partier's" and we also do large sites, so you aren't super close to your neighbor. When we went last September DD was a HANDFUL and not listening very well and on our one trip to the potty I said to our neighbors, so sorry if she disturbed you this morning and they said, oh lol we didn't even hear her! I wouldn't worry at all!
linny12, I agree. MH is set that we are done and two. That brings different feelings than a first child. I'd be open to a third, but if he doesn't want three then I'm happy being done.
My husband was dead set on 2. Fast forward 4 years and now he has 3.
Never say never.
I feel you on the name thing. We had a horrible time coming up with a second girl name. Thank goodness ds was a boy. There's no way we could have come up to with a third girl name.
Guise, baby #2 is a girl. MH is sad, but he won't talk about and she will probably never have a name because we can't agree on another girl name.
Congrats! I would love a boy when we have #2 since I'd love one of each but I always longed for a sister so I try to remember that when I think about potentially having another girl some day.
hotcoconuts82, we both agreed the door was slightly cracked on three. I think it's a little more open at this point and we agreed not to do anything permanent (Vasectomy, etc) until we 100% sure our family is complete. In a couple years I'm sure we will reassess, but at this point he says we are done.
I think it's different too, when it's a second+ child or possibly the last.
I'd ideally like to have at least one of each sex because I think there can be different types of relationships with a mother and daughter or mother and son.
Like I understand a sense of missing out on something, while also being excited about another girl or whatever.
It is so true about having different relationships. I think there is a kind of a mourning period when you were hoping to have a certain relationship and then it doesn't happen. I don't think it means you love your child(Ren) any less.
Guys!! It's interview day!! I feel pretty prepared, but also feel not prepared enough. I havent interviewed in 4 years!! I leave work in an hour to run home and change and then get on the road to head to the interview. Cross everything you have for me! And feel free to send over any advice you have! AHHHHHH!!
emu0013 , thanks! We are going to need a house with more bathrooms for sure now! I wanted to ask you since you camped with baby. I'm worried about MOTN crying, do you think it bothers other campers or am I just worrying for no reason.
lol, yes you do! Don't worry at all! We have never had a problem and honestly, we do try now that we have kids to do the campgrounds that have a "family" section, so we aren't in with all the "partier's" and we also do large sites, so you aren't super close to your neighbor. When we went last September DD was a HANDFUL and not listening very well and on our one trip to the potty I said to our neighbors, so sorry if she disturbed you this morning and they said, oh lol we didn't even hear her! I wouldn't worry at all!
Our plan is to sell our house in a couple years. We have thought about building, but that seems stressful.
Most places we go are very kid friendly and with large lots. I drive by places like the campground in Tawas on the main stretch and it makes me want to cry seeing how close together the sites are. I could never camp there, that's closer than my neighbor at home.
K is feeling better, she threw up Tuesday from about 4:30-11 and was up all night but fine all day yesterday. I am crossing my fingers that DD and I don't get it, especially since DH is traveling next week and I have to head into Cleveland for a training. I saw my doctor this morning and he thinks I have a pinched nerve in my neck. K was sitting at the counter and put her feet up and was kicking it and I knew was kicking her chair over and I went to run over and slipped and fell. Ugh.
lol, yes you do! Don't worry at all! We have never had a problem and honestly, we do try now that we have kids to do the campgrounds that have a "family" section, so we aren't in with all the "partier's" and we also do large sites, so you aren't super close to your neighbor. When we went last September DD was a HANDFUL and not listening very well and on our one trip to the potty I said to our neighbors, so sorry if she disturbed you this morning and they said, oh lol we didn't even hear her! I wouldn't worry at all!
Our plan is to sell our house in a couple years. We have thought about building, but that seems stressful.
Most places we go are very kid friendly and with large lots. I drive by places like the campground in Tawas on the main stretch and it makes me want to cry seeing how close together the sites are. I could never camp there, that's closer than my neighbor at home.
We built our house in NH and never again! It went really smoothly it was just so many decisions and everything you wanted was more $$. We bought a new construction in OH that had just been finished and I don't think I would ever build again!
Post by hotcoconuts82 on Jan 12, 2017 12:27:06 GMT -5
Is everyone still using a high chair? I'm thinking of moving ds to a booster at the table. I like having him(and his mess) contained in the high chair, but he figured out how to take the tray off. Grrrr
Is everyone still using a high chair? I'm thinking of moving ds to a booster at the table. I like having him(and his mess) contained in the high chair, but he figured out how to take the tray off. Grrrr
We didn't use a high chair for K, I love the boosters that strap onto the chairs, and I also love the EZ Plates, that stick to the table/counter.
Is everyone still using a high chair? I'm thinking of moving ds to a booster at the table. I like having him(and his mess) contained in the high chair, but he figured out how to take the tray off. Grrrr
We switched to a booster and packed away the high chair. She is much happier this way and she is still strapped in so I am happy.
Maybe this is an UO but I have...feelings about parents who have negative reactions to the sex of their children.
ETA I guess it's more of a confession.
Can I ask why? This is not a negative question I am merely curious.
I guess it's because most of the reasons people would have a preference for a boy or girl are because of stereotypical sex roles. Like a man wanting a boy so they can work on cars together or a woman wanting a girl so she can buy her dresses. Your child's sex isn't going to determine their personality or the kind of relationship you as a parent will have with them. MIL has two sons and she has lamented not having a daughter in front of and to DH many times. It hurts him and it makes me mad. Basically she "adopted" a former student of hers as a daughter and treats her like her own child. Obviously, there is a lot to this story but the bottom line is that I believe the type of relationship you foster with your child matters much more than whatever preconceived notions about what that relationship should be because of the child's sex.
I would get really annoyed when I would tell people we were having a boy and they would say things like, "are you disappointed?" Or "I bet your husband is happy". I don't feel like I'm missing out on anything by not having a daughter.
honda13 I don't want you to think I was attacking you or your DH. You just reminded me of these feelings I have.
Post by flyinghorses6 on Jan 12, 2017 13:15:17 GMT -5
honda13 congrats on a baby girl!! I'm expecting our second girl and DH was definitely disappointed. I cried after the anatomy scan because I was upset that he was mad or I let him down or something along those lines. Now I'm so happy I am having two girls! And he is getting excited too. I know when he meets her it will be just like K. He will melt. I love that they will be less than 2 years apart, and I have dreams of them being super close, and dressing them the same.
We also had naming trouble, but finally agreed. He is also upset his last name won't be carried on.
So basically same exact situation!
I agree with @lgdesigner that this is what was meant to be for us. I think something that has helped DH is that K is super athletic already (not saying that she will even play sports), but she's a rough and tumble, high energy girl. He has realized that he is going to have just as much fun with her growing up, as his friends with sons have. (If not more).
Post by marygracerich on Jan 12, 2017 13:20:00 GMT -5
smilesp fair enough. Life experience gives you feelings about people's reactions to the sex of their baby. Makes sense. I must be too breezy about things. I don't care how people react to the news of their baby's sex as long as they treat their child like they would no matter the sex and for the most part I think they do. In your situation it would only bother me if your MIL said to YH "I wish you were a girl" vs "I wish I had a girl too." I think they are to very different statements. She feels she missed out on what it would be like to have a daughter. I think many people would feel the same way. It doesn't mean she doesn't love the children she has any less.
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