FFFC It's been a while..

[cagoldi]

Jan 13, 2017 16:00:15 GMT -5 guster said:

ladystrat, I think I talked about it on the board before, but I delivered at a "baby friendly" hospital, and it was horrible. Mothers who are exhausted and, possibly,in pain and then told that they are not doing the best for their child if they choose formula. What a horrible situation for some.

This.

I KNOW that I was trying to squish a square peg in a round hole with BF and it absolutely contributed to my PPD.

I also know I am a better mom because I FF. Not better than those who BF, just better than I would be if I were BF.

[cagoldi]

Jan 13, 2017 13:44:50 GMT -5 klongoria11 said:

cagoldi, I hope they don't upset his stomach!

I don't think there is enough dairy to bother him. I'm not happy about it, but meh, it doesn't present an ethical problem since he and his teachers didn't know and we didn't buy it, obviously.

I suspect the nuggets would make him sick, but thankfully he didn't have any. He does have nuggets that look identical, but somehow he knew he wasn't supposed to eat these ones. Maybe his teachers explained? I don't know.

[slenle]

Jan 13, 2017 14:31:05 GMT -5 trtlcrzy said:

This might catch a couple flames

I have been leaving S in the car during preschool drop off/pick up this week. I leave my car running so it's warm and I can see my car the entire time I'm inside. But it's so much easier to not have to get her out of the car seat, bring her in, set her down while I'm getting H's stuff put away and then have to buckle her back in.

No flames here. I did that with H this morning. It's freezing, and it's a pain in the butt to lug his car seat in and out for a quick drop off. 

When I'm doing drop off/pick up for both kids, I always leave the car running, unlocked and my purse is usually sitting on the front seat. Oops. 

I've also been terrible at locking my car lately when I go in to the store. I always put my keys in my pocket and by the time I get both kids out of the car, it's too much work to find my keys again to lock it. 

[klongoria11]

Jan 13, 2017 16:13:59 GMT -5 cagoldi said:

Jan 13, 2017 13:44:50 GMT -5 klongoria11 said:

cagoldi , I hope they don't upset his stomach!

I don't think there is enough dairy to bother him. I'm not happy about it, but meh, it doesn't present an ethical problem since he and his teachers didn't know and we didn't buy it, obviously.

I suspect the nuggets would make him sick, but thankfully he didn't have any. He does have nuggets that look identical, but somehow he knew he wasn't supposed to eat these ones. Maybe his teachers explained? I don't know.

I was just thinking about the grease factor! Your family always eats so healthy, so to throw something like that randomly into his system would be scary.

[mamabear13]

I never even thought about BF DD to be neimg a different experience. That's a bit scary. With L the first month was rough, but after that we were good. Then around 7 months I started supplementing BC I couldn't pump enough, and then only nursed at home from 10-14 mmnths. At the time I was sad I didn't make it to a year solely on breastmilk, but maybe that means I'll be able to roll with it a bit better for #2.

That said, whatever other mothers choose to do is their business!

Side note: I was always too self conscious to BF in public. Or even around my inlaws. But I expect this time around it'll be more go with the flow with a preschooler , and i'm already feeling liberated by it lol

[trtlcrzy]

Jan 13, 2017 15:12:15 GMT -5 wedding said:

Nope to leaving a kid unattended in a car. Maybe it's regional but I am clutching my pearls a bit.

ETA: car jacking, kid getting loose and getting hurt, kidnapping. My anxiety can't handle that.

Well, I don't think my 10 month old is going to unbuckle her carseat and get loose.

[kim22]

Am I the only one who was side-eyed for breast feeding? None of my friends IRL do it, I was a total freak.

[cagoldi]

Jan 13, 2017 16:36:25 GMT -5 klongoria11 said:

Jan 13, 2017 16:13:59 GMT -5 cagoldi said:

I don't think there is enough dairy to bother him. I'm not happy about it, but meh, it doesn't present an ethical problem since he and his teachers didn't know and we didn't buy it, obviously.

I suspect the nuggets would make him sick, but thankfully he didn't have any. He does have nuggets that look identical, but somehow he knew he wasn't supposed to eat these ones. Maybe his teachers explained? I don't know.

I was just thinking about the grease factor! Your family always eats so healthy, so to throw something like that randomly into his system would be scary.

Well, see previous comment amount French fries. : )

But if you go a long time without eating meat it often makes you sick, apparently. That's happened with Pete and my mom and a lot of friends.

[cagoldi]

Jan 13, 2017 17:38:21 GMT -5 kim22 said:

Am I the only one who was side-eyed for breast feeding? None of my friends IRL do it, I was a total freak.

I don't think I've ever known anyone who side-eyes BF except my MIL.

[wineallthetime]

Jan 13, 2017 16:10:42 GMT -5 cagoldi said:

Jan 13, 2017 16:00:15 GMT -5 guster said:

ladystrat, I think I talked about it on the board before, but I delivered at a "baby friendly" hospital, and it was horrible. Mothers who are exhausted and, possibly,in pain and then told that they are not doing the best for their child if they choose formula. What a horrible situation for some.

This.

I KNOW that I was trying to squish a square peg in a round hole with BF and it absolutely contributed to my PPD.

I also know I am a better mom because I FF. Not better than those who BF, just better than I would be if I were BF.

This. I'm a way better mom FF. Do I wish BF had worked out? Yes. Mostly for the cost savings though, not the bonding aspect. I feel plenty bonded snuggling up with my baby and a bottle.

[wineallthetime]

Jan 13, 2017 17:38:21 GMT -5 kim22 said:

Am I the only one who was side-eyed for breast feeding? None of my friends IRL do it, I was a total freak.

My mom 100% side eyed me when I started out breastfeeding both kids. She didn't get why I'd even try. When C wasn't gaining weight she was very much all, "well obviously, you're breastfeeding"

[wineallthetime]

I live in a relatively safe area and often think about how nice it'd be to leave my kids in the car and run into the store or whatever, I just couldn't do it. Even if I can see them the whole time. Once I did it when I went up to the ATM 10 feet away and I was freaked out the whole time.

[wineallthetime]

Jan 13, 2017 18:37:46 GMT -5 ladystrat said:

Jan 13, 2017 18:12:21 GMT -5 wineallthetime said:

My mom 100% side eyed me when I started out breastfeeding both kids. She didn't get why I'd even try. When C wasn't gaining weight she was very much all, "well obviously, you're breastfeeding"

My mother has made similar comments about B not growing much and it must surely be my milk supply. Those comments have ceased as B has turned into a chunky monkey. She's so chubby she has knee dimples. FFFC: After those implications about my fabulous supply, I really AM proud that it's just me packing the weight on her.

I would be proud too! C ended up really struggling and we switched to formula and he CHUNKED UP. L has been on formula since a couple weeks old and she is a very lean baby. Girl can eat too!

[tallblonde]

Jan 13, 2017 17:38:21 GMT -5 kim22 said:

Am I the only one who was side-eyed for breast feeding? None of my friends IRL do it, I was a total freak.

I'd be side eyed on my family if I FF. 2 of my aunts were le leche league leaders and I think my sister and I were breastfed for years.

Last time I was a bit of a martyr about it and was tied down to nursing J to sleep for a year, and was scared to leave him or go out at night. I'm trying to take the pressure off this time and be open to formula to supplement. I do love BF, but don't want it to rule my life.

[yummeecookee]

My fffc is that I went to the tanning salon TWICE before our cruise last month. I didn't tell anyone- not even mh bc I know ppl get all up in arms about tanning beds.

[wineallthetime]

Jan 13, 2017 20:11:24 GMT -5 yummeecookee said:

My fffc is that I went to the tanning salon TWICE before our cruise last month. I didn't tell anyone- not even mh bc I know ppl get all up in arms about tanning beds.

I'm anti tanning salon, HOWEVER, I went a few times before my Nov wedding and a couple times before winter vacations. I get you, and no flamming from me for that.

[wineallthetime]

Confession. Sort of? Not sure this counts cause I assume people agree (). I'm shocked at the amount of people who smoke pot around their kids. If you're doing it without the kid around and have someone watching your kid, than have at it.

Prompted by my sister saying she was feeling queasy so she's moking pot. So I'm sure her husband is too.

[Cherhorowitz]

Jan 13, 2017 18:01:02 GMT -5 snoopmommymom said:

Jan 13, 2017 13:53:35 GMT -5 Cherhorowitz said:

I would honestly side eye extended breastfeeding before I would side eye choosing to formula feed.

What age would extended breastfeeding be?

I don't know an exact age. I definitely think there comes a point where it's no longer about child receiving nutrients and more about the mom waving the "normalize breastfeeding/breast is best/extended breastfeeding" flag. Then I side eye.

[Cherhorowitz]

I have left my kid in the car while he's sleeping in my driveway to run in and grab a drink or change my clothes and run back out. There's a camera in my driveway and it's never more than 5 min but that's my comfort line with that sort of situation.

I'm not going to leave him in the car while I run in somewhere else. I don't think it's a rural/safety thing. I feel much safer living outside a major city. There are always witnesses and Good Samaritans. Being somewhere where no one is around or it's quiet, just makes me think no one would be there if something happened.

[cagoldi]

I used to go to tanning beds. 34 year-old me hates 21 year-old me for that.

I think my mom was kinda sanctimommy about BF and co-sleeping, SAH, extended BF, etc. I know she used to not get PPD at all. She thought it was just moms that didn't enjoy being a mom. She changed her tune really fast when she saw how much I struggled with depression and BF after A was born. I never got any negative comments. I think it took someone she knows having that kind of experience for her to understand.

And I was definitely sanctimommy about BF while I was pregnant. Like it never even crossed my mind I wouldn't be able to BF. I had a lot of inflexible ideas about how things would go and that didn't help matters.

[tallblonde]

cagoldi I never realized how much I took for granted how easy bf came to me until I saw how many people had struggled here, and lots of friends in real life. If things had gone differently for me I definitely would have had some trouble accepting that reality. The Lcs at the hospital even stressed me out a bit and she was doing great, so I'm sure that's amplified if things aren't going great.

My hospital said it's now family friendly rather than baby friendly hospital. So I think it weighs needs of the mom with the baby, which I liked.. Especially when I sent N to the nursery both nights so I could sleep!

[tallblonde]

Jan 13, 2017 20:11:24 GMT -5 yummeecookee said:

My fffc is that I went to the tanning salon TWICE before our cruise last month. I didn't tell anyone- not even mh bc I know ppl get all up in arms about tanning beds.

Spray tans or tanning lotion!! Tsk tsk (I went in college a few times before I knew how bad they were. Now am strictly a faux tanner since I am a high risk for melanoma recurrence).

[wineallthetime]

Jan 14, 2017 18:58:56 GMT -5 vinolove said:

Tanning beds and weed, you say....ahh my 20's are all coming back to me. God I miss them.

Lol, right!? That and sutter home white zin (ew).

[wineallthetime]

Do we need a "things you did in college/your early 20's thread"?

[73jewels]

I have a feeling I might get flamed for this one. For the past 5- 6 weeks I've been letting B sleep on his stomach. IT's the only way I can get long stretches from him. When it started I would let him fall asleep that way then transfer him to his back, but after a while i stopped transferring him. It's the only way he gets any quality sleep.

[klongoria11]

Jan 14, 2017 19:59:05 GMT -5 guster said:

Jan 14, 2017 19:28:30 GMT -5 wineallthetime said:

Lol, right!? That and sutter home white zin (ew).

I was going to add in a couple of Zimas (bonus points if you put a jolly rancher inside of it)

Ahhh Zima, my first alcoholic drink. If you don't count my  accidental sips of my dad's rum and coke when I was little.

[cagoldi]

73jewels he's rolling into his stomach himself, right?

No flames from me. If he can get into that position I think he's okay to sleep that way.

[73jewels]

Jan 14, 2017 23:18:16 GMT -5 cagoldi said:

73jewels he's rolling into his stomach himself, right?

No flames from me. If he can get into that position I think he's okay to sleep that way.

No. I put him down that way. He accidentally rolled onto his stomach while I was swaddling him months ago and he passed right out. Since then he's fallen asleep a few times during tummy time. I tried it one night in desperation and it worked so I went with it.

[wineallthetime]

Jan 14, 2017 22:51:14 GMT -5 @peachsmama said:

Jan 14, 2017 20:12:34 GMT -5 wineallthetime said:

Do we need a "things you did in college/your early 20's thread"?

What if you're still in your early 20s?.. *ducks head*

Aren't you mid twenties by now??

[wineallthetime]

I'd say that's mid 20's! You're still so young though!