2's and 3's checkin

[TJ]

Ok. Hope I'm doing this ok for now. And if anyone wants to take over, have at it.

First things first, who goes here? Kids age(s)?

Any specific things you all want to discuss?

QOTW: how are your 2's and 3's doing with meal time? Do they eat? Do they use utensils? Are they picky? Are they messy? What is their fave food? Will they try new things?

[TJ]

Feb 1, 2017 18:03:03 GMT -5 TJ said:

Ok. Hope I'm doing this ok for now. And if anyone wants to take over, have at it.

First things first, who goes here? Kids age(s)?


P is 2.5
Any specific things you all want to discuss?
. Bed types and bedtime?


QOTW: how are your 2's and 3's doing with meal time? Do they eat? Do they use utensils? Are they picky? Are they messy? What is their fave food? Will they try new things?
P is a great eater. She uses a fork and spoon well. She likes most foods. Her favorites are yogurt and tomatoes (not together.) She is hesitant to try new things, but usually ends up trying and liking. Our biggest issues are being sooooo slow and always wanting a snack, not a meal. It's honestly semantics. If I ask if she wants lunch, she screams no, a snack. If I offer her a pbj with tomatoes, goldfish, a cheese stick, and a banana as a "snack" she will happily eat the whole thing. Stinker.

[kaf7]

Feb 1, 2017 18:03:03 GMT -5 TJ said:

Ok. Hope I'm doing this ok for now. And if anyone wants to take over, have at it. Thanks TJ

First things first, who goes here? Kids age(s)? S1 is 3y for another month. 

Any specific things you all want to discuss? ...

QOTW: how are your 2's and 3's doing with meal time? Do they eat? Do they use utensils? Are they picky? Are they messy? What is their fave food? Will they try new things? He eats well with few true dislikes. He doesn't like casserole type meals though, which I love. He is capable of using utensils but prefers not to and as a result is very messy. Utensil use is an ongoing source of frustration for me. I wish I had made a point of insisting when he was much younger. Fave food....he loves most things. But probably his go to is pb&j. He will try new things but is less likely to like them as he gets older. 

[mnj05]

Thanks TJ!

H is 3 for one more month, G will be 2 in July so they're both on the edge of this one.

I don't have any specific topics to discuss right now. I'm sure that will change.

QOTW - H loves to use utensils, even if the meal doesn't require any. He's clean for the most part, he doesn't like food dropping on him. He's become picky, but I make him try one bite of everything.

ETA - favorite food is chicken with French fries and ketchup. He could eat that all day everyday.

[karabear4409]

Thank you TJ!

DS1 will be 3 in March

He goes to bed at 7:30. Bed time is the longest production ever. It seems like if we do something one damn time, it then becomes part of his bed time routine. DH also still rocks him every night...so... We probably don't do bed time right. What's up TJ?

He has become a very stereotypical picky toddler. He won't eat a single vegetable. Literally none. And if he could, he would eat chicken nuggets or grilled cheese for every meal. He does love most fruit. He is still obsessed with purée pouches, which I find weird. But, I continue to buy them because at least he's getting in some vegetables that way. He's also a snacker, which I regret allowing. He walks around with a snack 90% of the day. I want to start enforcing a asset snack time at the table, but I don't know how to do that at this point.

[richzep]

DS is 3.

Potty training. Am I supposed to start? I'm finding it so overwhelming and I don't even think DS wants to get out of diapers. And it's easier for me to have him in diapers anyway so I'm not pushing it. But I have to. I just don't know how.

And no. He doesn't eat. Like anything. Food is a major problem. He wants milk and water all day long. Meal time with him sucks.

[olenka]

My daughter is a couple months from turning 3.

Her main thing right now is some social anxiety with her peers at DC. She has been freezing up if someone takes a toy she is using, so we are working on her advocating for herself. Also hopefully more individual playdates but I have social anxiety too so it's challenging to initiate, haha. Anyone been in the same boat?

Mealtime...She is a pro with utensils and pretty neat. Variety of foods, though...Yeah not so much. Carbs, cheese and fruits are pretty much her diet. She did try peas and corn recently and didn't hate em, so that's something I guess.

[kaf7]

Feb 2, 2017 7:54:13 GMT -5 karabear4409 said:

Thank you TJ !

DS1 will be 3 in March

He goes to bed at 7:30. Bed time is the longest production ever. It seems like if we do something one damn time, it then becomes part of his bed time routine. DH also still rocks him every night...so... We probably don't do bed time right. What's up TJ ?

He has become a very stereotypical picky toddler. He won't eat a single vegetable. Literally none. And if he could, he would eat chicken nuggets or grilled cheese for every meal. He does love most fruit. He is still obsessed with purée pouches, which I find weird. But, I continue to buy them because at least he's getting in some vegetables that way. He's also a snacker, which I regret allowing. He walks around with a snack 90% of the day. I want to start enforcing a asset snack time at the table, but I don't know how to do that at this point.

Pick a morning and an afternoon snack time. Only give snacks at that time. If he gets up from the table take the snack away. If he asks for something between give him water or say let's play. You need all caregivers on board. My friend introduced veggie dinner once a week. They only eat veggies that meal. She explained that's what Anna and Elsa do on Tues nights. Pick your Ss fave character to do the same. Worth a try.

I will write more about bedtime when I get a chance. ETA: do you want to change bedtime? If it works for you great...if not, I have some thoughts. 

[karabear4409]

Thanks kaf7. That's all really great advice on the food. I don't necessarily think we NEED to change bedtime, because it is currently working, but I do think it will eventually have to be simplified. I would love to hear your thoughts!

[luvboston]

richzep if he's not ready and you don't care why waste everyone's energy now?
DS1 is going to be a living hell to pt so he can stay in diapers as long as possible!

[kaf7]

Feb 2, 2017 20:18:43 GMT -5 karabear4409 said:

Thanks kaf7 . That's all really great advice on the food. I don't necessarily think we NEED to change bedtime, because it is currently working, but I do think it will eventually have to be simplified. I would love to hear your thoughts!

Well our bedtime routine also expands and I try to cut little things out one by one. Or substitute in shorter things. I am not sure I am that helpful there. I am currently trying to use the rule of we have a certain amount of time before I leave the room and how we spend that time is up to him (within reason) but at the end of that time I go. So if he wants 5 books instead of 4  then we might not cuddle for as long once the lights are out for example. 

If you want to change how he gets to sleep you'll probably need to do something gradual like first of all hold him but not rock. Then once that's ok, sit beside the bed instead of holdimg him, and then every few nights move a chair further from his bed until you are eventually out of his room and sight line when he falls asleep. He's going to have to learn to soothe himself to sleep rather than rely on the motion of rocking. And that takes time to learn. Any times he gets out of bed you don't engage in conversation and return him to bed. I suspect you will run into other stalling tactics so if that happens remind me to explain the golden ticket system. But if what you're doing now is working then keep at it. I'm one to do things as long as they are and then change them if they aren't. 

[mnj05]

karabear4409 - DS1 will be 4 March 1, and I still rock him. It's gone from 10 minutes to now 2-5 minutes, but I love it. Usually we talk about his day, and sometimes play a little, but it calms him down. He asks every night. I have no intentions on dropping that until he does.

[richzep]

Feb 2, 2017 20:24:34 GMT -5 luvboston said:

richzep if he's not ready and you don't care why waste everyone's energy now?
DS1 is going to be a living hell to pt so he can stay in diapers as long as possible!

I have no idea why im stressing about it. I don't even know if he's ready and I don't care. Diapers it is.