mommyatty, no one is humoring you! Find some confidence, lady. You're awesome.
Also congrats on the tubal. How's it going with your H staying home?
The staying home thing is going pretty well. Our house is a lot neater. And there's a lot less stress. But now DH is freaking out about 2 in private school. Also, he isn't spending any more time with the kids. His mom is still pretty much full time day care.
Something unexpected is that DH has taken over all the cooking. He's learned to make stuff other than Kraft Mac and Cheese and spaghetti.
traveltheworld - sounds like my final interview for the job I have now. Spoiler alert: I got the job, lol.
Went to talk with the firm today. It was a little odd and I don't feel good about it. We had a great conversation. I asked questions he seemed impressed with. I know the firm quite well. But at the end, he said he needed to talk to people in the firm who practice my kind of law to see if I would be additive or duplicative since coming in from an in house job is just a different beast from coming from another firm. So it seems the folks who do my kind of law want me (I think) but the office where I want to work is dubious about the business case. Now I'm monkey-braining wondering if they were just blowing sunshine up my skirt because I'm a client and they don't want to piss me off.
I'm never getting out of my hell hole.
Have you talked to the other people at that firm that practice in your area? Does the group have a large enough practice that you can just step in and start work? Or are they expecting you to come up with your own business plan and bring in clients as well?
In any event, I don't think they are blowing sunshine up your skirt and would have you go through the process just because you are a client - it would have been equally easy to just tell you that they are not looking to expand that department right now. They might genuinely just need more time/information to consider the scenario and work it out internally. Law firms are surprisingly slow in getting their sh*t together when hiring senior people.
Oh, I have a funny update. Remember Puzzlegate/Cribgate 2016 - which ended in my FIL/SMIL taking their precious puzzle home in the crib box? The crib the FIL "wasn't really interested" in helping my H assemble?
So, flash back to 3week PP with DD1. SMIL came to stay with me for 5 full days when my H returned to work (She and FIL were also here the few days we came home from the hospital). She cooked all of our meals, cleaned for us, helped me learn how to get out of the house with the baby, and was just a huge support to my anxious new-mom self.
Anyway, FIL and SMIL haven't visited yet. No hard feelings. Second babies don't present the same urgency, our toddler was sick, they had colds, SMIL has a big work conference, whatever.
But SMIL offered to come again for a week. I don't NEED help this time, but would love her company. Maybe she can help me prep freezer meals for when I return to work.
Anyway, she suggested FIL come too. WTF. My H is working. What will FIL do all day. Plus, he is crazy uncomfortable with breastfeeding which, is basically the only thing I do ALL day. And I will not tiptoe around him about it.
SMIL suggested that while my H is at work, FIL... Could do little house projects.
We go through similar things at least 1-2x per week with DD1. I don't have any advice, as we clearly haven't figured things out yet, but I just wanted to let you know that you're not alone.
judyblume14 - I'm cracking up at FIL just being around. My Dad was as you describe - to the point that I was nursing DS and he came in the back door and promptly spun around, getting caught in the screen door and fell backwards onto the patio.
I had a few moments where I went into the other room to breastfeed- open doorway but couldn't be seen, and FIL would wander in and want to proclaim how cute the baby was. Um dude go back to the room you were in and give us 10 min. I mean everything was covered but I left for a reason.
Well this is interesting. I just got an email from a recruiter about an in house job. In two hours, I've sent my resume, gotten a request to screen with the recruiter next week and a copy of the job description, and now am firming up a time to talk. Huh. Also, they request experience in two areas that are not at all related, and it just so happens I practiced in one for about 5 years and in the other for 8.
Now we just have to see if they would be in my pay range.
Post by librarychica on Feb 3, 2017 19:07:59 GMT -5
Welp, my day went downhill fast. My mom spanked my kid, we had words, dad "talked her down" and we agreed that until she feels she can handle DD1 without spanking they will not be spending time over there. Deep breath.
Post by librarychica on Feb 4, 2017 11:37:51 GMT -5
I'm less angry about the spanking and more angry about her inability to admit fault. DD1 has been a terror and I can see defaulting to old habits when overwhelmed. When I reminded her we agreed on no spanking she said "that doesn't even sound like something I would say!" Well, you did.
Post by somebabiesmom on Feb 6, 2017 9:26:31 GMT -5
librarychica, we dealt with this when my dad spanked DS. They ended up cutting their visit short and leaving over it. But expectations and consequences were definitely set and we haven't had issues or - dare I say it one week before another visit - hard feelings since.
P.S. Day 30 of Whole30. If only the H had not lost his mojo to cook after the first week, maybe I would be happier that we did this.
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