I finally found the "start new thread" on tapatalk. It's at the bottom of the page- not in the three dots. For months I just thought an update made it go away.
I finally found the "start new thread" on tapatalk. It's at the bottom of the page- not in the three dots. For months I just thought an update made it go away.
I clearly don't try to start enough threads. Did not know this was a thing that changed.
In Carrie underwoods song I thought it was saying "all the 8 tracks in the world won't clean your dirty clothes" sang it this way until my husband pointed out that it's Ajax, you know laundry detergent, because I'm an idiot.
I recently bought the most granny of granny panties ever. They come all the way up to my belly button and they are gloriously comfortable. No slipping down, no cutting across my gut, not visible under dresses. So i'm a proud wearer of hideous granny undies.
I recently bought the most granny of granny panties ever. They come all the way up to my belly button and they are gloriously comfortable. No slipping down, no cutting across my gut, not visible under dresses. So i'm a proud wearer of hideous granny undies.
I think i have a buyer for my jogging stroller and bucket seat. I'm probably going to cry after she leaves with them. I'm not an overly sentimental person but i'm really struggling to let those things go
I recently bought the most granny of granny panties ever. They come all the way up to my belly button and they are gloriously comfortable. No slipping down, no cutting across my gut, not visible under dresses. So i'm a proud wearer of hideous granny undies.
I did this when I needed to accept I wear a different size, so comfy plus you get a few in a pack rather than just a pair of panties. I'm not sure I'd go back to my old ones even if I did lose some weight.
yes, i gave up on my old ones too and threw out a load that don't fit. And i love getting 5 in a pack for really cheap.
Post by rainbowsockmonkey on Feb 3, 2017 10:31:46 GMT -5
Dh and I did a target run yesterday with the girls. Dd2 slept on the way there and some of the way back, and we got home right at naptime. We both needed a nap, so I fed dd2 a bottle and then put her in her crib with some toys. I knew she would sleep, but would play mostly quiet while I did.
Horrible Mom FC: I've gotten sick of the constant whining or not wanting to do anything. So I attempt to comfort her and then if she doesn't change or stop I just leave her and walk away. This is at bedtime and other times. Like this morning when she wouldn't brush her teeth. Her go to is to cry or whine, not say no it's just whining, and then she goes to the floor and rolls around. Sometimes she just hits or pats herself too. I don't always have time for that. I probably should just comfort her, but I don't see that working.
So all of mine have to do with being a bad, selfish mom (high mom guilt this morning):
I have no desire to PT DS right now. He has no interest, I don't want to clean up after him and I am lazy.
DS hasn't had a bath since Sunday.
I always hear parents say that all the sleepless nights, tantrums, etc. are "all worth it." I'm still waiting to feel this way.
I don't think these are selfish. I can relate to all but the last one. We're working full time and it's not easy. I think you should cut yourself some slack. You're not necessarily lazy, your days are already packed and adding more stuff to do is overwhelming.
My H has recently been throwing a fit right along next to the toddler when the toddler throws a fit. The toddler thinks it's hilarious and starts laughing. #mature
Horrible Mom FC: I've gotten sick of the constant whining or not wanting to do anything. So I attempt to comfort her and then if she doesn't change or stop I just leave her and walk away. This is at bedtime and other times. Like this morning when she wouldn't brush her teeth. Her go to is to cry or whine, not say no it's just whining, and then she goes to the floor and rolls around. Sometimes she just hits or pats herself too. I don't always have time for that. I probably should just comfort her, but I don't see that working.
Nah, these almost 3 year olds are manipulative. Dd does a really annoying cry whine, totally makes herself do it, when she's not getting what she wants. I usually do the feelings talk if I think she's actually hurt about something, then I'm serious with her, then I walk away and ignore if it continues. Skip the feelings talk if I know she's just trying to get her way. My motto now is "firm but gentle," as in I make the rules, but don't lose it and yell at her haha.
Bedtime is the best example. Every night since holiday travel I get, "I don't wanna go to bed... I don't want to get in my crib...I don't wanna stay here...I will be all alone...I will be little bit scared." At first I tried to talk through the being scared, etc. and she'd throw a fit when I left, and even last week would try things like yelling "mommy mommmy mommmmmy mommmmmmmyy" until I came back. Now I've stopped going back, and when I'm putting her to bed and she objects I just say this your bed, this is where you sleep, it IS bedtime and that's not a choice, etc. She's stopped pushing it so much.
We give choices too, like you can sit here and cry, or you can choose to have a little fun and play with daddy before bed - the longer you cry the less time to play. You can put your pajamas on, or we can just put you in the crib right now and say goodnight.
So all of mine have to do with being a bad, selfish mom (high mom guilt this morning):
I have no desire to PT DS right now. He has no interest, I don't want to clean up after him and I am lazy.
DS hasn't had a bath since Sunday.
I always hear parents say that all the sleepless nights, tantrums, etc. are "all worth it." I'm still waiting to feel this way.
I don't think these are selfish. I can relate to all but the last one. We're working full time and it's not easy. I think you should cut yourself some slack. You're not necessarily lazy, your days are already packed and adding more stuff to do is overwhelming.
Thanks. The last one makes me feel the worst. I absolutely love DS and would never let anything happen to him but cleaning up puke at midnight and missing Christmas is not "worth it," at least to me.
My H has recently been throwing a fit right along next to the toddler when the toddler throws a fit. The toddler thinks it's hilarious and starts laughing. #mature
+ whatever to walking away from whining. I also tell him i don't want to play with him anymore if he's not playing nicely with me. I'm not raising an asshole, that behaviour is not tolerated.
We also cracked down on using time outs for not listening after he's been told not to do something
My H has recently been throwing a fit right along next to the toddler when the toddler throws a fit. The toddler thinks it's hilarious and starts laughing. #mature
I've done that too.
So have we.
I'll initially try to console DS or try to talk to him about what he's feeling but sometimes he's inconsolable over nothing so I just walk away. I usually tell him that he needs to calm down and when he's ready to talk to me about what's wrong or he's ready to play, let me know. We've also used the "you can enjoy your last few minutes before bed playing or you can whine about going to bed" phrase too.
lrmrtn, it's so hard to see the worth at this stage, especially when you have a particularly defiant or highly emotional kid. Sometimes i think the people that spew out the rainbows and overdo the it's so worth its are really trying to make themselves believe it as much as you.
I napped while the baby napped the other day, even though dd was awake. Not really a confession because sometimes a mama's gotta do what a mama's gotta do, and dd was firmly planted on the other couch.
I used a baby wipe for me.
Baths are a challenge here. The only reason the kids have had 2 so far this week is because I needed to feel like we were clear of pukefest 2017.
Post by rainbowsockmonkey on Feb 3, 2017 11:16:26 GMT -5
comicSans, No shame for doing what you need to do. I rested this morning (lightly slept) on the couch while both kids are playing/watching tv. I just closed off the doors to the dining room and kitchen and put on PBS.
comicSans, DH and I have both napped on the couch while DS was awake. He was watching MMCH and playing by himself and barely noticed. He'd wake me up when he needed something.
Getting in enough baths has always been a challenge for us. DS loves them but we have such limited time during the week and are always exhausted. And DS is usually happily involved in something else so we don't want to interrupt that.
emmagk, What brand are these glorious granny panties?
lrmrtn, I'm in no mood to PT J. H doesn't want to help with it at all. He doesn't ask if J needs to go and just lets him piss his pants and sit in his piss. J has no desire to use the toilet and doesn't care if he's wet.
I've decided to embrace my fat self and get rid of all my clothes that are too small because it depresses me every time I open my closet. I am going to try to start eating healthier and exercise more but not "diet". DH pointed out to me that I am miserable when I diet and he'd rather me be at my current weight and happier than dieting and miserable.
emmagk , What brand are these glorious granny panties?
lrmrtn , I'm in no mood to PT J. H doesn't want to help with it at all. He doesn't ask if J needs to go and just lets him piss his pants and sit in his piss. J has no desire to use the toilet and doesn't care if he's wet.
Mine are Marks & Spencer. Which is a good old british brand, but I'm sure you can get something similar from Fruit of the Loom
I've decided to embrace my fat self and get rid of all my clothes that are too small because it depresses me every time I open my closet. I am going to try to start eating healthier and exercise more but not "diet". DH pointed out to me that I am miserable when I diet and he'd rather me be at my current weight and happier than dieting and miserable.
Yes! Buying clothes that are the correct size and flatter your body will make you feel so much better about yourself. I did that last year and now when i open my closet i love everything in there and it makes getting dressed so much easier in the morning.
emmagk , What brand are these glorious granny panties?
lrmrtn , I'm in no mood to PT J. H doesn't want to help with it at all. He doesn't ask if J needs to go and just lets him piss his pants and sit in his piss. J has no desire to use the toilet and doesn't care if he's wet.
Mine are Marks & Spencer. Which is a good old british brand, but I'm sure you can get something similar from Fruit of the Loom
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