Bradley is still sleeping (:frantically knocks on wood:) and Caroline is being her usual sweet, mellow self, so I'm enjoying my coffee in peace and quiet.
DH is due in this evening, so I want to get the house in decent shape, and then take the kids out to the park or something. It's too pretty to be inside today.
Post by wineallthetime on Feb 3, 2017 8:57:11 GMT -5
Good morning! Bit of a rough night over here. Taking L to the dr later today to rule out an ear infection. I don't THINK she has one, but want to be sure.
Also trying to decide if L would do ok sitting in the stroller while I go to my boot camp class after her appointment. A huge part of me is saying no, but I may try it and see how it goes. I can always leave if needed.
I think I have the stomach bug for the 3rd freaking time since Christmas. Add in the flu I had earlier in the week and it has been a great month for me! I am at work and debating if I should just go home or should I stay here through my 11am mtg. Also I really want a donut.
If you have a stomach bug, you go home. Those spread quickly.
Ah, finally Friday. Mh and I had a fight last night because I feel overwhelmed and like I do everything and I'm constantly on my feet once I get home, there is no downtime for me until C falls asleep and by then I'm exhausted and just go to bed myself. Clearly, it didn't mean anything to him because he still went bowling, early, which is what started the fight to begin with. So I'm going to send him a blank week chart for him to write in everything he does and i will do the same, that way he can have a visual, because clearly he thinks I'm just shooting off at the mouth.
I didn't get to talk to my Dad yesterday. he texted me in the afternoon to let me know his phone was about to be out of power and he didn't have a charger. He did say he was feeling better though.
My cat woke me up at 5:40, then Cadence woke up a minute to 2 later to come to my bed, so I had an early morning. Now I'm at work and my coworker friend is out sick, and we will be canceling our Saturday evening plans at Pinot Palette. I'm pretty bummed. I may go to a movie by myself instead.
LizInFL I'm a little jealous of your mellow baby. I'm mean dd (and ds) is my world and more than that she's sweet and cute and feisty and exhausting. I'm really not the mom I want to be sometimes with her and I feel so incredibly guilty about that. And now and crying at work, good thing I'm pumping so I have a minute to regain myself. Sorry for the dd.
Me too. C is a total drama king - very difficult baby and has developed into a demanding toddler. Maybe it's my parenting? Hugs and tears w you Nam!
Post by yummeecookee on Feb 3, 2017 9:25:54 GMT -5
My day started out kind of crap. A new hire, that was supposed to start next week, left me a VM to say he accepted another offer. I know it's business and all is fair. I just feel aggravated having put so much time into the recruitment and now having to start back to square 1.
Sunny41, I hope you are not getting the bug again. That stomach bug is awful!!!
klongoria11, glad your dad seems to be doing better. Sorry about the fight w YH. Hoping the visual will help him to see things more clearly and carry his share of the load.
yummeecookee, he said he would start doing her laundry. All I could think was, well that will just be more work for me because I'll have to 1. show you how to do that and 2. RE-fold anything you fold. No thank you! Plus, it is 1 load every Saturday or Sunday...not helpful. I need help on weeknights when I've been up since the crack of dawn, worked all day, and come home to take care of crazy toddler.
Morning! We are meeting friends at the same place we went to last Friday morning. More kids are coming this time, and I learned that it's best to wear S instead of putting her in the stroller so hopefully it goes well. Not sure what else we will do today.
klongoria11 sorry your H isn't listening to you and helping out. I hope he pulls his head out of his ass and gets with the program.
LizInFL I'm a little jealous of your mellow baby. I'm mean dd (and ds) is my world and more than that she's sweet and cute and feisty and exhausting. I'm really not the mom I want to be sometimes with her and I feel so incredibly guilty about that. And now and crying at work, good thing I'm pumping so I have a minute to regain myself. Sorry for the dd.
Aww, I'm sorry, I didn't mean to make you cry! I
My mom always says, Fatigue makes cowards of us all, and it's so true...everything looks worse when you're tired. You're a terrific mom so don't beat yourself up. I always feel like you have a remarkably upbeat, patient attitude about your DD's sleeping habits (or lack thereof )
And trust me, even having an 'easy baby' in C, I still feel like she gets short shrift and I'm not as engaged or focused as I was with Bradley. We joke that she's just pathetically grateful to get whatever crumbs of attention we can throw her way in between attending to B and his constantly updated list of demands. I feel guilty that I'm not as present with her and that I'm probably screwing her up somehow. Basically I think guilt as a parent is unavoidable.
Post by klongoria11 on Feb 3, 2017 10:06:20 GMT -5
@peachsmama, sorry for commenting on that FB post, but seriously, why do people think you can only help 1 set of people? Why not try to help as many as you can?
N moved to her big girl bed shortly after her 2nd birthday and we've always been lucky that she would stay in it when she woke up until we came and got her. Well, the last 2 night and yesterday at nap she kept coming out of her room and downstairs trying to stall. And DH said he woke up at 6 am to her standing next to his side of the bed. lol. We were lucky to get away with it for so long, but dang, I am not looking forward to this being the new normal.
Then she asked if she could go downstairs and play so DH turned on the lights for her and she went down. I went down later to check on her and she had pulled out her matching game and was playing on the living room floor. All before 7am. Crazy girl.
slenle B has also just recently gotten brave enough to come out of his room MOTN or in the mornings. He's come into my room a couple times this week and just climbed into bed like he owns the place, lol. I'm not sure if he's pushing his luck b/c DH is out of town, or what. He's been sick so I've allowed it, but DNW to make a habit out of it!
Post by lahdeedah88 on Feb 3, 2017 10:45:18 GMT -5
Morning!
nam2013 I do think you are a great mom and I know despite how tired you are, you would go to the ends of the earth for your kiddos. There's a light at the end of the tunnel mama. I keep telling myself that this part isn't forever, and someday I'll have time to focus on me and other things I feel like I'm failing at in this moment of my life.
Post by lahdeedah88 on Feb 3, 2017 10:57:11 GMT -5
TGIF, indeed. It's been a long work week for me and today is my day off. I'm not planning to do much, but relax. I have 274648493756 things I COULD be doing, but your girl needs some rest. MH took M to school this morning so I didn't even have to get out the bed. I'm starting to get hungry though, so I should probably head to the kitchen and feed my face.
@peachsmama, sorry for commenting on that FB post, but seriously, why do people think you can only help 1 set of people? Why not try to help as many as you can?
These people are the worst.
I always encounter them when discussing animal issues, too. "Why don't you care about people?!" As if they're mutually exclusive.
Every ARA I know is involved with human rights issues as well. Every last one does volunteering at homeless shelters, DV shelters, homeless outreach, etc.
When you ask what they're doing to help vulnerable humans, they suddenly become nihilists and admit they don't care about anybody. No shit, thanks for admitting to being disingenuous, asshole.
You can bet the exact same thing is true of people who ask "why don't we take care of our own?"
@peachsmama , sorry for commenting on that FB post, but seriously, why do people think you can only help 1 set of people? Why not try to help as many as you can?
These people are the worst.
I always encounter them when discussing animal issues, too. "Why don't you care about people?!" As if they're mutually exclusive.
Every ARA I know is involved with human rights issues as well. Every last one does volunteering at homeless shelters, DV shelters, homeless outreach, etc.
When you ask what they're doing to help vulnerable humans, they suddenly become nihilists and admit they don't care about anybody. No shit, thanks for admitting to being disingenuous, asshole.
You can bet the exact same thing is true of people who ask "why don't we take care of our own?"
Right, this guy isn't talking about his own time and money, just the government's. Don't use federal money to help, use it to build some godforsaken wall!
Post by margaerytyrell on Feb 3, 2017 11:21:48 GMT -5
Sunny41 thanks for noticing me the other day! 😉 I tried to sneak in. I'm just real busy with work and try to check in when I can.
@nam you're doing a great job! Evie is a high maintenance baby too. This shit is hard!!
I'm expecting a call from daycare soon. The infant room has had three babies get a stomach bug. The main rooms have had a case of strep, flu, and now two stomach bugs in there too. I fear we are in for a rough weekend
Hi all! Chase woke up around 4:25 this morning and seemed fine, just WIRED. I rocked him for a bit, but that didn't help, so we tried to let him sort himself out. No luck, so DH took over around 5 so I could run. He got him back down before 5:30 but I'm sure he's exhausted today. DH too.
nam2013 - You are an incredible Mom and your total adoration for your kids comes through everyday. I'd guess time away from it and not understanding what motherhood is like in the 21st century is probably behind your Mom's comments. No worries though, in the N13 compound, we all get it.
Today's has been and will continue to be a busy one for me, and all I want to do is take a nap and sit on the couch H got a much needed haircut, a run to the grocery store, I've got brownies in the oven to bring to our superbowl potluck at work, and laundry running. I have to pick C up from school at 3 to get her to gymnastics this afternoon, and then a target run either during (if she doesn't freak out that I'm leaving) or after with her. Ahh, not enough time in my day for a nap
I think H needs a sleep intervention because he was up AGAIN last night from 3:30am on and never fell back asleep. I don't know how he is still awake right now. I've put him on the couch with Umizoomi in hopes that he'll fall asleep, it's not looking good as he's pretty invested in answering all their questions.
Same old over here, B has taken to coming into our bed at night out of habit now, instead of really needing us. When we ask him why he says, 'Cause I want to'. Wrong answer kid, I'm getting the Gro clock today and we are making a point if taking him back to his bed. No more musical beds at night, it's getting annoying.
Julia has her first cold and wants only me all the time. Honestly I don't mind, she's sick and my last baby so I'll take all the snuggles.
This is J too. We started the clock 2 days ago.. Yesterday he got out of bed 10 min before and I went in and laid in his bed until it turned green. Today he got up 30 min before but went back until it turned green. He's been asking for me to sleep in his bed with him now, so that's not ideal.. hope it works for B! And J feels better soon.
nam2013, we all have our moments where we feel like we aren't living up to our mom-potentials, but you're kids are fed, dressed, housed, and LOVED. So, I'd say you're doing pretty awesome.
@sing2phins, Nice to see you again! I'm sorry to hear about your loss and I hope things start looking up soon.
Lilac26 3:30am!!! Not cool H! Hopefully he snaps out of this phase soon, it must be a long day for you.
I got some interrupted sleep through it but, I'm exhausted today especially coming off a night shift. I swear he does this when he knows I'm desperate for a good night's sleep
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