Mondayness

[emmagk]

What's up?

[emmagk]

DS went to school un underwear this morning. Good luck daycare! We did pretty much nothing this weekend, H took DS swimming saturday morning then other than grocery shopping we didn't go anywhere. I pulled DS little slide out of the basement yesterday afternoon and i think he's used it more then he ever used it outside in the back yard.

I have to go meet clients on site today, it's the first time i've been onsite in years. I'm wearing my nice grey sweater dress since my fancy business dress did't fit, i bought it right before getting KU and i was 20lbs lighter then.

[Susan0utLoud]

They were talking a bit of snow in the forecast but I didn't really pay attention since they get it wrong every time. Except this time. It freaking snowed and work is closed.

[emmagk]

Feb 6, 2017 9:32:01 GMT -5 Susan0utLoud said:

They were talking a bit of snow in the forecast but I didn't really pay attention since they get it wrong every time. Except this time. It freaking snowed and work is closed.

we're supposed to get a big storm starting tomorrow evening. 2 of my developers are supposed to fly back from Montreal tomorrow evening, guess who's getting stranded! I told them to pack some overnight stuff

[lrmrtn]

Soccer was a disaster on Saturday so we decided to skip the next session. I'm going to wait and see if I hear about anymore issues with DS at DC before I discuss it with the pedi. I'm hoping he's just on the stubborn end of the "normal" spectrum for toddler behavior but if not, I want to address it asap.

Besides soccer, we didn't do much the rest of the weekend. DH watched DS Saturday afternoon so I could get a break since DS was so frustrating. I did some shopping but nothing too exciting.

[rainbowsockmonkey]

Dd1 woke up with a fever of 101.3. She is currently laying on the couch watching curious George .

[scotty138]

Both boys are cutting teeth and today is DH'S first day back at work since vacation. Today is such a Monday. This is tooth #8 for DS2 though, so maybe we'll get a break from teething soon. Vacation is just what we needed and I feel like we hit a reset button.

[meggypoo1]

Saturday I had an OB appointment. She wants me to go in for one more ultrasound. I am excited to see T but that means I have to use some time that I would otherwise use for my unpaid leave. We then went grocery shopping. Clara was in a mood but seemed better after nap.
Sunday we just cleaned, cooked and watched the super bowl. That game! Wow.

[athn64]

Didn't do a lot this weekend. Stayed home Saturday after our play date got canceled. And we did church and Superbowl watching yesterday.

No big plans for the week. We'll see how it all goes.

[becole]

Feb 6, 2017 9:43:21 GMT -5 lrmrtn said:

Soccer was a disaster on Saturday so we decided to skip the next session. I'm going to wait and see if I hear about anymore issues with DS at DC before I discuss it with the pedi. I'm hoping he's just on the stubborn end of the "normal" spectrum for toddler behavior but if not, I want to address it asap.

Besides soccer, we didn't do much the rest of the weekend. DH watched DS Saturday afternoon so I could get a break since DS was so frustrating. I did some shopping but nothing too exciting.

What age is soccer? DS was in gymnastics but his class was for 2-3 yos. He was barely 2 when we did it and there were almost 4 yos (and girls) who had been doing it for a year or two and were used to listening and paying attention. DS did okay with it but if his cousin ran off, he followed. And his cousin is 6 months older than him. I hate to be sexist but the girls listened and followed instructions so much better. The boys thought it was hilarious to just do whatever they wanted. It was more work for me just trying to keep him focused and doing the task so I pulled him.

[emmagk]

becole, lrmrtn, We've had similar experiences with DS in swimming. He loves going but very rarely will follow instruction and do what the teacher wants us to to do. I still take him because he loves the pool and i think swimming is important but I've just about given up on doing the back and front floats and the actual instructions. He's also usually the loudest there and talks over the instructor all the time

In all the structured activities we've done, it's always the girls that are better behaved and the boys doing their own thing and being loud. I hate generalizing like that but it has been a consistent trend I've noticed.

[lrmrtn]

Feb 6, 2017 10:44:48 GMT -5 becole said:

Feb 6, 2017 9:43:21 GMT -5 lrmrtn said:

Soccer was a disaster on Saturday so we decided to skip the next session. I'm going to wait and see if I hear about anymore issues with DS at DC before I discuss it with the pedi. I'm hoping he's just on the stubborn end of the "normal" spectrum for toddler behavior but if not, I want to address it asap.

Besides soccer, we didn't do much the rest of the weekend. DH watched DS Saturday afternoon so I could get a break since DS was so frustrating. I did some shopping but nothing too exciting.

What age is soccer? DS was in gymnastics but his class was for 2-3 yos. He was barely 2 when we did it and there were almost 4 yos (and girls) who had been doing it for a year or two and were used to listening and paying attention. DS did okay with it but if his cousin ran off, he followed. And his cousin is 6 months older than him. I hate to be sexist but the girls listened and followed instructions so much better. The boys thought it was hilarious to just do whatever they wanted. It was more work for me just trying to keep him focused and doing the task so I pulled him.

This.  The class was for 2 year olds so DS is actually at the older end of the spectrum. I agree with you that generally the girls were much better at paying attention than the boys. For most of the session, DS didn't stand out.  A lot of kids were running off, not following along, etc.  But on Saturday, it was really noticeable. For example, by the end of the class, everyone was following along, except for DS, who was sitting alone in a corner, refusing to participate.  That, coupled with the DC report of him hitting, spitting, not listening, etc. makes me concerned.  But I have no frame of reference to know if he's just more stubborn but still "normal" or it needs to be addressed.  I'll see how DC goes this week.  The sessions are only 5 weeks so I'm thinking we won't sign up for this session but maybe we'll do it next month.  What is interesting is that DS is generally pretty well behaved when he's just with us or other adults.  He has his toddler moments, but he generally listens and doesn't act out at home or with my mom or if we're in a store or restaurant. It's only in groups of other kids his age.

[becole]

lrmrtn. If he was being aggressive or something in soccer, I might be concerned. But just not listening doesn't concern me at this age. That's par for the course with my son. He's worse with me than at school though. He also exhibits shyness at new events or activities and sometimes won't participate (like at a birthday party.). Ask daycare if they think his behavior is typical of others in the class or if he stands out as extreme. I know in DS class, the teacher will tell me "he was hitting today" but when I ask follow ups, it's "well all the kids are having trouble keeping hands to themselves right now" or "the boys have all decided they're super heroes this week and keep fighting".

[lrmrtn]

becole, I asked at DC last week if they thought his behavior was exceptional and the teacher just said some act out more than others. I probably need to talk to the director to get a better answer though. She is usually pretty good about calling me if something is going on so since I haven't heard from her yet, it's probably not too exceptional. I'll see how this week goes and then maybe give her a call.

[bliz1712]

My boss is leaving in about an hour for the rest of the week....YAY!!!

Eliza did great over the weekend with PT. We had a funeral Saturday morning and a bball tournament from 12-4 on Sunday. We had one accident, but I'm blaming it on H. He left with the kids from bball and Eliza fell asleep in the car. She didn't stay asleep when he transferred her to bed and then never asked her if she had to go when she woke up. About 20 minutes later she had a wet pair of underwear. Overall I think we are done with diapers. And she actually fights me to put them on at night. So we are just going to do pull ups, she seems to like them better or at least doesn't fight for them.

Saturday was a great day with H. We went shopping for our trip together and had a lot of good discussions in the car. And note to everyone, don't go swimsuit shopping after stuffing your face at Texas Roadhouse. It was very depressing. I'll probably return the suit but I wanted to buy it and try it on when I wasn't feeling like a sausage.

[comicSans]

In my day....we started soccer in first grade, so 7 or 6 for youngsters like myself.

We expect a lot more of toddlers (and parents) now. Activities are good if the kids are enjoying them and they aren't a burden on you, but I think we need to cut ourselves and our kids some slack sometimes.

[lrmrtn]

Feb 6, 2017 11:51:14 GMT -5 comicSans said:

In my day....we started soccer in first grade, so 7 or 6 for youngsters like myself.

We expect a lot more of toddlers (and parents) now. Activities are good if the kids are enjoying them and they aren't a burden on you, but I think we need to cut ourselves and our kids some slack sometimes.

Which is exactly why we're skipping the next session. I didn't expect DS to be the next David Beckham. I just thought it'd be fun for him and a good way to get out of the house in the winter. Since towards the end it just became a stressful experience, maybe he's not ready for it. I'm probably overreacting but he was the only one not participating so it really stood out to me.

[becole]

Feb 6, 2017 11:51:14 GMT -5 comicSans said:

In my day....we started soccer in first grade, so 7 or 6 for youngsters like myself.

We expect a lot more of toddlers (and parents) now. Activities are good if the kids are enjoying them and they aren't a burden on you, but I think we need to cut ourselves and our kids some slack sometimes.

Open gym is great for 2-3 where he can go do what he wants, but not the class. Especially since he has to "listen" all day at school, it just wasn't worth it. He's got a whole life ahead of extracurriculars. I don't know why I even tried.

[lrmrtn]

Feb 6, 2017 12:13:03 GMT -5 becole said:

Feb 6, 2017 11:51:14 GMT -5 comicSans said:

In my day....we started soccer in first grade, so 7 or 6 for youngsters like myself.

We expect a lot more of toddlers (and parents) now. Activities are good if the kids are enjoying them and they aren't a burden on you, but I think we need to cut ourselves and our kids some slack sometimes.

Open gym is great for 2-3 where he can go do what he wants, but not the class. Especially since he has to "listen" all day at school, it just wasn't worth it. He's got a whole life ahead of extracurriculars. I don't know why I even tried.

I wish we had that option.  To go to open gym at the My Gyms here, you have to be a member and enroll in a class.  If soccer class was just running around kicking soccer balls, DS would love it. 

[comicSans]

Weekend was good. Just family time and chill time.

Today has been frustrating. We've been doing some sleep training for ds and I thought it was going pretty well. Last night wasn't great and he pooped in the middle of the night so that ruined cio with checkins for that wakeup. This morning was a disaster. He screamed for 15 - 20 minutes, then woke up after 30 mins, seconds after I got dd in the bathtub. He clearly hadn't slept enough but just screamed until I picked him up and he proceeded to be miserable for a while. I'm thankful every day that dd is so easy.

[Susan0utLoud]

Feb 6, 2017 11:51:14 GMT -5 comicSans said:

In my day....we started soccer in first grade, so 7 or 6 for youngsters like myself.

We expect a lot more of toddlers (and parents) now. Activities are good if the kids are enjoying them and they aren't a burden on you, but I think we need to cut ourselves and our kids some slack sometimes.

I some times feel bad that ds isn't in any classes or sports or anything like that when I hear all of you talking about them. But I know him well enough to know that he's not ready yet. He's been on the back end of development all along.

[microworm]

We were/are all sick so the weekend was pretty awful. Just took the boys in to the Pedi and they both have double ear infections. That explains a lot.

I'd ask for you all to send wine but I still feel like hell.

[jennyinheaven]

We had a pretty low key weekend. Saturday I took DD to my friend's house in the city. She has a four year old daughter so the girls played while we sat on her couch and chatted. It was freezing out so we ordered a pizza and just stayed in her house. It was nice and low key. Sunday we went out to breakfast then just hung around the house until we went to our friends house to watch super bowl and eat all thd junk.

[lulu]

lrmrtn I agree with becole. If it's just not listening or following instruction that's the issue, I think that's pretty standard. The hitting at DC is pretty normal too for that age....my kids have never been hitters but I'm never really too bothered if the nursery staff tell me they were hit or bitten at nursery...these things happen amongst toddlers.

My nephew from hell however still behaves like this aged 6. He doesn't listen, speaks over adults/teachers, is violent to his brother and classmates, sits alone refusing to participate in group activities if he's not interested. That's not normal for his age group and is when to worry.

[lulu]

Feb 6, 2017 12:50:49 GMT -5 Susan0utLoud said:

Feb 6, 2017 11:51:14 GMT -5 comicSans said:

In my day....we started soccer in first grade, so 7 or 6 for youngsters like myself.

We expect a lot more of toddlers (and parents) now. Activities are good if the kids are enjoying them and they aren't a burden on you, but I think we need to cut ourselves and our kids some slack sometimes.

I some times feel bad that ds isn't in any classes or sports or anything like that when I hear all of you talking about them. But I know him well enough to know that he's not ready yet. He's been on the back end of development all along.

Don't feel bad. DS does nothing - I just don't have the time and there's nothing I can do to change that.

With DD1 she went to every single class going until she started school. For 4 years solid she did something every day because I had the time.

DS has had nothing remotely like DD1 got, but is no worse off for it. He's still really sociable and burns off his energy in other ways - racing top speed around my house, in the garden, out for walks.

DD2 will likely be the most feral of them all.

[rainbowsockmonkey]

With everyone in the house sick we had homemade chicken noodle soup tonight for dinner.

[NJgirl84]

Today was my first day back at work. I feel guilty because it wasn't as hard as the first time around. DS2 is so fussy that it was kinda nice to have some adult conversations and eat while sitting down. But he is getting all the cuddles right now.

[becole]

Feb 6, 2017 19:25:50 GMT -5 NJgirl84 said:

Today was my first day back at work. I feel guilty because it wasn't as hard as the first time around. DS2 is so fussy that it was kinda nice to have some adult conversations and eat while sitting down. But he is getting all the cuddles right now.

My experience was exactly opposite of yours. DS1 was fussy and I wasn't ready to go back but once I did it felt like a vacation. Second baby was so easy, I'm still crying 3 weeks into going back to work. I would 1000x rather be home with him. I ache during the day.

[NJgirl84]

Feb 6, 2017 19:56:54 GMT -5 becole said:

Feb 6, 2017 19:25:50 GMT -5 NJgirl84 said:

Today was my first day back at work. I feel guilty because it wasn't as hard as the first time around. DS2 is so fussy that it was kinda nice to have some adult conversations and eat while sitting down. But he is getting all the cuddles right now.

My experience was exactly opposite of yours. DS1 was fussy and I wasn't ready to go back but once I did it felt like a vacation. Second baby was so easy, I'm still crying 3 weeks into going back to work. I would 1000x rather be home with him. I ache during the day.

That's how I was with DS1 who was easy. I still would rather be home with this guy too, but it's a break and I feel more human tonight than I've felt in months just by going to work today.

[activebaby]

Feb 6, 2017 19:56:54 GMT -5 becole said:

Feb 6, 2017 19:25:50 GMT -5 NJgirl84 said:

Today was my first day back at work. I feel guilty because it wasn't as hard as the first time around. DS2 is so fussy that it was kinda nice to have some adult conversations and eat while sitting down. But he is getting all the cuddles right now.

My experience was exactly opposite of yours. DS1 was fussy and I wasn't ready to go back but once I did it felt like a vacation. Second baby was so easy, I'm still crying 3 weeks into going back to work. I would 1000x rather be home with him. I ache during the day.

I don't know if you remember my constant stresses when I went back to work after ds2. My boss was being terrible, which is all better now. But I still question myself quite frequently if I am making the right choice to have the kids in daycare. Sometimes I feel like I'm choosing my career over staying home with them (which is true), but they are very happy and have great care at daycare. I just spend so little time with them during the weekdays. It's distressing to me.