My experience was exactly opposite of yours. DS1 was fussy and I wasn't ready to go back but once I did it felt like a vacation. Second baby was so easy, I'm still crying 3 weeks into going back to work. I would 1000x rather be home with him. I ache during the day.
I don't know if you remember my constant stresses when I went back to work after ds2. My boss was being terrible, which is all better now. But I still question myself quite frequently if I am making the right choice to have the kids in daycare. Sometimes I feel like I'm choosing my career over staying home with them (which is true), but they are very happy and have great care at daycare. I just spend so little time with them during the weekdays. It's distressing to me.
I think all working parents feel this way. I also feel like it bothers me more than DH. As much as I wasn't as emotional today about going to work. I'm still cuddling a sleeping DS2 even though I could have put him down already.
I stress even more thinking about school age because once they have sports, music, etc. I'm afraid I might have to miss something and it will break my heart if I have to miss a game or performance. Hopefully we can always swing it so at least one of us is there.
My experience was exactly opposite of yours. DS1 was fussy and I wasn't ready to go back but once I did it felt like a vacation. Second baby was so easy, I'm still crying 3 weeks into going back to work. I would 1000x rather be home with him. I ache during the day.
That's how I was with DS1 who was easy. I still would rather be home with this guy too, but it's a break and I feel more human tonight than I've felt in months just by going to work today.
Yes. Going to lunch by myself or with others felt very freeing with the fussy baby.
And activebaby my H and I are constantly talking about changing our goals and me staying home if that's what I want to do. Idk that I want to stay home forever. But I don't want to be there right now. I really want a year. If I could hit pause and my job would still be there, I would. It's not possible for me to be gone a year. They would replace me or just go with one less. And it would be really hard for me to get it back later or to find something with similar pay/ benefits/ time off/ pension, etc... It doesn't feel like the right decision to work. But I can't make myself quit.
Saturday I brought DD to her race, she did great and ran the whole half mile. After her race I dropped her off at my moms and met my friends for lunch and a movie. Saturday night we hung home and I finished packing. Sunday DD and I met my best friend for breakfast and she told me she's pregnant, I'm beyond excited. Sunday afternoon and evening was spent at an airport or on the plane and getting to my grandparents place.
Post by Susan0utLoud on Feb 6, 2017 22:36:41 GMT -5
It's not feasible for one of us to stay home and I don't feel a pull to stay home anyway. What I would love is part time, maybe 30 hours a week with benefits. That would be perfect.
It's not feasible for one of us to stay home and I don't feel a pull to stay home anyway. What I would love is part time, maybe 30 hours a week with benefits. That would be perfect.
That would be perfect! I could probably go part time at my job but I can't take the pay cut with still having the cost of daycare.
It's not feasible for one of us to stay home and I don't feel a pull to stay home anyway. What I would love is part time, maybe 30 hours a week with benefits. That would be perfect.
I feel the same way. If I could work 3-4 days a week, that'd be perfect. I don't know if we could swing it financially though.
It's not feasible for one of us to stay home and I don't feel a pull to stay home anyway. What I would love is part time, maybe 30 hours a week with benefits. That would be perfect.
I feel the same way. If I could work 3-4 days a week, that'd be perfect. I don't know if we could swing it financially though.
Well, the finances would be a challenge. I just feel it would take away so much of the stress.
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