Post by trinitrotoluene on Feb 7, 2017 22:37:33 GMT -5
In cougarette 's introduction, she mentioned her plan for telling her family, so i thought it might be fun for us to have a thread to discuss what each of us has planned for that.
Post by trinitrotoluene on Feb 7, 2017 23:14:16 GMT -5
When we started trying I bought DS a shirt that says something about being a brother. I put him in it yesterday after my positive tests to tell DH and took some photos that i will be sending to our parents and siblings when we are ready to tell them-I have a second blood draw on Thursday to check doubling times, so either then or after we get an ultrasound.
Post by scoutradley on Feb 7, 2017 23:42:41 GMT -5
C&P from cougarette's intro: We're gonna buy this book: www.amazon.com/Berenstain-Bears-Baby-Makes-Five/dp/0679889604 The. I'm gonna take a picture of my boys "reading" it. Print and frame the pic and give it to our parents (and maybe then give just the prints to siblings and grandparents). Not c&p: We have not decided on when to tell though. With our first we told (just close family) as soon as we got our BFP and at 10w for the rest of the world. With our second we waited for confirmation from the dr. to tell close family and I think 12w to tell everyone else. I think this time we're planning on waiting longer - until the first ultrasound. But if I stay super sick again, we may be unable to hide it.
I have no idea. This is #3 and people think we are/were done. DH wants to make shirts for the kids referencing famous trilogies...Idk. I put him in charge, lol.
ETA: we plan on telling our parents after my first midwife appointment, and waiting to tell everyone else till Easter.
Post by lingeralittlelonger on Feb 8, 2017 6:13:31 GMT -5
I've already told my mom and sister and my MIL and did nothing special. I'm trying to decide how we will announce it to the world, but not planning to do that until about 12 weeks.
Post by thatgirlrachel on Feb 8, 2017 6:32:36 GMT -5
We have already told our parents, siblings, and closest friends. We won't make it public on social media until after the confirmation appointment or maybe even after. I bought DD a book titled "I'm a Big Sister" and I'm going to *try* to get a picture of her holding it and use that as the big announcement. But taking a picture with a 14 month old is a lot like wrangling a wild lion so we shall see.
I got a big brother shirt on clearance a few months ago. It's a 3T, so it'll be big, but I may change him into that at the end of his party. OR I'll say that we got him one more present - a little brother or sister.
We will tell our parents and immediate families after the confirmation appointment, unless I accidentally let it slip or they guess beforehand. I do not pregnant well, haha, so I think they will know early on. I'm planning to announce to extended family/friends at DD's b-day party at the end of March, but the way news spreads through our families they will probably all know already! I'm feeling much more loose about it then I was with my first though, so we'll see, I may change my mind! I'll probably wait until we know the sex to announce on social media.
Post by gamergirl360 on Feb 8, 2017 14:21:12 GMT -5
So far only a few friends from church, my coworkers, and H (obviously) know. I'm visiting my mom and grandma next week, so I'll probably end up spilling the beans right away. We made it to 12 weeks before telling most of the family last time, right after hearing the HB for the first time, and that's what we were hoping to do again. H is much better at it than me though. I'm the worst at keeping it a secret!
My mom already knows but we're super close so I figured I wouldn't be able to hold off anyway. I think the plan is to have dd wear a "big sister" shirt the weekend we go up to visit everyone for Easter. I've got a brother though who absolutely loves dd so I'm trying to think of something special for him. I may steal one of these much more creative ideas you all have!
DS is very into coloring (or scribbling really) so I drew a picture of him with a sharpie and wrote "World's Greatest Big Brother" on it. I had him color it and when DH came home I told DS to "show Dad your picture!". We might take a photo of him with his picture and give prints to the grandparents... that way I don't actually have to tell anyone... I feel so awkward!
I feel awkward too! I just let H tell everyone because he's excited to do it and I feel so weird doing it for some reason.
I hope the awkwardness of telling people is normal! I was SO. NERVOUS. to tell our families with DD. I mean, I had no real reason to be since they were all half expecting it and so excited. I'm hoping my brain can chill a bit more when we tell them this time around!
Post by brittneysandra on Feb 9, 2017 13:10:57 GMT -5
We haven't told anyone yet, I'm waiting till after my first appointment (cuz previous loss) to tell our family, not sure how I tell them yet, I keep looking on Pinterest but I'll probably just hopefully show them the ultrasound picture.. As far as telling the world we are going on a cruise in April so we are going to write "big sis" in the sand and take a picture of a DD and send it out can't wait to tell everyone I feel like these weeks are going by so slow and I want to just tell everyone
Post by yogini kiki on Feb 9, 2017 15:02:20 GMT -5
I mean, let's be real....being pregnant is basically announcing to the world that you had unprotected sex. Yes it is natural and blah blah blah but I will never ever forget the look on my dad's face and how awkward he was with my husband when I told my parents the first time.
I mean, let's be real....being pregnant is basically announcing to the world that you had unprotected sex. Yes it is natural and blah blah blah but I will never ever forget the look on my dad's face and how awkward he was with my husband when I told my parents the first time.
Lol , I think it's worse when people ask you about kids and your like "Ya we're trying" A.k.A we are having sex all the time
We decided we are going to announce to our parents on Valentine's Day even though I'm only 10 seconds pregnant. I'm a horrible secret keeper and I'm really close with my parents and in laws so what the heck! DH wants to announce in a "cool" way and I know I'd probably let it slip within a week anyway. T&P's that they don't let it slip before my first ultrasound in the beginning-ish of March!
Post by NariaDreaming on Feb 9, 2017 21:49:31 GMT -5
For once my mom actually doesn't know that we already transferred. So I may hold out a bit this time and surprise her. But probably not let's be honest
5 years TTC 2 c/p's 2 failed IUIs/1 cancelled IVF 1 failed IVF 1 failed FET BFP 12/1/15. We said goodbye to Tiny 1/4/16 Fresh cycle #3 2/16 8R/7M/5F BFP 5/12/16 We said goodbye to flutter on 5/27 and poprock on 5/28 BFP 8/30/16 We said goodbye to Samuel 10/3 (Trisomy 16) Moving on to Donor Embryos BFP 12/20/16 We said goodbye to Turtle 12/30
Only folks who know right now are DH, BFF, and you guys 😄. I may only tell my dad, sister, and MIL while we're waiting for our first appt - if I have strong symptoms. I really don't feel like telling anyone until I get to see my little bean.
I'm not sure what I'll do when we're ready to announce (prob at 12-13 weeks). Last year my BFF gave me Thing 1 and Thing 2 tshirts for my girls. I was going to do a pic of them wearing the shirts and have an empty seat next to them with a sign saying "Thing 3 on the way!". But I don't know if I'd want to reuse that idea 😕
We did some cute things for family & friends the first time. This time we don't really have plans. Might do something, might just casually start suggesting comments, etc until people clue in. I dunno!
Post by thinkingofthree on Feb 11, 2017 7:39:10 GMT -5
There are a lot of us pregnant with #3!
It's been very well known among family & friends that I wanted #3 & DH was unsure. With DD1, we told family immediately (as we had to cancel a family trip to Kenya since I wouldn't be able to take Malaria pills). With DD2, we told everyone at DD1's first birthday about 16 weeks along with a Big Sister birthday gift. With our 2 early losses, we hadn't yet told anyone.
We're not sure about waiting with this one. It's likely my last pregnancy, no matter what happens - so I'm leaning towards telling family now to share the excitement & with everyone on Easter, so long as everything is going well. I like an announcement I saw with eggs in an Easter basket for our family + one for baby.
Hi! Just got my positive pee sticks this morning, so the only one that knows is DH. I'm in an interesting place with telling family because I'd want to tell my family when my sister is home, and she visits about once a month. She is visiting this weekend then likely won't be back until mid/late March. My mom is my nanny and I work from home, so if I get any morning sickness, it will be really hard to hide from her. Even though the news is still so fresh, we might tell the parents this weekend just so I can do it while my sister is here.
For actually sharing the news, I got a Brother shirt for DS about 6 months ago when we first started TTC #2. We'll probably put him in that tomorrow then visit both sets of parents.
I've told a bunch of TCF friends (and my husband, obviously) so far. Our plan right now is to tell my parents on my mom's birthday on March 3rd and then systematically all the rest of our close friends/family.
As for the world, I'm still torn between saying something asap because FUCK infertility and loss, or saying nothing and letting people find out as they see me. Because I might be a tiny bit trollish like that.
Post by BurritosAtEveryMeal on Feb 12, 2017 11:11:04 GMT -5
We put DS in a Big Brother shirt and sent pics to close family. We figure it took so long for this to happen, why not share the good news. Also, God forbid things don't go according to plan, it'll be nice to have support. We can't keep secrets over here
For baby #1 we did a photo of our dog with an "I'm going to be a big brother sign". My in laws thought we were getting another dog...For baby #2 we did a photo of our daughter with a checklist of things to do, including turning one, saying mama and dada, learning to walk and becoming a big sister. We made it our Christmas card since we were right at 13 weeks. I'm at a loss this time, though I love the baby makes 5 book idea. My family and our close friends know we're trying so I doubt it will shock anyone except maybe my in laws. My mom may be coming to visit next week and I'm not sure I can hold out, so I need to get on it I guess!
I will be in the minority I am sure, but we are not telling family until I am fairly far along. I have an MIL who cannot keep her mouth shut to save her life. Last time we waited until 18 or 19 weeks to tell ILs. With my niece, they were told super early, but not to tell, and yet MIL called multiple family members to tell them. I refuse to let that happen to me. We told my parents right at 13 with DS.
We lost my mom in September of last year, so that is going to make telling my father complicated, and I am not sure what I will do about that yet. I am also in the camp of telling family is super awkward and not really something I enjoy.
I also get this feeling when I am pregnant that it is nobody elses business. That comes from my nosy MIL though, and people who ask too many questions. We will share on Facebook, but not till end of May/beginning of June probably.
Besides you guys and DH, I actually did tell 4 of my mommy friends. We have a playgroup, and they knew we had been trying. They also don't know my family, so I have no worries about them letting it slip.
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