I need some randoms

[kaf7]

I need to unload a bit here so I can get to sleep. Not trying to AW. I am welcoming everyone to share as needed. 

Yesterday my secretary, who I had placed on a performance improvement plan, quit. This should be a good thing but I am really stressed about finding someone new and fast. My dog has a recurrent health problem and likely needs his 3rd attempt at a repeat procedure which means more time in the cone. This has MH super stressed out. And then yesterday one of my patients died and I am feeling really sad about it. And I have been working my butt off since MH had a stomach bug a few weeks ago and I took 2d off to do child care  so now my kids are super clingy and MH goes away this weekend for work and my ILs will be here to help as I too have to work. And I paid the money for the sperm preservation and kicking myself for it because I feel like it was a cop out as I know what I want. Typing all of this out, I understand why I have a knot in my stomach. Sigh. 

Anyone else need to Rant or share?

[bocaburger]

@tj that is a lot! Can you do anything to treat yourself and relax a little tonight?

H has 11 job interviews next week. He was supposed to have 13 but two of the best options hired someone already. Any offer will require a move and therefore lots of decisions about buying vs renting etc. Almost all the options involve moving further away from my family.

The stress level in the Boca House is high this week.

[ampaints]

Sorry for the stress ladies.

kaf7 I hope you find a great replacement quickly.

bocaburger fx for a good interview and offer for your H. Hopefully you guys will end up somewhere awesome.

School is killing me this week. Perfect storm of so much due. I've been plugging away and see the end in sight for this awful week. I'm hoping to get everything done by Friday night so I can just spend time with my family this weekend. Poor H. His job is stressful now and he's picking up all of my slack at home as I'm glued to my desk as soon as DS goes to bed. But I just have to make it until May and I'll graduate.

[supermorena]

Oh good. I needed somewhere to let this out:

My in-laws watch LO once a week for a few hours. It's perfect cuz I was a little nervous about it but it's such a short amount of time that I'm ok. Well today as she's headed out the door MIL asks what I think about her getting a carseat from a consignment store in case they ever want to take LO somewhere. Ummm..... So many freaking hell nos here! Lol. No to a used carseat, no to FIL driving LO (I barely like to get in the car), and no to going anywhere. You're with him for like 2 hours! Sit and play. You're fine.

[mrswillie]

I'm tired. So tired.

[rainbowbridge14]

Man, why does verything have so stressful?! I am sorry so many of you all are dealing with that.

I am also stressed and have too much to do. I am currently annoyed with H because I feel like he has no appreciation for how much I do plus the fact that my work doesn't end after 5pm. Tonight I did DC pick up, dinner, bath, and bedtime alone while doing diaper laundry and cleaning the kitchen. He had a bad commute and got home after she was asleep and has done nothing but avoid me and play on his computer. I have made dinner, sent work emails, prepped my class materials for tommorrow and finished grading a bunch of student assignments.

It felt good to get that all out.

[kaf7]

Glad everyone has been able to vent although I probably should've titled the post that instead of random stuff. And I'm sorry we are all so stressed!

[remylove1011]

rainbowbridge14 I feel you on being annoyed with H over how much you do. When I get home from work at 5:30 he's got DD sleeping in her carseat and is playing video games. I wash bottles/pump parts, get bottles and pumping stuff ready for the next day daycare, make my lunch, start dinner, take a shower, and get DDs and my clothes prepped for the next day. Then I change a diaper, nurse her, finish dinner, feed her puree, give her a bath, play with her, then nurse her to sleep. During all of this he is playing video games. I asked him the other night to take over washing the bottles and he acted like it was such an inconvenience... i mean he holds her and plays with her, he'll change a diaper , but it feels like all the other stuff is me.

[rainbowbridge14]

Feb 9, 2017 9:10:34 GMT -5 remylove1011 said:

rainbowbridge14 I feel you on being annoyed with H over how much you do. When I get home from work at 5:30 he's got DD sleeping in her carseat and is playing video games. I wash bottles/pump parts, get bottles and pumping stuff ready for the next day daycare, make my lunch, start dinner, take a shower, and get DDs and my clothes prepped for the next day. Then I change a diaper, nurse her, finish dinner, feed her puree, give her a bath, play with her, then nurse her to sleep. During all of this he is playing video games. I asked him the other night to take over washing the bottles and he acted like it was such an inconvenience... i mean he holds her and plays with her, he'll change a diaper , but it feels like all the other stuff is me.

That sounds immensely annoying!

[olenka]

I'm sorry it's stressful times for so many!

I was scheduled to do an IVF cycle next month, but last weekend I went into full panic mode. Which infected my SO as well. Like, is it so wise to drain our bank account (again) right now? Do we REALLY want a second kid? Or do we prefer money and sleep more? Plus we're both turning 42 this year.

I officially made the call to the RE to at least delay for a couple months while we mull it over a little more. I was starting to feel like I couldn't breathe, so I think that was a good call.

[MellyKnu]

I had hip surgery on Friday, so I've been stuck on the basement couch all week, since it's a walk out basement/tuck under garage so I would have to hop up a flight of steps to the main level. DH takes Ro to DC every morning then comes home at about 5:15. I get a little bit of play time with her on the couch while he feeds the dogs and stuff, but then he takes her away to eat and I don't usually see her again until it's almost bedtime. It's rough. Today, he has a project he needs to do upstairs that'll take him a half hour or more so he's taking her to his parents' house while he does it. As much as I'd love to have that extra time with her, I can't say that I would have the energy to keep a busy one year old corralled on the couch for that long. Not to mention it would sap my last bit of energy. I miss her.

Also, two years ago was the beginning of the end of my dog Nevaeh's life, so that stuff is coming up in my Timehop/FB memories. Super fun to dwell on when I'm stuck at home alone all day every day. I miss her too.

[bluefairy5]

LTs for support.

kaf7 I'm sorry about your patient. That has to be really hard.

remylove1011 That all sounds way too familiar from earlier months. Blergh.


I've mostly just been rolling along stressed about how much we have going on at work right now. And my newest employee is a really hard worker, but suffers from some common sense/prioritization deficits so that hasn't quite been lightening my work load.

ETA: Oh yeah. Apparently my kid changed her pooping schedule so that her evening poop lines up with shower/bath time.  Three nights in a row here.  *awesome* 

[ampaints]

bluefairy5 someone's daughter on my BMB kept doing that. They started putting her on the toilet before bath and she started pooping then after about 2 nights. I hope you get a break from the code browns.

MellyKnu hugs lady, I can't imagine how tough that is for you. Limited mobility is hard to deal with. I hope you recover quickly.

[ampaints]

remylove1011 I'm sorry, it sucks when they just let you do everything. I started just asking even though I didn't feel like I should have to. But asking and getting help was better than doing it ask myself. I hope he starts helping more.

olenka that's such a tough decision to make. I'm glad you're giving yourself time to reevaluate. Hugs.

[MellyKnu]

bluefairy5, regarding the new employee, can you set priority standards to take some of the guesswork out of it? Or is it kind of different things all the time?

Also, wtf, WF?! Code browns are no fun!

[bocaburger]

MellyKnu speedy recovery!
bluefairy5 once we had a double Code Brown. As in, poop in the bath, drain all the water, clean out the tub, refill everything. Get him back in the tub, poop again! Repeat!

[TJ]

I go back today to see if the hair dresser can fix what she did to my hair. Pray for me.

[rainbowbridge14]

Feb 9, 2017 21:42:57 GMT -5 ampaints said:

bluefairy5 someone's daughter on my BMB kept doing that. They started putting her on the toilet before bath and she started pooping then after about 2 nights. I hope you get a break from the code browns.

<<snip>>

We do this to but in the morning. Baths never calm M down so we bathe her in the morning. We bought a toddler potty and have been letting her sit on it before shower or bath.

[rainbowbridge14]

Feb 10, 2017 7:31:33 GMT -5 bocaburger said:

MellyKnu speedy recovery!
bluefairy5 once we had a double Code Brown. As in, poop in the bath, drain all the water, clean out the tub, refill everything. Get him back in the tub, poop again! Repeat!

we had a triple code brown once where she pooped in the shower then after I cleaned it up I said her back in to finish washing off and she pooped again so I decided the shower was over set her outside the shower to finish cleaning and she pooped all over the bathroom floor. That day was fun 😕

[bluefairy5]

Omg to double/triple code browns.

MellyKnu He had prioritized lists!!!!! There is no guesswork!!! He makes it into guesswork!!! I have no idea how he even gets there!! I'm literally so confused!

[murrt]

bluefairy5 uh oh. In my experience there is no way to solve a lack of common sense issue. Unless it's a job where the person can literally do nothing but follow explicit A-Z instructions and even then....

[MellyKnu]

Feb 10, 2017 11:58:14 GMT -5 bluefairy5 said:

Omg to double/triple code browns.

MellyKnu He had prioritized lists!!!!! There is no guesswork!!! He makes it into guesswork!!! I have no idea how he even gets there!! I'm literally so confused!

Ugh. No hope for this guy, then. Sorry.

Also, I'm on Team Double Code Brown. Super fun. At least at that point she was still in the blue tub and pooped in that both times, so I just finished her bath up in the regular tub and cleaned up Old Blue (again) after I got her out.

[bluefairy5]

I think I decided I'm just going to have to idiot-proof things for him for longer than I thought. He has a lot of promise in other areas, so hopefully it's worth it. Good kid, just... oy.


In other news, I had my first hair appointment since my hairdresser had her baby (I and apparently half her clients sent her and her H to my RE, and they did 3 IUIs, then IVF). I got to see pictures of her little NB (now 6-week-old) and it gave me all the feels. They started trying right when they got married and it took them about 3 years to decide to get to the RE (turned out to be MFI). So seeing her happy was the best!

[kaf7]

TJ, how is the hair?

olenka, that sounds like the right decision for you guys for now.


My week got even more crazy. I am trying to ride the wave through to next fri night. I do have 5 job applicants though. 2 seem mildly promising based on their applications.

[bocaburger]

BAH. I'm sick just in time for one of the most stressful important weeks of our lives (H's interviews). Relatedly, FFSC: I get man-colds. Seriously I cannot stand the sensation of my nose being stuffed or runny, and I will complain like the world is ending.

[TJ]

kaf7 what do you think? It's still more red than purple. But I think it's bc I just have too much natural red in my hair. It refuses to not be red.

[kaf7]

Def better than it was TJ. Doesn't look black anymore! I am jealous of you being outside in a tank. It is frigid here as we await the big snowstorm.

[bluefairy5]

TJ, I love it! I am jealous. No rules say I can't have a "not found in nature" color in my hair, but I feel like I can't for some reason. Rock on.

[ampaints]

I love that color TJ! It's not purple, but still such a fun color.