Yep I give my kid a small treat if he eats dinner and asks for it. He never eats so fuck yea I'm doing that to encourage him. He has to earn it though.
I dislike when people change sports teams they root for because of their SO.
Add to that what my brother does. He changes teams every year and then claims he's loved that team since childhood. No, you loved the Dolphins since childhood. So much so, you had a Dan Marino life size cutout in your room. Don't give me that crap.
And I will NEVER like the red sox just because Dh does!
Yep I give my kid a small treat if he eats dinner and asks for it. He never eats so fuck yea I'm doing that to encourage him. He has to earn it though.
We do dessert some nights too. I found mini ice cream sandwiches at Kroger so sometimes she gets one of those. Lately she's been sharing the yogurt melts with A. I am like your co worker though and will only give her a few M&Ms out of the pack at a time. I don't want her to be a sugar junkie like me.
We had to read it as part of our marriage prep classes at our church. It was very useful for us. Give it a shot!
It's definitely something to keep in mind that each child will probably have a different love language. One might be time, one gifts, one hugs and kisses. Of course we should give our kids all these things because balance... but figuring out how they feel loved is important.
Yep I give my kid a small treat if he eats dinner and asks for it. He never eats so fuck yea I'm doing that to encourage him. He has to earn it though.
We do dessert some nights too. I found mini ice cream sandwiches at Kroger so sometimes she gets one of those. Lately she's been sharing the yogurt melts with A. I am like your co worker though and will only give her a few M&Ms out of the pack at a time. I don't want her to be a sugar junkie like me.
*puts down airhead that was stolen from DS1's Valentine's day goodie bag*
becole , i get the love language thing and i'm not against giving gifts in general. I just dislike the expectation of gifts on certain minor holidays, and the gifts seem to be getting bigger and more extravagant.
I too was so thankful for a supportive doctor that never questioned why I chose to FF and the hospital and office loaded me up with so many freebies every time. I'm thankful they do that and that formula companies provide that to them.
Yes and I think the website lets you take the test for free. You each take it and talk about your results. Some people like someone to make them things, or spend time with them as a gift. I like dates out- like take me out. I don't like getting cash or a gift card (from H). I want to see that you put "time" into picking something our or taking me somewhere. It's kind of intrinsic that we know what our love languages are, but we aren't very good at communicating that. This opens the door that topic.
Probably not a UO here but, I'd love it if the nurses at the hospital showed new moms how to actually give a baby a bottle. There's all kinds of support for breastfeeding but no one ever showed me the correct way to prepare or give a bottle. I can count on 1 hand the number of times DS had a bottle since he was EBF but I would have liked to have left the hospital knowing how to do it
Probably not a UO here but, I'd love it if the nurses at the hospital showed new moms how to actually give a baby a bottle. There's all kinds of support for breastfeeding but no one ever showed me the correct way to prepare or give a bottle. I can count on 1 hand the number of times DS had a bottle since he was EBF but I would have liked to have left the hospital knowing how to do it
Mine did, but only after 4 days of starving my baby and making us breastfeed. But in the end, they did show us how to bottle feed. I was grateful for that, especially since the birth and baby care classes were forbidden to teach bottles since they were in a baby friendly hospital (which I don't think are friendly to babies at all, but that's a topic for another day).
becole , i get the love language thing and i'm not against giving gifts in general. I just dislike the expectation of gifts on certain minor holidays, and the gifts seem to be getting bigger and more extravagant.
This I agree with and is not what I was arguing at all. I didn't say you have to buy your kid a valentine gift to show your love. I'm explaining how there is value in them. Maybe some families choose to do that on Christmas- that's fine. Christmas in our family is more religious. Valentines is to show love. Mother and Father's Day is to show appreciation. Birthdays are for a celebration of just one person. Easter is religious for my family and we center discussions on church and that holiday. I could see how if the holidays weren't religious it would feel like here's "candy all day every day".
Probably not a UO here but, I'd love it if the nurses at the hospital showed new moms how to actually give a baby a bottle. There's all kinds of support for breastfeeding but no one ever showed me the correct way to prepare or give a bottle. I can count on 1 hand the number of times DS had a bottle since he was EBF but I would have liked to have left the hospital knowing how to do it
Mine did, but only after 4 days of starving my baby and making us breastfeed. But in the end, they did show us how to bottle feed. I was grateful for that, especially since the birth and baby care classes were forbidden to teach bottles since they were in a baby friendly hospital (which I don't think are friendly to babies at all, but that's a topic for another day).
we didn't even get birth and care classes! We had to go find a nurse in the middle of the night to show us how to reswaddle after changing his diaper. Basically we got taught squat except how to shove a tit in his mouth every 2 hours.
Probably not a UO here but, I'd love it if the nurses at the hospital showed new moms how to actually give a baby a bottle. There's all kinds of support for breastfeeding but no one ever showed me the correct way to prepare or give a bottle. I can count on 1 hand the number of times DS had a bottle since he was EBF but I would have liked to have left the hospital knowing how to do it
Mine did, but only after 4 days of starving my baby and making us breastfeed. But in the end, they did show us how to bottle feed. I was grateful for that, especially since the birth and baby care classes were forbidden to teach bottles since they were in a baby friendly hospital (which I don't think are friendly to babies at all, but that's a topic for another day).
This. I didn't try to BF from the start, I went in telling them and my doctor I was going to FF. My doctor was supportive but the hospital was very pushy about BF and they provided formula but didn't go out of their way to discuss bottle feeding (when, how much, etc.) at all. It's disappointing that they can't be neutral and supportive of both. Same with the baby classes we took too. I asked some FF questions and was told to talk to my doctor about better options. Mine as well have gave me the middle finger.
Mine did, but only after 4 days of starving my baby and making us breastfeed. But in the end, they did show us how to bottle feed. I was grateful for that, especially since the birth and baby care classes were forbidden to teach bottles since they were in a baby friendly hospital (which I don't think are friendly to babies at all, but that's a topic for another day).
This. I didn't try to BF from the start, I went in telling them and my doctor I was going to FF. My doctor was supportive but the hospital was very pushy about BF and they provided formula but didn't go out of their way to discuss bottle feeding (when, how much, etc.) at all. It's disappointing that they can't be neutral and supportive of both. Same with the baby classes we took too. I asked some FF questions and was told to talk to my doctor about better options. Mine as well have gave me the middle finger.
I'm guessing you birthed at a baby friendly hospital. I'm hearing that they have really strict guidelines about how they handle feeding questions and they can get in trouble for not supporting BF. I'm not sure if the push comes from AAP recs or what. Like they talk about safe sleep and push against co sleeping or rear facing- because it's not the medical recommendation from the AAP. Right or wrong it's coming from someone's research paper. That's a hard to position to put nurses in.
Gift giving for all these sub-holidays has gotten out of hand. It's like every month there is some kind of gift giving expectation. Gifts are for christmas and birthday only
I'm going the opposite I think it's grumpy and fun hating to not celebrate the little holidays. I'm not talking about things on a Christmas scale of expensive gifts but a little something to make a celebration breaks up the everyday in life.
I disliked Beyonce's performance. No one cares to see you standing and moving all pregnant bare belly. And her outfit/headpiece, WTF? Almost 4 minutes of it was her talking, I want to see you sing not talk. I'm bummed I missed Adele's Hello performance.
I think all awards shows are boring and will not watch them.
This. I didn't try to BF from the start, I went in telling them and my doctor I was going to FF. My doctor was supportive but the hospital was very pushy about BF and they provided formula but didn't go out of their way to discuss bottle feeding (when, how much, etc.) at all. It's disappointing that they can't be neutral and supportive of both. Same with the baby classes we took too. I asked some FF questions and was told to talk to my doctor about better options. Mine as well have gave me the middle finger.
I'm guessing you birthed at a baby friendly hospital. I'm hearing that they have really strict guidelines about how they handle feeding questions and they can get in trouble for not supporting BF. I'm not sure if the push comes from AAP recs or what. Like they talk about safe sleep and push against co sleeping or rear facing- because it's not the medical recommendation from the AAP. Right or wrong it's coming from someone's research paper. That's a hard to position to put nurses in.
Yeah unfortunately all the hospitals where my insurance would be taken are baby friendly. How can it be friendly if you're setting a mother up for failure to provide for her kid?
Not directing anger towards you, but the whole healthcare system as a whole.
Gift giving for all these sub-holidays has gotten out of hand. It's like every month there is some kind of gift giving expectation. Gifts are for christmas and birthday only
I'm going the opposite I think it's grumpy and fun hating to not celebrate the little holidays. I'm not talking about things on a Christmas scale of expensive gifts but a little something to make a celebration breaks up the everyday in life.
Clearly from my Valentine's dinner, I agree. My mom always made little holidays special by making a special dinner and doing little gifts and it's something I loved about my childhood.
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