My sister has asked me to stand up in her wedding (with an easy out saying she understands if it would be too much with a newborn). Baby would be about 3 or 3.5 months at the wedding.
Is this a bad idea? I plan on EBF, which would be a big challenge. H said he could follow me around with baby all day to make it happen. DD didn't take bottles at that time, but maybe this one would be different.
I'd go... we got married when DS1 was 6 months old and one of my bridesmaids also had a 6 month old she EBF. It wasn't an issue- she just ducked out when needed.
Granted, we had a super short ceremony (less than 5 minutes..) and pictures were only about half an hour.
I'd do it! We went to my good friends wedding without DS around that age (granted he was taking bottles at the time) and I just pumped right before, in between ceremony and reception, and in between reception and after party. I'm sure will be a little harder being in the wedding party but definitely doable. Also, I would personally look at it as good motivation to get back into shape!
Post by rosesquared on Feb 19, 2017 18:44:46 GMT -5
I know it's not quite the same but we're planning on bringing the baby to a wedding in August. I'm sure your sister will understand if you need to duck out at any time.
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If your DH can duck out during the ceremony if needed and help out until you're through any of the pictures, etc...then I think you'll be okay.
DD1 did fine at a wedding at 3.5 months and DD2 went to a wedding at 2 weeks.
I would try to work out a dress that is BF friendly and would consider looking for a neutral ring sling and get comfortable carrying/nursing in it if you aren't familiar.
I'm in the camp of, if you want to go, you should go - but if you don't feel like you want to, there is nothing wrong with skipping it.
That said, you could always make the wedding, make an appearance at the reception then bow out with baby. Or just do the wedding if you don't want to do reception. I think you have options. But if you want to go it's totally doable!!!
Post by BabyStandish on Feb 19, 2017 22:53:17 GMT -5
Another vote to go. We took DS to a wedding at about 3 or 4 months with no issues. I wore him in a wrap most the time and went into a quiet room nearby whenever he wanted to nurse.
I'll for sure go, just a matter of whether or not I do the bridesmaid gig. I just don't want to detract from her special day by having to run off and feed the baby. Maybe it wouldn't be a big deal though. I'm probably over thinking it.
My other thought was that I could offer to help behind the scenes with coordination if she doesn't have someone doing that yet.
I would do it as long as I had someone who was going to be dedicated to helping me and the baby, which it sounds like you do. So go for it! I'd just try to nurse LO as much as you can any opportunity you get earlier in the day, and then right before the ceremony. Usually ceremonies aren't that long, so I'm sure it would be fine. I don't think it would take away from her day because you have to feed the baby. I was a bridesmaid in my brother's wedding recently and my DD was 19 months at the time (and also in the wedding as a flower girl). I pretty much spent the whole time taking care of her, I didn't spend much time with the other bridesmaids. It was fine though, you do what you gotta do.
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