AW: leaving my babies for the weekend

[bocaburger]

TLDR: I think I have to leave my babies for the weekend, tell me it will be ok.

The long version: H has a weekend-long job interview across the country. In his field it's typical for spouses to join for this part of the process. They have meetings/ activities set up for me including a preschool tour and a meeting with a realtor. I would really like to go. There will not be another chance to check out the area before potentially moving there. However, it will be too distracting for H to have the babies there. We debated getting childcare there but I think it will be too complicated and stressful to travel with them.

So, will it be ok? Have you done it? They are 6.5 months. I have never left them for longer than 6 hours. They are night weaned and STTN the last 2 nights. I BF but occasionally supplement so I can leave formula for them.

What am I not thinking of? I should probably specify that either my parents or ILs will stay at our apartment with them.

[Deleted]

I don't have any advice. But I say go and try to make the most of it! Good luck!

[disneykate]

I say go away for the weekend. It sounds like it is important for you to go with your H. My DD is a similar age (7 months) and doesn't have stranger anxiety yet. So assuming your twins don't either, they will probably be fine with their grandparents for the weekend. You will most likely have a tougher time being away from them but hopefully you can FaceTime or something similar.
I know you just worked hard to get the twins to STTN, so I would make sure the grandparents know your bedtime routine so the twins don't regress hopefully.

[mrswillie]

Go and enjoy your weekend away! Shoot, see if you can squeeze in a little pampering time. I wish we had anybody we could leave our boys with for a weekend. It'll definitely be harder on you. The first time I left DS1, he was 18 months. And it was because I was stuck in the hospital 3 hours away with an infection for a week after we all took a long weekend trip there. So that wasn't enjoyable at all. I hope the trip goes well and the babies and parents are fine. 😊

[luvboston]

Run... they will be fine!

[nikiswimr]

I left E at 9 months for a long weekend and she was EBF and still nursing 2x overnight. We all survived! I say go for it.

[bocaburger]

Thanks everyone! We decided to go for it! I am super nervous but I guess I have to leave them someday, I can't go to college with them right? I miss them already. I will need all the hair pats this weekend!

[bocaburger]

Ok someone talk me down. Now that we made the decision to go and booked tickets I am freaking out. I know it's irrational but I have this feeling of dread like I'm never going to see them again. I thought the fear would go away once they were born healthy but sometimes I feel like it's all too good to be true and I am going to lose them somehow. Does that fear ever go away? How can I possibly leave them? If something happens to them I will never forgive myself.

[luvboston]

bocaburger take a breath, everything will be ok your not leaving them with strangers these are your parents or dh's they managed to keep both of you alive this long so I assume they know what they are doing or you wouldn't be leaving them. Also the feeling of worrying will never go away no matter how old they get you just learn to know that you only have control over certain things and everything else is up to the universe. Practice saying it's going to be ok, I say it a lot BC it will be ok no matter what the landscape becomes you will deal with it.

[mrswillie]

bocaburger I just about guarantee you that you'll come back asking when they can watch them again for you to go away! Enjoy, enjoy, enjoy!😊👍

[westiemom]

bocaburger I'm leaving DD Wednesday for 3 nights. I'm feeling a mix of emotions! Guilt because she won't take a bottle, excitement because I want a break, etc. No tips for you but wanted you to know we are doing it together! 😃

[bocaburger]

Feb 23, 2017 22:04:59 GMT -5 westiemom said:

bocaburger I'm leaving DD Wednesday for 3 nights. I'm feeling a mix of emotions! Guilt because she won't take a bottle, excitement because I want a break, etc. No tips for you but wanted you to know we are doing it together! 😃

I hope it goes well for you! We left them 7 hours ago and so far everyone is ok! I didn't even cry (but I almost did)

[murrt]

I was told to GO GO Go by our peeps here when contemplating going to Paris for 6 days in May when Baby Irish will be 7 months. I was also away from her for 3 days after gallbladder surgery in January and she was completely fine.

[bocaburger]

Feb 27, 2017 19:40:21 GMT -5 bostongirl617 said:

bocaburger how did it go?

It actually went quite well! My in-laws managed better than expected, the babies pretty much STTN and ate well, and H and I enjoyed being kid-free for a bit although we missed them a ton. Now that we're back they have been pretty fussy and clingy, but I imagine that's par for the course. Thanks for asking!

westiemom how did it go for you?

[westiemom]

Feb 27, 2017 20:09:44 GMT -5 bocaburger said:

Feb 27, 2017 19:40:21 GMT -5 bostongirl617 said:

bocaburger how did it go?

It actually went quite well! My in-laws managed better than expected, the babies pretty much STTN and ate well, and H and I enjoyed being kid-free for a bit although we missed them a ton. Now that we're back they have been pretty fussy and clingy, but I imagine that's par for the course. Thanks for asking!

westiemom how did it go for you?

We leave Wednesday! I'm glad to hear it went well for you! Yay!