Me too. I grew up in VA, went to college in CA, and now live in MA. Everyone is scattered to the four winds. And my best friend here is CBC and barely tolerates kids...so, I'm scared of what I'll do for friends with the aliens arrive.
My BFF is childless by circumstance, but just in a totally different place in her life right now. Single, still very much doing her own thing. She will love my son like her own child but it will definitely affect our friendship. Even me being pregnant has changed things a little.
Yeah, one of our mutual friends got KU last year and their relationship is pretty much nonexistent now, so I'm worried that will happen to me. She will be happy and supportive, but she loves the DINK life and so we just won't be able to keep up and she doesn't get why I wanted to be a mom so badly...but friendships change, I guess. I'm going to try to get out and join groups and such to meet more like-minded people, but it's hard to find the time when you're employed and raising kids! Sigh. And I'm super social and want to be with people a lot, but MH is homebody, so that can be a challenge bc we aren't going to make many new couples friends.
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Me too. I grew up in VA, went to college in CA, and now live in MA. Everyone is scattered to the four winds. And my best friend here is CBC and barely tolerates kids...so, I'm scared of what I'll do for friends with the aliens arrive.
I'll be up north in the fall. We got this.
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Post by ladytiffany24 on Feb 21, 2017 18:53:33 GMT -5
@amc25 I love our March 2017 BMB but I play over here too. Join us more often!! And for what it's worth, I immediately recognized you from GKU when I saw you on our BMB! 😁
Post by juliayadda on Feb 21, 2017 19:10:37 GMT -5
For people worried about friendship when you have a baby I found baby was a great buffer. My three best friends were all made in the first year of my sons life and we are still besties ten years later and our kids have a unique friendship kind of like cousins.
Happy birthday PirateCat!! Jus remember, you may be old...but I'll always be older 😘 Haha! Plus 35 was a great year for me, hope it's wonderful for you too!!
Aww you know how to make a gal feel better. 😉
But you're totally doing things right, getting two babies out of the way at once!
My mom took our initial visitation guidelines worse than expected. I told her and my sisters via Skype we want the first week alone because it's all H gets off work and we want to figure it all out together. I will need their help after that. Everyone was fine with that until they realized it meant we don't want them in the waiting room when I deliver. They all live out of state and have to fly in; logically it makes no sense to take an expensive last-minute flight and then leave immediately because we are serious about wanting the first week alone. Plus I do not want them in the waiting room. I don't need extra stress. I stress myself out just fine. When I said that, my mom got all teary and said she feels hurt and it's *her* first grandchild and she just "needs time to process" and hung up on us.
Her M.O. is to make everything about her so I'm not sure why I'm surprised but I was still taken aback.
marshian she'll get over it. In the words of the nurse who did the tour at the birth center.. grandmothers, especially first time grandmothers, tend to relive their own birth experiences and forget what it's like for the mom nor do they realize the mom may react differently
Post by silvermelody on Feb 21, 2017 22:18:04 GMT -5
FWIW I never posted on GKU and felt welcomed here though obvi some of you already know each other better. A grads thread would be nice.
35 has been a good year. My 30s have been better than my 20s for sure
I make most of my friends at work these days but many of them are childless. I've made some "mom friends" but they are more casual, probably because I'm not a SAHM with time for music and art lessons during the week. I'm trying to develop some of those more.
H offered to loosen the rules and let them come wait and then see baby for 10 minutes after the birth, but then there's no way to ensure they would actually leave immediately like we want (since they have to fly) and they know where we live so could just show up at the door. I don't want to open the door to it going completely against what we want.
I'm not really stressing about it because I knew it could go this way and we'll have to put our little family first starting now. It's just frustrating.
My sisters were more understanding. One said for some reason she thought it would be "like the movies" where the family is all waiting. But they agree H and I should do what we want.
I just have to get over disappointing people. Which is not difficult in theory but is annoying because I never assume or expect anything from anyone, even family. I always ask about everything.
H offered to loosen the rules and let them come wait and then see baby for 10 minutes after the birth, but then there's no way to ensure they would actually leave immediately like we want (since they have to fly) and they know where we live so could just show up at the door. I don't want to open the door to it going completely against what we want.
I'm not really stressing about it because I knew it could go this way and we'll have to put our little family first starting now. It's just frustrating.
My vote is to protect your boundaries. They seem the "give 'em an inch, they take a mile" sort.
FWIW I never posted on GKU and felt welcomed here though obvi some of you already know each other better. A grads thread would be nice.
35 has been a good year. My 30s have been better than my 20s for sure
I make most of my friends at work these days but many of them are childless. I've made some "mom friends" but they are more casual, probably because I'm not a SAHM with time for music and art lessons during the week. I'm trying to develop some of those more.
Happy to have you here, wherever you feel comfortable posting. 😘
Just tell them that you'll send pictures in the meantime. Stick to your guns! New babies make people crazy. My mom was a guilt-tripping nightmare after my first was born, and she showed up when LO was 3-4 days old after I told her explicitly NOT to (AND baby was in the nicu and I could barely walk, etc). I told her to leave and I have no regrets; you want to make your boundaries clear early on, and do not bend so that they know that you mean business when you say what is best for your family. It is so frustrating when family gets selfish about this stuff. You have my sympathies :[
H offered to loosen the rules and let them come wait and then see baby for 10 minutes after the birth, but then there's no way to ensure they would actually leave immediately like we want (since they have to fly) and they know where we live so could just show up at the door. I don't want to open the door to it going completely against what we want.
I'm not really stressing about it because I knew it could go this way and we'll have to put our little family first starting now. It's just frustrating.
My vote is to protect your boundaries. They seem the "give 'em an inch, they take a mile" sort.
That's the weird thing. My family has never been like this. Grandkids make people crazy, it seems.
My sisters would never overstep. My mom I'm now thinking might, so definitely not giving her the inch.
cosmicav - Wow. I can't believe your mom did that after being told not to. Mind-blowing. Did she eventually get over it? Did she ever understand why you had the rules in place?
Post by onesweetworld on Feb 21, 2017 23:01:43 GMT -5
So I'm just going to preface this with - I feel a million times better right now.
So around 9pm I was watching This Is Us and posting. I had walked downstairs to grab a bowl of Cocoa Puffs because my steak salad just wasn't filling me up. I'm eating my Cocoa Puffs and all of a sudden I felt off. I damn well I'm dehydrated because I normally float and I don't think I consumed more than 50 ozs of water today (I did have 50 of iced coffee though). So I was looking back and forth between my phone and tv and thought I had a flash of darkness. So I immediately started to panic. I went to wake up H to tell him to come check on me occasionally and make sure everything was okay. Cue him being a jerk and me freaking out more. I honestly feel like at that point it turned into a panic attack - like who is going to help me if I really need to go to the hospital, etc. So I took my blood pressure with my incredibly inaccurate wrist cuff. 153/121 - off to google. Google says I'm dying. Cue more panic. So I get in bed, lay on my left side crying and grab H's hand, nope he flips out and tells me to calm down and figure it out. Thankfully I talked to hpnegirl and she calmed me down a bit. I went back and took my blood pressure again - 133/80 much better.
ETA: just took my pressure now (11:07) 106/63
So do I call the doctor in the AM and ask to come in for a blood pressure and urine check or did I just do too much, not drink enough water and give myself an anxiety attack?
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