Hypothetical Discussion: If you were single again....

[LizInFL]

Hmm, interesting question.

DH and I met online via Match, so I'd be willing to try that again. I'd likely go back to work at some point depending on circumstances, so maybe that way. I'd also get involved with a church and my high school and college's alumni activities.

I think tjhine has the right idea with being open to set-ups from friends and family, as well.

The part of town we live in is very family-oriented. If I were going to try the bar scene I'd definitely need to go outside our little suburban bubble! That really isn't my cup of tea, though...especially with children at home, I don't see myself going out to bars a lot!

Honestly I'd probably be looking for someone a lot like DH. Similar interests and character, someone who values family. Probably no more than 5-6 years older than me. In the south, people tend to get married younger, and our city is very much one where people come back to raise families. So I feel like I'd most likely be meeting men who were previously married and widowed/divorced, versus guys who were never married.

[klongoria11]

I honestly don't think I would be interested in dating again, no matter how the relationship ended. It's too much work. I would rather just focus on Cadence and myself without throwing someone else into the mix. Even if she was in high school or college by then.

ETA: so in that light, I guess it would have to be something that just happened naturally, not through any dating sties or anything. I wouldn't go searching for it.

[slenle]

I think I'd have to try online dating. Being in a small town, options are limited. Just thinking of the single friends we have who are late 20s/early 30s... none of them have had any luck with new relationships since we've known them. The thought of that scares me a little, maybe I should start being nicer to DH

There are parts of me that wonder what it would be like to date as an adult. DH and I are high school sweethearts so I've never had deal with a new "adult" relationship or dating.

[JoeLies]

Feb 22, 2017 10:10:59 GMT -5 klongoria11 said:

I honestly don't think I would be interested in dating again, no matter how the relationship ended. It's too much work. I would rather just focus on Cadence and myself without throwing someone else into the mix. Even if she was in high school or college by then.

ETA: so in that light, I guess it would have to be something that just happened naturally, not through any dating sties or anything. I wouldn't go searching for it.

I think I'm on your bench. But I was always a big fan of being single, I just hated not having anyone to hang out with because no one else was single!

[LizInFL]

Yeah, I definitely wouldn't want to jump into anything, but we have a good marriage and so at some point I think I'd be ready to try again if I met the right person, especially bc I still am 'young' (relatively speaking). I might not feel that way if I was 70.

Haha, who are we kidding, we all know I'm 75...

[wineallthetime]

If I were put in that situation I think I'd eventually want to find someone new. I'd hope it just happened naturally, but I'd be open to trying internet dating or whatever though.

On the same lines, I always tell MH that if I were to die, I'd want him to find someone new eventually. He always swears he never would. It seriously stresses me out. I don't want him to be alone and I'd like my kids to have a mother figure in their lives as well. If he divorces me, he can stay single

[LizInFL]

Feb 22, 2017 11:19:04 GMT -5 wineallthetime said:

On the same lines, I always tell MH that if I were to die, I'd want him to find someone new eventually. He always swears he never would. It seriously stresses me out. I don't want him to be alone and I'd like my kids to have a mother figure in their lives as well. If he divorces me, he can stay single

Haha! This exactly for me, too. But my mom and sister have to approve any candidates first!

[wineallthetime]

vinolove, now I'm curious about this high school sweetheart! Tell me more and liven up my workday.

[cagoldi]

I'd probably die alone because I would prefer to date a vegan and given we're like 2% of the population on a good day and at least 2/3 of us are women, let's just say pickings are slim.

I can't imagine going to bars at this age. Eek.

I would be open to dating online and suggestions from family and friends.

I prefer older men usually. Not geriatric but at least 3-4 years my senior, so most likely I'd be meeting people who were divorced and/or had children.
That's not something I would have wanted before, but now it wouldn't bother me.

[wineallthetime]

vinolove, wow. That's a sad story! It's like a movie.

[cagoldi]

Feb 22, 2017 13:18:06 GMT -5 nam2013 said:

cagoldi I never considered myself dating an 'older' man because dh is 3 years older! My youngest sisters' boyfriend is 8 years her senior (24-32) my other sisters' 9 years (28-37), I've always considered that really older!

Plus you could always convert someone to veganism!

I would consider dating someone up to 15 years older.

[cagoldi]

Sunny41 I would never date a bro. Never.

[kim22]

I had my first boyfriend at 16 and was pretty much always in a serious relationship from then on. DH and I have been together since I was 20. We met at the beach. No amount of BBM is bringing back the gymnast body I had then so I probably would not be meeting my fake future husband on the beach. My sister could probably find me someone. She has thousands of friends and likes playing matchmaker.