I know Larry happened. Please do not try to convince me otherwise. Please don't talk to me about coffee. I don't drink it. I don't caffeine. When I state my opinion, that is me chiming in on a topic. This is not me saying you suck at life if you do or feel differently. If I want to say that, I will. If I want to speak on you, I will.
I know Larry happened. Please do not try to convince me otherwise. Please don't talk to me about coffee. I don't drink it. I don't caffeine. When I state my opinion, that is me chiming in on a topic. This is not me saying you suck at life if you do or feel differently. If I want to say that, I will. If I want to speak on you, I will.
I was literally about to type this exact sentence a page ago. I always say "well let me chat with my husband" so I can kick the can down the road.
But also, in MY marriage (before everyone rides in with 2309480943568 anecdotes), large purchases are absolutely a joint decision. I would not feel comfortable painting my husband as anything other than 50% of the decision (or 49%, if I'm REALLY adamant about something). So cars, full house window replacements... yes... we will make the decision together.
Oh, it's a joint decision. We go in with a budget and a plan. But for my car, DH was more concerned with how I liked driving it, etc. As long as it fit into our pre-agreed parameters.
And when we have emergency decisions - the water heater crapped out and he's OOT - I will make that decision knowing he trusts me to do so. I don't need the repair asking me if I need to "consult with the husband on that." If I said order it, you fucking order it pal. My marriage dynamics are none of your concern.
It's the assumption on the part of the sales person that I couldn't possibly be making this choice on my own that rankles.
Sometimes I like to contribute to people's GFM/fundraisers on FB that I never really talk to anymore. Recently it was someone who's basically an acquaintance that lives across the country for her daughter's school. Not like huge donations or anything. Just, "hey, I see you, I want to help." The random Starbucks buying isn't a thing here, so this is my little way of paying it forward.
You can make the paying for Starbucks a thing. Be the change, Cher!
The only Starbucks I really go to is in the mall. Do people do it in the mall Starbucks? I'm going there today. Maybe I can make it happen!
I know Larry happened. Please do not try to convince me otherwise. Please don't talk to me about coffee. I don't drink it. I don't caffeine. When I state my opinion, that is me chiming in on a topic. This is not me saying you suck at life if you do or feel differently. If I want to say that, I will. If I want to speak on you, I will.
Post by veganontuesdays on Feb 23, 2017 10:37:31 GMT -5
If I say "FML I am losing my shit because my kid doesn't stop hitting and I am literally at the end of my rope with it." and 92138901283192038 people came in with "Well my kid doesn't hit so...." I would
It's not about being ashamed yo. When it applies tell me your kid sucks too so I can feel better about myself. ISN'T THAT WHAT WE"RE DOING HERE? No? Just me? Kewl.
There is a definite vibe here than one should be ashamed or some shit if your kid doesn't hit etc. As demonstrated by drinking thread last night.
I strongly disagree with this. There is absolutely no insinuation that you should be ASHAMED if your kid doesn't hit. That's ludicrious. What is true is that people often commiserate about kids doing shit kid things and then you or others will pick that moment to be like "my kid never does this and I never experience these things", so in the context of everything, it gives off the vibe that YOU are judging others, not that you are defending yourself.
Last night's drinking thread tells a different tale.
I often throw that out there because I feel there is a trend to normalize some real shitty ass fucking behavior around here. Now if that is what you have to tell yourself so you can sleep at night ok cool.
I can't be a party to the fake ness. So yeah, I judge the circle jerk that usually follows those posts like well, "3 year olds do that," "there was nothing better you could do..." "a child peeing on another kid is normal."
I don't do well with the la di da. I mean, I can work on my fakeness if that's desired.
I know Larry happened. Please do not try to convince me otherwise. Please don't talk to me about coffee. I don't drink it. I don't caffeine. When I state my opinion, that is me chiming in on a topic. This is not me saying you suck at life if you do or feel differently. If I want to say that, I will. If I want to speak on you, I will.
There have been too many parenting related threads lately.
So NariaDreaming - this is what you call an inviting culture to jump into for us first time mom's that need/want advice and support? 18 other people have liked this post already so obviously 18 other people agree with her and don't want us to come here to ask our parenting questions.
Just wondering where we belong after we have our babies if we don't have an active BMB to go to?
OMG we have a solar panel guy that will not fucking quit. He actually showed up on Monday and kept knocking the door and ringing the doorbell. Only my sister was home so she didn't answer but he was fucking relentless. Even walked around the house. I'm pissed and if he shows up again I'm going to tell him to fuck off.
I think already having solar panels is the only reason we haven't been harassed by solar panel companies.
My husband wants solar panels so badly on our next home. That's like, his goal in life. I think they're ugly AF.
There have been too many parenting related threads lately.
So NariaDreaming - this is what you call an inviting culture to jump into for us first time mom's that need/want advice and support? 18 other people have liked this post already so obviously 18 other people agree with her and don't want us to come here to ask our parenting questions.
Just wondering where we belong after we have our babies if we don't have an active BMB to go to?
Every family struggles with different things McBenny whether it be marriage stress, or financial problems or kids behavior, or any number of other things. So if someone was venting about being broke, I wouldnt say oh. Well I've got more money than I know what to even do with because wtf would be the point?
I also don't expect people to not post threads about "what should I blow my money on," "which vacation should I plan for our 4th one this year," or "help me pick out this new shit I don't need but I have it so why not treat myself" because I posted not knowing how we will eat this week.
I know Larry happened. Please do not try to convince me otherwise. Please don't talk to me about coffee. I don't drink it. I don't caffeine. When I state my opinion, that is me chiming in on a topic. This is not me saying you suck at life if you do or feel differently. If I want to say that, I will. If I want to speak on you, I will.
There have been too many parenting related threads lately.
So NariaDreaming - this is what you call an inviting culture to jump into for us first time mom's that need/want advice and support? 18 other people have liked this post already so obviously 18 other people agree with her and don't want us to come here to ask our parenting questions.
Just wondering where we belong after we have our babies if we don't have an active BMB to go to?
I know Larry happened. Please do not try to convince me otherwise. Please don't talk to me about coffee. I don't drink it. I don't caffeine. When I state my opinion, that is me chiming in on a topic. This is not me saying you suck at life if you do or feel differently. If I want to say that, I will. If I want to speak on you, I will.
Every family struggles with different things McBenny whether it be marriage stress, or financial problems or kids behavior, or any number of other things. So if someone was venting about being broke, I wouldnt say oh. Well I've got more money than I know what to even do with because wtf would be the point?
I also don't expect people to not post threads about "what should I blow my money on," "which vacation should I plan for our 4th one this year," or "help me pick out this new shit I don't need but I have it so why not treat myself" because I posted not knowing how we will eat this week.
The difference is you respond in the moment to that shit. No one is responding to your financial struggles with "I've never had issues with money".
I know Larry happened. Please do not try to convince me otherwise. Please don't talk to me about coffee. I don't drink it. I don't caffeine. When I state my opinion, that is me chiming in on a topic. This is not me saying you suck at life if you do or feel differently. If I want to say that, I will. If I want to speak on you, I will.
There have been too many parenting related threads lately.
So NariaDreaming - this is what you call an inviting culture to jump into for us first time mom's that need/want advice and support? 18 other people have liked this post already so obviously 18 other people agree with her and don't want us to come here to ask our parenting questions.
Just wondering where we belong after we have our babies if we don't have an active BMB to go to?
I also don't expect people to not post threads about "what should I blow my money on," "which vacation should I plan for our 4th one this year," or "help me pick out this new shit I don't need but I have it so why not treat myself" because I posted not knowing how we will eat this week.
The difference is you respond in the moment to that shit. No one is responding to your financial struggles with "I've never had issues with money".
I will take this into consideration and really think about this.
FTR, I am really glad there are people that never had issues with money.
I know Larry happened. Please do not try to convince me otherwise. Please don't talk to me about coffee. I don't drink it. I don't caffeine. When I state my opinion, that is me chiming in on a topic. This is not me saying you suck at life if you do or feel differently. If I want to say that, I will. If I want to speak on you, I will.
There have been too many parenting related threads lately.
So NariaDreaming - this is what you call an inviting culture to jump into for us first time mom's that need/want advice and support? 18 other people have liked this post already so obviously 18 other people agree with her and don't want us to come here to ask our parenting questions.
Just wondering where we belong after we have our babies if we don't have an active BMB to go to?
I don't think the original post was 100% serious. Lots of people ask parenting questions here, and get some good answers. I stalk the sleep threads like woah.
I know Larry happened. Please do not try to convince me otherwise. Please don't talk to me about coffee. I don't drink it. I don't caffeine. When I state my opinion, that is me chiming in on a topic. This is not me saying you suck at life if you do or feel differently. If I want to say that, I will. If I want to speak on you, I will.
There have been too many parenting related threads lately.
So NariaDreaming - this is what you call an inviting culture to jump into for us first time mom's that need/want advice and support? 18 other people have liked this post already so obviously 18 other people agree with her and don't want us to come here to ask our parenting questions.
Just wondering where we belong after we have our babies if we don't have an active BMB to go to?
tattling to the teacher always goes over well.
FIRST OF ALL, Nelly was being tongue in cheek. Second of all, when in the world does it go over well to breeze into a room full of people and whine about the culture of the room? Third of all, welcome. We like people as long as they're not assholes and we have a wealth of knowledge and wine and snark to share.
Post by Cherhorowitz on Feb 23, 2017 10:48:28 GMT -5
I will say, the first time I posted a Parenting-related thread, I heard things like "I deal with emotionally abused children and I never encountered that" which fucking sucks when you're trying to do the best you can and you want the best for your kid. So, I've refrained from posting a lot of kid-related questions because my child is pretty sacred to me and while I'm willing to hear constructive criticism, I don't need my child torn apart. I would never jump into a marriage or money problem thread and say "I don't have marriage or money problems!" Because it's rather tone deaf. I expect the same respect when I'm talking about my kid. You don't have that problem? I'm happy for you. But at that moment, I'm looking for advice and commiseration, not gloating.
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