So maybe they did it for the internet attention? A way to go viral?
We also kept names a secret and I sort of wish other people (IRL) would too. I like the element of surprise. Plus when friends tell me what they are thinking, they always ask me for feedback. Most of the time I have to lie and say I love it, even if I don't. Which isn't fair and I feel bad.
Post by mrsmonogrammed on Feb 24, 2017 18:04:27 GMT -5
I just don't understand why this is fun/funny? Like who does that?? I'd have been pissed if I was that MIL.
But +1 on keeping her name a secret until she was born. I thought that was fun. The way MIL acted at our "reveal" I swore that we wouldn't tell anyone the sex next time, but not sure if I'll hold up on that.
We also don't share names, but are also team green and never really know what we are going with ha. I think that's a pretty common secret though, at least in my IRL circle.
I actually think this could easily be a pretty hurtful secret too. It sounds like they have a good relationship with her MIL, so maybe it's a TETO situation. But to answer the original question I personally could definitely not keep it a secret from either of our parents! It wouldn't be fun for me either, I'd want to tell them updates and I know they'd want to hear them.
Post by jillywilly on Feb 24, 2017 20:15:15 GMT -5
We basically told both sets of parents immediately both times, I just don't think it's a secret I could keep, but we also live close to both. We also didn't keep the sex or name a secret, but I think being able to refer to W by his name openly while I was still pregnant helped me to connect with him/the pregnancy. If/when we do it again, there's about a .00001% chance anything will be a secret, at least with our families, but we're both exceptionally bad at surprises in general.
Post by musicfrk2002 on Feb 25, 2017 0:20:51 GMT -5
I'd be pissed if I were the MIL. Kind of rude to be the only one in the dark. But even if they kept it a secret from everyone...that's still weird to me.
We kept J's name a secret, but people did know what his middle name would be since it's H's first name and was both of our fathers' (both deceased) middle names.
We didn't really announce O's name until he was born. People close in our lives knew but otherwise we told people we were split between two.
I'm a terrible secret keeper and don't find the fun in keeping that information to myself. Also, my MIL was super butthurt that H didn't tell her he was proposing. She strormed off when we went over the next day to announce our engagement. So, lesson learned and we won't be keeping anything like that from her again. We didn't tell her that we were TTC and when we told her she said she thought we'd decided not to have kids. She can be a bit dramatic but is mostly amazing.
We didn't tell her that we were TTC and when we told her she said she thought we'd decided not to have kids.
You didn't tell your mother in law that while you had previously been having sex for fun, now you were going to start doing it more often, with purpose? Weird.
I'd love to know the reasoning. It seems jerky to keep it from one person. I definitely couldn't. We kept the name a secret but that was it. And a big hell's no to doing a fake sex reveal!
Post by jillywilly on Feb 25, 2017 18:59:09 GMT -5
jessila, my H not only told both his parents, my parents, and our siblings that he was proposing, my parents then went on to blab to EVERYONE before he actually did it, so the running joke is now that I was literally the last person we know to find out I was getting engaged. Secrets seriously don't work in my family.
I really want to know the reason behind the big secret. My mother in law would be so hurt if we kept it from her. Seems like a jerky move to me. We kept our top 3 (for both boy and girl) name choices a secret because we didn't want opinions from people. We've told family this one is a girl, but I won't "announce" she's a girl on Facebook until her arrival. Most people don't ask if we know sex and I'm guessing that's because we didn't find out with C so they are figuring we aren't finding out with this one either. We won't share top name choices. I highly doubt we will be set on a name before she comes anyways.
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