PgAL/PAIF Checkin 2/28-3/6

[RajahMD]

Welcome to the PgAL and PAIF check-in!

This is a weekly check-in for those of us who are pregnant after loss and/or infertility. Feel free to jump in any time!

The check-in is a safe place to share all things that come with being PgAL and/or PAIF. Use this thread to ask questions, share your excitement/rage/worries/whatever, or to ask for support!

Please come on in and let us know how you're doing, and know you are always welcome to come back throughout the week whenever you need to!! ♥

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PgAL Mantras

www.goodbyecb.proboards.com/thread/1034/pgal-mantras

PAIF Mantras

www.goodbyecb.proboards.com/thread/57254/welcome-paif-read-before-posting



**Loss/trigger warnings are not necessary here**


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Please feel free to include your IF and/or Loss history if this is your first check-in.

Weekly check-in:

How far along are you?

How are you feeling (physically/emotionally)?

Any appointments or milestones coming up this week?

Do you need any thoughts or prayers?

Anything else you'd like to share?

QoTW: Any thoughts about the nursery yet? Themes, colors, etc?

[mambo]

How far along are you? 12+5

How are you feeling (physically/emotionally)? Bleh stressed anxious. I'm nauseous and not hungry. And I'm sick so that sucks

Any appointments or milestones coming up this week? Had an appointment today. I am right around the time I lost the twins at 13 weeks and it took them just a second to long to find the baby's heartbeat. They did and baby is fine but that search sucks. I wasn't even offered any prenatal testing probably because I'm young but I've been asked the last two pregnancies. I hope everything is fine.

Do you need any thoughts or prayers?

Anything else you'd like to share? My liver is being cooperative momentarily so I hope it continues. But I'm still anxious about it.

QoTW: Any thoughts about the nursery yet? Themes, colors, etc? Mint and grey with Harry Potter accents because harry Potter and stuff. Maybe just grey because I'm not a Slytherin. I'm a ravenclaw.

[laurenash323]

13+3

Feeling ok most days. Today for some reason I'm exhausted and super nauseous. Of course dh and I planned to have filet mignon for dinner, so I'm sitting here gagging over the garlic smell and he's going to have a fantastic dinner.

OB appointment tomorrow. This is my first appt with her since being released from my specialist. Anxious to see her game plan for this pregnancy.

Just feeling super anxious these days. Have had some cramping, but that could be due to growing pains or all of the coughing I've been doing the last 2 weeks. I'll just feel happy when I hear baby tomorrow.

We think dd is going to move into our spare room and baby will take her room, so it'll be blue, with white furniture. I'm hoping this works because it'll make life so much easier since the spare room already has a bed and 2 dressers that dd can use and then everything including the crib is already in dd's old room.

[holdingouthope]

Thanks for the check-in RajahMD

How far along are you? 10w5d

How are you feeling (physically/emotionally)? Physically, a little better than complete crap. Emotionally, OK. Just want NIPT results ASAP.

Any appointments or milestones coming up this week? Nope. I had my NIPT labs drawn yesterday; should get results sometime next week.

Do you need any thoughts or prayers? Not at the moment, thanks

Anything else you'd like to share? I need to step away from the carbs and the salt. Ugh. But that's all that makes my nausea calm down!

QoTW: Any thoughts about the nursery yet? Themes, colors, etc? The room that will become this one's nursery was a HUGE debacle for me to paint when we bought this place 2.5 years ago (suffice it to say it was originally the "teal room from hell"), so I don't plan to repaint this time around. That said, the wall colors are tan and white so it's kind of boring. Not sure what I'm going to do to jazz it up until I know the baby's sex, but I am leaning toward an elephant theme.

[wannabmama]

How far along are you? 13w4d

How are you feeling (physically/emotionally)? Physically way better, mostly back to usual with energy levels. Recurring headaches and some pains when I twist or couch, but otherwise pretty good. Emotionally ok...but nervous about the NIPT results. I keep telling myself after that, I can relax a little...but I know there's always another milestone to reach.

Any appointments or milestones coming up this week? Had u/s and a general check up this week. Got to see the babies and the. At the doc appt they used Doppler for the first time, I'd never heard the heartbeats before, it was a whole new level of surreal.

Do you need any thoughts or prayers? If you can spare a good thought for our NIPT results.

Anything else you'd like to share? I think MH is getting more excited and connected to it all, which makes me so happy. He had a hard time in the beginning...it's so foreign and yes so disconnected from the experience ya know?

QoTW: Any thoughts about the nursery yet? Themes, colors, etc? We are team green so something neutral. Right now we are thinking pale yellow and green with maybe a light Winnie the Pooh theme or maybe barnyard or forest animals. We've been hesitant to think too much about it...but we probably should start!

[Deleted]

Hey y'all. I've been reading this post with you all for weeks but this is my first check-in. I just intro'd and I'm trying to brave myself to be involved.

Anyway, my history: Had a healthy baby in January 2015, first pregnancy, no complications. Started TTC again in May 2016, BFP in August. Was so excited, stocked up on newborn diapers and baby carriers. Was pregnant at the same time as two of my best friends - both fellow Jan moms. Then, I started bleeding. Passed a couple large clots. Went in for a scan and I was showing several small gestational sacs. Sent for a more detailed scan and it was a molar pregnancy. Required an emergency D&C on my anniversary weekend (relevant because the doctors wouldn't let me go out of town). Sent for weekly blood tests until extremely high HCG levels came back to zero (<5). They hit that benchmark at the end of October and that started my 6 month wait. However, I didn't do a great job at that because I ended up with elevated levels at the end of December that are now a fetus. Oops.

So, that's me. That's also the first time I've talked about it here. Or much at all. As for the check-in:

How far along are you? 13w today

How are you feeling (physically/emotionally)? I'm ready to be less exhausted all the time. I feel like my marriage is in shambles because all I want to do is sleep all the time. Which kind of gives a view of my stellar mental state as well.

Any appointments or milestones coming up this week? Nope. Well. I guess Saturday is 13w3d, beginning of the second trimester. I'm hopefully clinging to every small signal that everything is going to be okay.

Do you need any thoughts or prayers? No, but thank you.

Anything else you'd like to share? It's all above. I'm so sorry this is so long.

QoTW: Any thoughts about the nursery yet? Themes, colors, etc? I Googled yesterday. I never finished my first child's room so I sincerely doubt any future children will get one. Right now my big struggle is whether or not we need a new crib.

[laurenash323]

Had my appointment with OB today. I had convinced myself something would be wrong, I even had a dream I lost the baby...but everything was great. She gave me a big hug and reassured me everything will be good. She's doing cervical checks every 2 weeks, so I'll get to see baby a lot which will be great.

[Deleted]

mambo, I'm finally reading through these and I'm a major Potterhead. My son's nursery was supposed to be HP but I suck so it didn't happen. But if you're a 'Claw, we did Navy and Blue with an owl lamp and Etsy cute stuff. Happy to share links

[Deleted]

laurenash323 hugs. We totally get where you're at - I think it's awesome that you have a supportive OB. More checks and more information sounds really helpful.

[springbeduk]

13 weeks today I think. Or 13+1. I'm usually good at math but am mixed up in this case. Anyway ... Edd 9/7 if if if if if

Not much for preggo symptoms but too many headaches this past week. Normal for me when not PG (and can get relief with triptans and ibuprofen); I had many fewer with dd so having them now adds to anxiety.

Already posted in separate thread about main worry/T&P need at the moment - panorama came back with elevated trisomy 13 risk. We have an ultrasound first thing tomorrow morning - much higher res than the one we had at almost 10 weeks. Hoping and praying it will suggest that everything is actually OK but even then will still not know for sure until can get an amnio.

My losses were both really early so I was almost starting to feel less PGAL anxiety until the panorama results were delayed then bad. So much for that.

Gtky:
UO (luckily it's Thursday!) But I don't really see the point of putting a lot of time, $ etc into nursery decor. Unless you are a very visual person and it'll really impact your state of mind and you expect to be spending a lot of time in the nursery rather than sitting out in living room or wherever to nurse. Baby won't know the difference. I mean, planning theme and picking out stuff can be fun, if you are into decor and have time/$. And I will totally admire the nice nurseries many of you are describing because they will be cute and represent a lot of thought and care you put into them. But I think these days people feel pressured to do all that even if they are short on time/$ and that is too bad. There are lots of other ways to also show baby is wanted, cared for, even without decorated nursery. But then again, I'm the weirdo who doesn't even have a nursery, and still has to figure out how to get space in our house for a big girl room for dd (starting with convincing h, who is from a place/culture where most kids do not have their own room or even a room shared with just a sibling, that it really will be important for her to have that). She still just sleeps in our room.

[wannabmama]

I hope the ultrasound goes well tomorrow springbeduk I'll be thinking of you guys!

[mambo]

springbeduk 13 today due date friend