Preschool and Elementary 2/28

[TJ]

leahb12
luvboston
mg0202
cinc1em
mrswillie

Any updates? What's going on in the preschool and elementary worlds? Everyone celebrating Dr. Seuss' birthday this week?

Today let's talk about bad influences at school. Do your kids have a certain classmate who is naughty? What is the biggest struggle? What are they learning from this other kid? How do you handle their behavior? Do you let the kids keep being friends? Tips? Tricks? Questions?

[TJ]

Feb 28, 2017 21:22:44 GMT -5 TJ said:

Any updates?

omg E has been a nightmare all week. She's so bad! I swear. I thought 3 was bad. Help me! Somebody please help me!

What's going on in the preschool and elementary worlds? Everyone celebrating Dr. Seuss' birthday this week?

Yes! It's been kinda fun dressing special ways all week. But tomorrow is wacky Wednesday and I'm just not so good at wacky.

Today let's talk about bad influences at school. Do your kids have a certain classmate who is naughty?
Yes! 2 actually. Ugh.

What is the biggest struggle?
My biggest struggle is how much E adores gives hoodlums. They act so inappropriately, she copies them, and it just makes me nuts. I know she knows better.

What are they learning from this other kid?
Disrespect. Namely, calling names, sticking your tongue out, fart noises, spitting. General rudeness.

How do you handle their behavior?
I've tried many things. I've told her before that if she keeps imitating these kids, then they can't be friends anymore. But... I mean.... they're in the same class. And I'm not there. So I can't enforce that. So these days I'm just reminding her that it is rude and disrespectful to treat me/daddy/sister that way, and we are kind, loving, and respectful in this house.

Do you let the kids keep being friends?
As mentioned above, I wish I could stop it. But I can't.

Tips? Tricks? Questions?

[mrswillie]

I'm late, but can I be added?

DS1 is in pre-k at our neighborhood elementary school. It's 1/2 day. I'm going to be so sad when K is full day next year.

He just got his progress report and he's mastered most of the things they evaluate. The one I'm concerned about -- him telling personal stories and family traditions. I wonder what he's saying in there! Lol. The school is celebrating Dr. Seuss' b-day with a different theme every day next week - pj day, wacky day, red/blue, etc.

There's one particular little girl in DS's class who's always being spoken to. He knows what she does is wrong and that she's always getting in trouble. He's not friends with her, probably because she's a pain in the ass. He claims all these other reasons that he's a bad boy when he does something wrong. Lol

[TJ]

Welcome mrswillie. You've been added!

He sounds so much better behaved than E is acting lately. I'm kinda jealous.

[mrswillie]

TJ not all the time. Lately, he's been torturing the crap out of DS2. He's pretty good, for the most part, and loves to ask am I being a good boy every 5 minutes. He doesn't nap during the day so usually has an awful meltdown at least 1x week late afternoon/early evening.

[mg0202]

@tj. Everyone told me 2 was bad, 3 is horrible, and 4 was easy. They are all liars. While she is slightly better still has tantrums, whines, crys etc.


J used to be an independent. Did her own thing, didn't care what the other kids were doing, what they said, or what they wore. That has changed which makes me sad. I know it is normal, but I loved when she didn't care. Now it is I want to wear X because somebody is wearing it, or I want this toy because this person has it.

There are 2 kids who stand out at her school. One is so naughty, never listens, still bites!, you can tell the teachers get frustrated. J does not lime to play with him and tends to avoid him. I do feel a bit bad, the little I see his home life seems to be a wreck. I don't want him left out, but I don't want her to copy him. I just tell her he makes bad choices and to tell him no, but when he makes goid choices to be nice to him.

The other is a mean girl, I can't believe it at 4, but she is. She picks a clique and excludes others, makes fun of them, tells them what to do. But she always has fun toys, dresses well, etc. So a lot of girls follow her. I tried talking to J about it, but she says, but she's my friend. No J, she isn't. There class got so big they split it into 2 classes, girl went J stayed in original class. I was so happy! No great tips, I just got lucky.

I work with her to make her own choices, not worry about the other kids. But it is hard, of course she wants to fit in. There are 2 girls she is really good friends with who I really like so I encourage those friendships.

[luvboston]

DD went on vaca with DH to his parents and got hives. She still has them 2 weeks later and they are itchy.



I'm thinking of calling the allergist as it shouldn't take this long for them to go away especially when she was on Zyrtec for 7 days.

She's jet lagged which pretty much sucks BC the other kids are wide awake until 10:30.

There are two kids at her school who are a horror show. 1 is a follower who does whatever the lead girl does and they are mean to DD. The lead girl purposely won't sit next to DD and taunts her and at one point had DD running after her each morning because she would say she wanted to sit next to her and tell DD to come. The two girls would then purposely sit on carpet squares with no empty seats around them. They also pinch her cheeks and taunt her with toys.

The mother of the lead girl staged an intervention which infuriated me a couple of months ago.
Thank goodness next year the girl is going to daycare.
The teacher has been coaching the lead girl to behave better.
I purposely made play dates with everyone else in the class except those two so now DD looks for other people.

I can't figure out what to do with DD this summer. Has anyone done a Y camp?