What is the this thing with the woman opening oysters(?) on Facebook. I have this friend, who I unfollowed a while ago, who is constantly posting them. I see them when I go to stalk her page and I get so confused as to what is going on. Is this a money making direct sales thing? It just seems stupid to me.
Disclaimer: I've never watched one of the videos so I really have e no idea about it.
Diagnosis: PCOS TTC since 1/12 IUI x 3- BFN IVF #1- OCT/ NOV 2013-BFN FET #1- February 12 2014- M/C at 5+4 FET #2- July 2014- BFN IVF #2- 11/9/14 Transferred 1 BB expanding blast Baby girl born 7/26/15 Hysteroscopy/D&C/Polyp removal- 10/16 Unexpected BFP 12/16- EDD: 8/11/17- It's a Boy!
Diagnosis: PCOS TTC since 1/12 IUI x 3- BFN IVF #1- OCT/ NOV 2013-BFN FET #1- February 12 2014- M/C at 5+4 FET #2- July 2014- BFN IVF #2- 11/9/14 Transferred 1 BB expanding blast Baby girl born 7/26/15 Hysteroscopy/D&C/Polyp removal- 10/16 Unexpected BFP 12/16- EDD: 8/11/17- It's a Boy!
What is the this thing with the woman opening oysters(?) on Facebook. I have this friend, who I unfollowed a while ago, who is constantly posting them. I see them when I go to stalk her page and I get so confused as to what is going on. Is this a money making direct sales thing? It just seems stupid to me.
Disclaimer: I've never watched one of the videos so I really have e no idea about it.
Yes, it's an MLM thing. They find pearls for people. The people pay them to do this.
Post by mrsbeachcat on Mar 2, 2017 12:11:25 GMT -5
I've never really understood the peeing/pooping in front of your spouse thing.
I love not having a period. I hope I never get one again.
I don't understand the need to have one or more bathrooms per bedroom in houses. I spend maybe 15 minutes a day in the bathroom. It seems incredibly wasteful not to be able to share/schedule around each other. Probably wouldn't want to share with like 8 people, but I disagree with my MIL that we need to move so that Bill can have his own bathroom.
My UO: I dislike fussy "fancy" restaurants that give you like, 4 ravioli as your meal.
Signed, Someone who paid $26 for some tiny pasta last night and spent the night waking up because she was so hungry.
Why is it weird for men to purchase pads or tampons for their SOs? It's household stuff.
Not weird at all! I guess it came from a more personal experience and being Type A to the point of it biting me in the ass, that if I can do it myself, why wouldnt I? This stemming from his inability to follow simple directions of picking out a popcorn brand for me. He does it, but gets frustrated in uncharted grocery aisles
But overall, hence why I posted in UO. Seems as though it's a true UO.
My dad used to hold up the giant bag of pads (just like the gif) and yell "Who's bandaids are these?!" when unloading groceries at home lol
mrsbeachcat, I love to eat so that would bother me.
I think this might be a bit controversial of an UO but here goes- I think weight is a very difficult subject to talk about, about as difficult as politics and religion. I think you're always going to offend someone when it's discussed.
Less controversial- I don't care for men who sing falsetto, except of course for Jeff Buckley who had the voice of an angel.
I don't believe in hiding my behaviors to keep the magic alive. H and I have a very loving marriage and an active sex life and I have farted, burped, peed, pooped, changed sanitary products, groomed myself, and various other gross things in front of him. My life is too busy to worry about what he sees.
I love how my H has watched me birth our baby (he was front row for all 2 hours of my pushing), has wiped my postpartum blood off our bathroom floor, and watches me pick my nose on the regular... yet I'm still not comfortable farting in front of him. Like, why is THAT my hard limit?
Good clarification! It was directed at you in the sense that your post reminded me of this, but I recall a J15 convo many moons ago when multiple people talked about not peeing or pooping in front of their spouses.
Someone was shocked that Id pump in front of my husband and mentioned how I should save some mystery for the bedroom. I was EPing, WTF else was I supposed to do?! I dont think Ive ever wanted to throat punch someone harder.
WTF is it a big mystery that breastmilk comes from breasts???
Post by kristhegirl on Mar 2, 2017 13:11:46 GMT -5
italianmommy My husband caught Elena, and totally watched Max come into the world, but farts are squarely blamed on the dog.
We don't use the bathroom in front of each other at all. This has literally never been a problem - I don't even really like going with Elena. Peeing and pooping are nice, private moments.
lynnyloo, my blood would be boiling. I have a hard time with go fund me in general, but that level is just beyond. It bothers me because culturally I hate the me me me aspect. It's one thing when someone knows about someone else's struggle and sets it up to help them, much like you'd start a collection for someone in a bad spot like a death in the family or other unexpected emergency. But you don't do it yourself.
lynnyloo that seems like a lot of extra, expensive, procedures that given the diagnosis (?) She posted don't make all that much sense. Unless there is a specific reason why she needs ICSI, uterine doppler checks, placenta biopsy, and PGS testing I would be seriously side eyeing her clinic/RE. Obviously I don't know her circumstances but I'm pretty sure that one ectopic, though really tough to go through I'm sure, doesn't make all of the extras necessary.
Diagnosis: PCOS TTC since 1/12 IUI x 3- BFN IVF #1- OCT/ NOV 2013-BFN FET #1- February 12 2014- M/C at 5+4 FET #2- July 2014- BFN IVF #2- 11/9/14 Transferred 1 BB expanding blast Baby girl born 7/26/15 Hysteroscopy/D&C/Polyp removal- 10/16 Unexpected BFP 12/16- EDD: 8/11/17- It's a Boy!
lynnyloo, I agree - it would be different if it was their only option and they had no children.
So my cousin is adopting a child internationally. They have one child already. Her and her H are very religious and teachers so do not have a lot of disposable income. They have been fundraising to fund this adoption for a year now - hitting up family and friends and also selling items so its not all asking for money. However, this kind of turns me off. I'm not really sure how to word it - why don't they adopt stateside if they can't afford an international adoption. I also need to note that they do not plan to adopt a baby - probably age 2+. I feel bad saying all this but its been bothering me for quite some time.
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Post by italianmommy on Mar 2, 2017 14:08:52 GMT -5
This may sound callous, but if you can't fork up the funds to make/adopt the child, then I worry about the funds available for long-term care of said child. KIDS AINT CHEAP, YA'LL.
Post by lovealwaysalison on Mar 2, 2017 14:09:55 GMT -5
I finally caved and subscribed to HBO because if I had to watch the limited amount of Sesame Street episodes available on Hulu one more time I was gonna go bananas.
I'm not super impressed with the HBO take on it. I don't like that they changed the words to the Elmo's World song. And what happened to Dorothy??
And the Twilight parody with Cookie Monster as a Yumpire was disturbing. And the segments are all slightly more annoying now.
I did not expect to have such strong opinions on Sesame Street but here I am.
This may sound callous, but if you can't fork up the funds to make/adopt the child, then I worry about the funds available for long-term care of said child. KIDS AINT CHEAP, YA'LL.
Exactly! I think that is what I was getting at but not communicating. If they can't afford to adopt on their own, how will they be able to raise the child without asking for money?
BFP #1 December 2012 - MMC January 2013, D&C February 2013 BFP #2 October 2014 - DD arrived July 16, 2015 BFP #3 July 2016 - MC @ 9 weeks August 2016 BFP #4 Due January 2, 2018 - Please stick baby!
Post by mrsbeachcat on Mar 2, 2017 14:17:07 GMT -5
I thought of one that I think will be potentially controversial! I don't like those shirts that say "the future is female". I would prefer it if they said something like "the future is equality".
Post by kristhegirl on Mar 2, 2017 14:21:25 GMT -5
I have friends who adopted (stateside) after several years of IF. They asked for help for the $10k that the adoption would cost above and beyond the average cost to have a baby. They even had some statistical backup on the fundraising page.
I was still uncomfortable with it, but they haven't asked for money publicly since the adoption. Also, happily, within a year they found out they were pregnant and now have two kids. They did not ask for money for the second kid.
I'm glad that you have 20 to 50 grand just sitting in the bank collecting interest italianmommy and sarahh. I sure as hell don't and I'm still perfectly capable of raising my children without handouts or asking people for money.
I kind of see the point you are trying to make here, but I'm not seeing the correlation between dropping a large sum of money at one time and not being able to care for a child. Yes, kids are expensive, but it's an expense that's incurred over a lifetime, or at least 18 years.
Eta: I don't agree with go fund me for adoption or IVF costs. I think insurance companies need to realize that people don't choose to do IVF because it's fun and cover it. I disagree with the sentiment that because I couldn't afford to do IVF without insurance coverage to have my daughter then I must be unable to care for her and see that her needs are met financially.
Diagnosis: PCOS TTC since 1/12 IUI x 3- BFN IVF #1- OCT/ NOV 2013-BFN FET #1- February 12 2014- M/C at 5+4 FET #2- July 2014- BFN IVF #2- 11/9/14 Transferred 1 BB expanding blast Baby girl born 7/26/15 Hysteroscopy/D&C/Polyp removal- 10/16 Unexpected BFP 12/16- EDD: 8/11/17- It's a Boy!
I'm glad that you have 20 to 50 grand just sitting in the bank collecting interest italianmommy and sarahh . I sure as hell don't and I'm still perfectly capable of raising my children without handouts or asking people for money.
I kind of see the point you are trying to make here, but I'm not seeing the correlation between dropping a large sum of money at one time and not being able to care for a child. Yes, kids are expensive, but it's an expense that's incurred over a lifetime, or at least 18 years.
Oh girl I most certainly don't have that kind of money in the bank - nor do I ever think I will. And I hear what you're saying about up front cost vs costs over time. I think I'm just so turned off by the GoFundMe instances mentioned, that in my cynical mind my gut reaction was directed towards those individuals.
nutmeg8484, I think what I'm trying to say is if you can't afford to do it on your own, wait until you can. My cousin is in her 20s. If she can't afford to do it now, wait a few years until you are in a better place.
BFP #1 December 2012 - MMC January 2013, D&C February 2013 BFP #2 October 2014 - DD arrived July 16, 2015 BFP #3 July 2016 - MC @ 9 weeks August 2016 BFP #4 Due January 2, 2018 - Please stick baby!
I thought of one that I think will be potentially controversial! I don't like those shirts that say "the future is female". I would prefer it if they said something like "the future is equality".
Oh I'm with you. Maybe it's partially boy mom thing? Like, it feels a bit like "the future is female" means I'm raising people that will not be a part of the future.
mrsbeachcat I am not a huge fan of shirts that say cutesy things. But my mil called me to tell em she got DS this shirt and I am so excited for him to wear it.
Post by lovemyirishtwins on Mar 2, 2017 14:42:52 GMT -5
Re: magic if dh and I ever had "it" it was gone the second I made him smell my undies when my water broke.
One of the many reason I love my dh is that he did not flinch or make a face when I exploded a toilet right before I gave birth to V. He just help my IV and then helped me walk back to my bed.
I don't love the idea of a go fund me for IVF or adoption, but people can ask for whatever they like so long as they are okay with being told no. I don't think it's fair to say that if they don't have the funds up front that they shouldn't try to expand their families. People get pregnant all the time without 30k in the bank and no one is telling them they are worried about their ability to care for the child...
ETA I would *probably* donate if someone close to me set up a fund like this.
I don't love the idea of a go fund me for IVF or adoption, but people can ask for whatever they like so long as they are okay with being told no. I don't think it's fair to say that if they don't have the funds up front that they shouldn't try to expand their families. People get pregnant all the time without 30k in the bank and no one is telling them they are worried about their ability to care for the child...
My thoughts exactly. If we did IVF we'd have to take out a loan or ask for family help. I'm not big on gofundmes for personal reasons, but this kind of fundraising I don't side eye because we could have been in this boat. And we are having no issues raising our kid financially.
DX: Unexplained, possible Endo. October 2014: Letrozole + Trigger + IUI = BFP!!! Beta #1: 32 Beta #2: 77. Little Miss E born July 9th, 2015 Previously DarcyHermione
I finally caved and subscribed to HBO because if I had to watch the limited amount of Sesame Street episodes available on Hulu one more time I was gonna go bananas.
I'm not super impressed with the HBO take on it. I don't like that they changed the words to the Elmo's World song. And what happened to Dorothy??
And the Twilight parody with Cookie Monster as a Yumpire was disturbing. And the segments are all slightly more annoying now.
I did not expect to have such strong opinions on Sesame Street but here I am.
Do you have Hulu+? They have 3 full seasons of Sesame at 25 episodes a season. I have HBOgo and Hulu and Hulu is far, far better and only $12/mo (no commercials!)
Post by queenofcats on Mar 2, 2017 15:14:25 GMT -5
It's like saying "don't have sex if you can't afford a child." Obviously that can't happen. Yes, kids are expensive, yes IVF is expensive. But I don't really know anyone who can just swing IVF or adoption out of pocket without asking for help/taking out loans/etc.
DX: Unexplained, possible Endo. October 2014: Letrozole + Trigger + IUI = BFP!!! Beta #1: 32 Beta #2: 77. Little Miss E born July 9th, 2015 Previously DarcyHermione
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