Not a big fan of princess stuff but if something's a buck, I'll buy it. DD had a "birthday princess" outfit for her first birthday. $5 on clearance.
Yesterday DD got up and said, "I want to wear something pretty." Here I am sporting maternity pants and an old sweatshirt. Some of the girly stuff has to be nature.
She's only seen Frozen once and no other princess movies, yet she loves them!
The princess thing for me may be more of the fact that she is girl automatically means she gets called princess. Why not sport or champ? I won't go out of my way to buy her princess stuff but if it's free she will wear it. She also has no idea what a princess is. She got her first castle for Christmas and to her it's just a doll house really. She hasn't watched any princess movies. She did go to a princess and frog event at our zoo a few weeks ago and talks about how the princess was sad because she lost her ball but the frog and her became friends because he found her ball!
I really hate when someone find out the sex of their baby and then says I don't know how to be a boy/ girl mum.
I don't know how to be a girl mom. I mean I know you parent he same way OBVIOUSLY. But I feel bad for her that I'm not girly, fashionable, or crafty. I can't teach her things that I as a adult still struggle to grasp. I was raised by my dad who gave me bull hair cuts, I wore hand me down clothes from my brothers and didn't wear make up until after high school. I seriously feel bad that I won't be able to teach C some thins I see other moms teaching their daughters- sewing, crafting, nails, hair, make up.
I cried not because I was sad about having a girl but sad FOR my girl that I couldn't be who I know one day she is going to want me to be. Just saying..
I really hate when someone find out the sex of their baby and then says I don't know how to be a boy/ girl mum.
I don't know how to be a girl mom. I mean I know you parent he same way OBVIOUSLY. But I feel bad for her that I'm not girly, fashionable, or crafty. I can't teach her things that I as a adult still struggle to grasp. I was raised by my dad who gave me bull hair cuts, I wore hand me down clothes from my brothers and didn't wear make up until after high school. I seriously feel bad that I won't be able to teach C some thins I see other moms teaching their daughters- sewing, crafting, nails, hair, make up.
I cried not because I was sad about having a girl but sad FOR my girl that I couldn't be who I know one day she is going to want me to be. Just saying..
but who's to say she will even want to know those things? And even if she does you can find places that can teach her, she wants to know how to do makeup - take her to sephora for a makeover, nails - take her for manicure etc plus there's always youtube. And basic sewing is not a gender specific task, it's useful for everyone to know how to thread a needle and sew on a button.
You can find a way of nurturing her own interests without being the one to teach her everything. None of us are that well rounded
My mum never taught me how to do my hair or my makeup and personal style is something that everyone evolves as they grew up (even if your style is jeans and a hoodie). She was 100% not interested and could not teach me anything about Air Force Cadets, swimming, lacrosse or 90's punk rock but she did find ways to support and encourage my interests.
I really hate when someone find out the sex of their baby and then says I don't know how to be a boy/ girl mum.
I don't know how to be a girl mom. I mean I know you parent he same way OBVIOUSLY. But I feel bad for her that I'm not girly, fashionable, or crafty. I can't teach her things that I as a adult still struggle to grasp. I was raised by my dad who gave me bull hair cuts, I wore hand me down clothes from my brothers and didn't wear make up until after high school. I seriously feel bad that I won't be able to teach C some thins I see other moms teaching their daughters- sewing, crafting, nails, hair, make up.
I cried not because I was sad about having a girl but sad FOR my girl that I couldn't be who I know one day she is going to want me to be. Just saying..
My girl won't be learning those things from me either. There are women in our lives that can help her with areas where I fall short.
I choose to focus on the basic things that will shape and form her at her core. Those things are things I know I can teach and give her. I will be an example of a strong, independent woman for her. I will make sure she knows the importance of education and that her body is hers and no one gets to tell her what to do with it or touch.
I get the disappointment, but there is so much you can and will teach and give her. Try to focus on that.
I don't know how to be a boy Mom. In my head, I was meant to be a girl Mom. I had all the experiences and every major talk planned out in my head. I wanted tutus and dresses. I have always heard "boys are gross" "boys are stinky". It's apparently exceptable for boys to burp and fart loudly, which I would never allow. I just wasn't ready for it. I've seen little boys put things between their legs and pretend it's a giant penis. What do I even say to J if he does that? This is why I had some disappointment in having a boy.
Fast forward, and J loves all the Princesses and castles. He likes trains too, and he may be the next crocodile hunter. He's not wild and crazy like everyone told me boys are and he's not gross... Yet. He's mine through and through, but I totally get it. I have many feels on it.
I don't know how to be a boy Mom. In my head, I was meant to be a girl Mom. I had all the experiences and every major talk planned out in my head. I wanted tutus and dresses. I have always heard "boys are gross" "boys are stinky". It's apparently exceptable for boys to burp and fart loudly, which I would never allow. I just wasn't ready for it. I've seen little boys put things between their legs and pretend it's a giant penis. What do I even say to J if he does that? This is why I had some disappointment in having a boy.
Fast forward, and J loves all the Princesses and castles. He likes trains too, and he may be the next crocodile hunter. He's not wild and crazy like everyone told me boys are and he's not gross... Yet. He's mine through and through, but I totally get it. I have many feels on it.
My sweet little girl burps and farts loudly and thinks potty humor is hysterical.
When I thought about having a girl, it was the pre-teen & teenage years that terrified me. All the peer pressure, and gossip, and sexualization of young girls, and the sass and defiance...but boys deal with those things too, and really I'm probably more equipped to understand the girl side of the issues. Either way, our kids are growing up in a different world than we did, and none of us really know how to parent through some of the things our kids will face. We just have to raise kind and decent people, who trust that they can come to us when they need to, and we'll figure it out.
comicSans, I think you nailed it on the head when you said "more equipped to understand the girl side of issues." I think that's reason number 1 why people say they aren't girl or boy moms.
It's hard to parent period. But two boys was not how I anticipated my life going. It's good. But I had no ideas in my mind of what that might look like. My boy is wild and crazy, too much energy, sociable, talks all the time... I guess I didn't expect his personality. It's like a whole other world with him and I blame a lot of it on testosterone but it may just be him. Maybe the world wasn't ready for a baby girl becole.
I don't know how to be a girl mom. I mean I know you parent he same way OBVIOUSLY. But I feel bad for her that I'm not girly, fashionable, or crafty. I can't teach her things that I as a adult still struggle to grasp. I was raised by my dad who gave me bull hair cuts, I wore hand me down clothes from my brothers and didn't wear make up until after high school. I seriously feel bad that I won't be able to teach C some thins I see other moms teaching their daughters- sewing, crafting, nails, hair, make up.
I cried not because I was sad about having a girl but sad FOR my girl that I couldn't be who I know one day she is going to want me to be. Just saying..
but who's to say she will even want to know those things? And even if she does you can find places that can teach her, she wants to know how to do makeup - take her to sephora for a makeover, nails - take her for manicure etc plus there's always youtube. And basic sewing is not a gender specific task, it's useful for everyone to know how to thread a needle and sew on a button.
You can find a way of nurturing her own interests without being the one to teach her everything. None of us are that well rounded
I can say that she may possibly want to know, I use to pray every night that a mom would come along and help my dad out with this stuff.
All I'm saying is to me, i can 100% say that I was scared/am still scared of raising a girl. I don't feel like I am as good with her as other moms could be. A lot less scared to raise the boy. I am happy to use resources for her and those same resources were available to me as well, but it's not the same as your mom teaching you.
Also, I know sewing isn't gender specific and my husband knows how to and does fix his own buttons but for the most part, you don't see men going to their moms asking them to quilt. It's possible my boy might one day, and I'll be just as ashamed of myself as if Chloe were to ask me, because I won't be able to do that. She
comicSans, I think you nailed it on the head when you said "more equipped to understand the girl side of issues." I think that's reason number 1 why people say they aren't girl or boy moms.
Quilting?! I can sew, but quilting is not my jam. Sorry children, hope your great grandma is around long enough to teach you her art if you're interested. Or we can learn together.
Quilting?! I can sew, but quilting is not my jam. Sorry children, hope your great grandma is around long enough to teach you her art if you're interested. Or we can learn together.
yeah, my mum is an amazing seamstress and i can sew a little but lol no to quilting. No one in my family as far as i know has ever quilted. That's what craft fairs are for.
My point is that we can all do certain things well and certain things we have no clue. And we have no idea what our kids will want to do, not all girls want to sit around in tutus drinking tea and not all boys want to collect worms and roll in mud. Teach them what you know, and find someone that can for what you don't
Quilting?! I can sew, but quilting is not my jam. Sorry children, hope your great grandma is around long enough to teach you her art if you're interested. Or we can learn together.
yeah, my mum is an amazing seamstress and i can sew a little but lol no to quilting. No one in my family as far as i know has ever quilted. That's what craft fairs are for.
My point is that we can all do certain things well and certain things we have no clue. And we have no idea what our kids will want to do, not all girls want to sit around in tutus drinking tea and not all boys want to collect worms and roll in mud. Teach them what you know, and find someone that can for what you don't
And our kids have YouTube. They'll probably go there before they'd ever think of asking us how to do something.
yeah, my mum is an amazing seamstress and i can sew a little but lol no to quilting. No one in my family as far as i know has ever quilted. That's what craft fairs are for.
My point is that we can all do certain things well and certain things we have no clue. And we have no idea what our kids will want to do, not all girls want to sit around in tutus drinking tea and not all boys want to collect worms and roll in mud. Teach them what you know, and find someone that can for what you don't
And our kids have YouTube. They'll probably go there before they'd ever think of asking us how to do something.
Truth. Youtube has taught me more practical skills than both my parents combined.
I can barely sew, am not crafty, hate to cook and have no fashion sense. But I also can't play football or understand physics equations. I will nurture whatever DS wants to do and will find him the expert (and youtube videos) to teach him. I don't really feel inadequate as a parent in that regard (in other areas, yes!).
Yes, camping is fresh hell. No to bugs, dealing with weather, no beds, no bathrooms...just no. Staying in a cabin in the woods is as close to camping as I'll get.
Yes, camping is fresh hell. No to bugs, dealing with weather, no beds, no bathrooms...just no. Staying in a cabin in the woods is as close to camping as I'll get.
I'm all for hiking all day, cooking smores, and being outside. But I will not sleep outside anymore, I am too grouchy about it. I also need a nearby shower and actual bathroom. So not the real camping.
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