Birth Control?

[loves2shop4shoes]

Not sure if we've talked about this before, but I'm curious. What are you all doing for birth control now? I'm just getting to the place where I'm having the desire to get my freak on again (even though I have another 3 week wait ahead of me).

[loves2shop4shoes]

I'm honestly super torn on what to do. I've had both the Mirena and Paragard IUDs in the past with horrific results. Nuvaring made me fat. Yaz made me a certifiable bitch. The only thing that's ever worked well for me is the Orthocyclen pill, which my OB says is likely to reduce my milk supply.

Condoms seem so high school school. And pull and pray isn't effective. I enjoyed charting/NFP right before TTC, but with PCOS, my body doesn't necessarily give me predictable patterns.

I worry about hormones being passed to E in my milk. And I'm just not sure what to do. I'm so curious what's worked for others...

[wildflower810]

We did condoms between pregnancies and they were annoying, but worked. I didn't want anything hormonal because I knew we would be TTC within a few years.

If this kid is ever born, I think I'm trying an IUD. We aren't sure if we are having more or not, and I want a longer term plan.

[shawnabm1320]

Just dropping by to say that I'm not ready to discuss anything entering or exiting my vagina at this point

[linewifekat]

I'm paranoid and don't do hormonal birth control so we use condoms and pull it out.

[littleredfish]

Well DS is our condom AND mini pill fail surprise baby so DH got snipped. #teamnomorebabies

[flyinghorses6]

I'm going with the Mirena IUD.

I can't fathom taking a pill daily plus don't want systemic hormones (plus breastfeeding--and I hated the mini pill and had a huge hit to my supply).

Not interested in nuva ring for same reasons.

Condoms...ha ha that would just never happen at this point.

I'm only 28 so I don't want anything permanent for me or DH; although we aren't planning on having more children.

[shellbell]

Probably condoms. And exhaustion.
We are done done done, so I'm hoping DH will get a vasectomy.

[nomnom]

Nothing besides 4u2. Our IF diagnoses make it very unlikely I'd get pregnant without medical intervention. And I hate the hormonal stuff (like pills).

[Deleted]

We decided on permanent birth control. Since I had a csection I had my tubes tied during the procedure. If I'd been able to go vaginally DH would have gotten clipped.

[dancerspose]

This has been a debate in our household. I would prefer not to be on anything hormonal and DH hates condoms. With our IF struggles it's pretty unlikely we'd get pregnant again, at least soon, but Z was conceived on an unmediated cycle so we can't count on that.

All that is to say I have no clue what we're going to do. I'd honestly prefer to just go workout and let whatever is going to happen happen, but I DH is leaning towards adopting for our next child...

ETA - my PP OB appointment is next week so I plan to ask about my options then.

[staz]

I'm most likely doing an iud. We want to wait a bit before we think about #2.

[ls2012]

Doing Mirena here. I was on it before when I needed to get my hip replaced and it was freaking awesome. I had no monthly flow, my migraines were far fewer, and I lost weight. No guarantee that I'll have the same results this time, but I sure as heck would like to repeat it if I can.

[loves2shop4shoes]

An IUD would be far be the most convenient, but Paragard made my heavy, unpredictable PCOS periods 1000x worse. And Mirena was great for 2 years until it spontaneously expelled on me and lacerated my cervix.

Ugh. I'd get one of us clipped, but we'll likely want another one (or two).

Decisions, decisions!

[Deleted]

Mar 4, 2017 15:04:28 GMT -5 loves2shop4shoes said:

An IUD would be far be the most convenient, but Paragard made my heavy, unpredictable PCOS periods 1000x worse. And Mirena was great for 2 years until it spontaneously expelled on me and lacerated my cervix.

Ugh. I'd get one of us clipped, but we'll likely want another one (or two).

Decisions, decisions!

Two??!!??

[loves2shop4shoes]

Mar 4, 2017 15:06:43 GMT -5 @jacks605 said:

Mar 4, 2017 15:04:28 GMT -5 loves2shop4shoes said:

An IUD would be far be the most convenient, but Paragard made my heavy, unpredictable PCOS periods 1000x worse. And Mirena was great for 2 years until it spontaneously expelled on me and lacerated my cervix.

Ugh. I'd get one of us clipped, but we'll likely want another one (or two).

Decisions, decisions!

Two??!!??

Yeah. We're thinking 2-3 kids.

[shellbell]

loves2shop4shoes have you looked at nexplanon?

[loves2shop4shoes]

Mar 4, 2017 15:12:34 GMT -5 shellbell said:

loves2shop4shoes have you looked at nexplanon?

I actually know next to nothing about nexplanon. Does anyone have any experience with it?

[oldbaylover1024]

MH has a consultation for a vasectomy next week so... LOL

Before J I was on the nuva ring and loved it. After J I did the mini pill, then paragaurd and hated both. Since having J, I react horribly to any type of hormonal birth control, and my experience with paragaurd was horrendous (infections, slippage, pain, horrible periods...yuck all around). Mirena wasn't an option for me.

MH volunteered to have a vasectomy. We're 100% done having kids, so he's going for it. Much to my MIL's dismay... She doesn't want him to have one. #notyourmarriage

[shellbell]

Mar 4, 2017 15:35:29 GMT -5 loves2shop4shoes said:

Mar 4, 2017 15:12:34 GMT -5 shellbell said:

loves2shop4shoes have you looked at nexplanon?

I actually know next to nothing about nexplanon. Does anyone have any experience with it?

I don't personally, but I know people who have used it. It's an implant that goes in your arm.

[shellbell]

Mar 4, 2017 15:50:03 GMT -5 oldbaylover1024 said:

MH has a consultation for a vasectomy next week so... LOL

Before J I was on the nuva ring and loved it. After J I did the mini pill, then paragaurd and hated both. Since having J, I react horribly to any type of hormonal birth control, and my experience with paragaurd was horrendous (infections, slippage, pain, horrible periods...yuck all around). Mirena wasn't an option for me.

MH volunteered to have a vasectomy. We're 100% done having kids, so he's going for it. Much to my MIL's dismay... She doesn't want him to have one. #notyourmarriage

MIL should keep opinion to herself.

If DH gets snipped, I'm begging him not to even tell MIL.

[loves2shop4shoes]

Omg. oldbaylover1024, your MIL opined on your birth control? Good lord.

[nomnom]

Mar 4, 2017 16:07:24 GMT -5 loves2shop4shoes said:

Omg. oldbaylover1024, your MIL opined on your birth control? Good lord.

My MIL told MH he should get clipped. She doesn't know that he already did that once and had it undone 😂

[ellabee]

Mar 4, 2017 15:56:41 GMT -5 shellbell said:

Mar 4, 2017 15:35:29 GMT -5 loves2shop4shoes said:

I actually know next to nothing about nexplanon. Does anyone have any experience with it?

I don't personally, but I know people who have used it. It's an implant that goes in your arm.

I asked my OB about it and she was kinda down on it. She said it's more for young women who haven't given birth and may find iud insertion more painful. She said she's seen the majority of women who get the implants gain weight. She also said about half of the implants she does she's taking back out within 3 months.

[ellabee]

I'm thinking mirena, but I'm really paranoid it will affect my milk supply. I know the hormone release is localized instead of systemic, like a pill, but I've heard it can still have an impact.

[littleredfish]

Mar 4, 2017 15:50:03 GMT -5 oldbaylover1024 said:

MH volunteered to have a vasectomy. We're 100% done having kids, so he's going for it. Much to my MIL's dismay... She doesn't want him to have one. #notyourmarriage

Preach. MIL says were crazy for stopping at 3. I won't get into her thoughts on uneven numbers of children and the "neglect" they face, I could rage all day. I also get "you're so young" and "what if you change your mind". WE agree that WE are done. And if WE change our minds WE'll look into options then.

[wildflower810]

Mar 4, 2017 16:21:46 GMT -5 ellabee said:

I'm thinking mirena, but I'm really paranoid it will affect my milk supply. I know the hormone release is localized instead of systemic, like a pill, but I've heard it can still have an impact.

My sister has one and has continued bfing well past a year. I'm hoping I have as good of an experience with one as she's had with hers. I take her experience with a bit more weight, too, since we're related and thus our bodies have things in common.

[crazycatlady6]

I will only do a low dose pill if my periods get bad again with the Endo. If not, then I am not even going to think of it with all the IF struggles.

[cosmicav]

Oh yeah .....eventually I will want to have sex again....lol I just am in a shit place in recovery so it's not even on my mind.

We are planning on fertility tracking plus condoms. But let me be real....I do not want to be pregnant again for a long time. I like the idea of having 3-4 kids total but if there are more babies, I need a looooong hiatus from pregnancy. I don't do hormones well though so pills are not a great option, and I don't like the implant options either... I just don't know. I'd like to do something more long lasting/reliable for like the next 3 years but I just don't know what.

[notagoddess]

Abstinence will play some part in it. I don't want to have sex at 6 weeks pp. I need to feel more fully healed and ready. I'm hoping BFing will hold off my cycles for a while after that, and then maybe we'll use condoms for a bit. We want more kids and it took us 2 years to get pregnant with this one, so I'm fine with NTNP fairly soon.