Ditch em. All those clothes did for me was make me feel depressed. I feel better in clothes that fit, not ones I'm dreaming about or shoving myself into.
Does it make a difference that my weight hasn't changed? Though my hip bone shape may be forever different.
My shape didn't change dramatically after J, but it took me a long while to lose the weight and, by the time I had, I hated my worn looking wardrobe.
BUT you have to be ready to purge. I did a big purge when I was pregnant - got rid of a ton of non-maternity clothing I knew I didn't want to keep. Now I have clothes I'm willing to wear until I lose the weight and can replace them with new, better pieces.
It's a very personal decision, but I hated having clothing around/in the way that just didn't fit.
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Post by musicallyinclined on Mar 20, 2017 15:26:03 GMT -5
cosmicav, my 10 year reunion is in October and I'll be damned if I don't look good. I only keep in touch with a handful of high school friends, but I want the mean girls to take notice of my cute kids and rocking bod. Totally petty... I know.
Post by musicallyinclined on Mar 20, 2017 15:27:58 GMT -5
On the clothes note, I keep waiting to purge until my weight stabilizes. Also we are at the park and DS1 has a knack for befriending bossy kids and it's hilarious. This 4 year old girl is bossing him all around the play area and he is having a ball. Lord help me if he has a future wife like that!
Post by flyinghorses6 on Mar 20, 2017 15:34:06 GMT -5
I'm purging my closet soon. There's clothes I haven't worn since before my first pregnancy. And even stuff from college. My overall style has changed in the past few years and I need to just let go of the stuff i know I won't wear again. Probably once it gets warm enough to be in spring clothes consistently
Post by littleredfish on Mar 20, 2017 15:38:20 GMT -5
I boxed up all of my pre-preg clothes that don't fit and put them away downstairs so they aren't staring me in the face but they also aren't gone. I'm still not cleared to work out and probably won't be until my physio assessment so not much I can do about the weight loss yet other than eating right which is hard since BFing makes me want to eat everything.
It's going to be a slow road since I'm still wearing my brace and everything is creaking and cracking, but I have a wedding this July with a bunch of old college friends also attending and I'd like to look like I still have my life together. Right now I'm rocking a greasy bun of hair that hasn't been trimmed since probably before DS was conceived, dry skin on my forehead and pimples on my chin and nose (yay hormones), old pj pants and a milk stained nursing tank, and monstrous bags under my eyes that are only highlighted by yesterday's smeared mascara. So not looking as put together on the daily as I'd like.
I was just cleared last week from my OB but I'm just not ready personally. Just no energy for it.
Lil G needs a nap today. The lil guy is hangry today since he's tired so falls asleep nursing then wakes after 15/20 minutes starving. Miss O - couple good naps today.
flyinghorses6, I'm sorry this is a worry for you. It really sucks. G had some stridor issues that were really exacerbated by reflux and it was so draining. She slept upright on me for at least the first month of her life while we got the reflux under control. It was...rough. I don't know if the laryn-whatchmacallit is similar at all, but I really feel for you and hope you get answers and treatment soon.
oldbaylover1024, body issues are the worst. Especially after all we deal with while pregnant, having more or other issues when finally done being pregnant is such a sucky mind-fuck of a situation. Hugs
nomnom, I did the closet/clothes purge Saturday and it really feels good getting rid of all the "what if" clothes. Unfortunately, it left me with very few things but I like to think it'll be more therapeutic to eventually buy better looking and better fitting clothes, even though I detest shopping and spending on myself.
It's been a grueling few days around here. S is very colicky, G is toddlering in epic toddler style, A is being a frustrating teenage girl, and "D"H has been less than helpful with any of them or really anything around here. I swear, some days I am within a hair of totally losing my mind, and my temper. Today has been a bit easier (Thank God!) but I need to dig deep and find some better coping mechanisms for going forward.
flyinghorses6, I'm sorry this is a worry for you. It really sucks. G had some stridor issues that were really exacerbated by reflux and it was so draining. She slept upright on me for at least the first month of her life while we got the reflux under control. It was...rough. I don't know if the laryn-whatchmacallit is similar at all, but I really feel for you and hope you get answers and treatment soon.
oldbaylover1024, body issues are the worst. Especially after all we deal with while pregnant, having more or other issues when finally done being pregnant is such a sucky mind-fuck of a situation. Hugs
nomnom, I did the closet/clothes purge Saturday and it really feels good getting rid of all the "what if" clothes. Unfortunately, it left me with very few things but I like to think it'll be more therapeutic to eventually buy better looking and better fitting clothes, even though I detest shopping and spending on myself.
It's been a grueling few days around here. S is very colicky, G is toddlering in epic toddler style, A is being a frustrating teenage girl, and "D"H has been less than helpful with any of them or really anything around here. I swear, some days I am within a hair of totally losing my mind, and my temper. Today has been a bit easier (Thank God!) but I need to dig deep and find some better coping mechanisms for going forward.
Deep, deep breaths.
I asked MH to do one thing this weekend besides help with kids every now and then--wipe down two shelves that I can't reach. Didn't happen. I also do most overnight wake ups and Saturday morning I fed L, then prepped milk sippies for R&G and brought them downstairs because I was tired of trying to get MH to wake up and help.
I'm still almost 20 pounds over my prepregnancy weight. It hasn't changed for two weeks now. My diet is relatively healthy but I'm going to have to restrict calories and build muscle to get back to my previous weight, and honestly it's not a very high priority right now. The problem is that none of my clothes fit right. I'm not willing to get rid of them until I've given up on the weight loss.
This is me. I'm going to set a deadline for myself of maybe the end on the summer before reevaluating my wardrobe. Truth be told, though, I have clothes in 4 different sizes from various weight loss abs gains the last 5 years, another gift of infertility.
DH and I just signed up for a new gym today. No childcare, but more affordable than the Y. He works tomorrow so I start back Wednesday.
Post by dancerspose on Mar 20, 2017 18:10:11 GMT -5
Any large chested ladies have tips for exercising while BFing? I'm a little scared of the girls...is it just all about a really supportive sports bra and strapping them down?
Any large chested ladies have tips for exercising while BFing? I'm a little scared of the girls...is it just all about a really supportive sports bra and strapping them down?
I honestly wear two sports bras if I'm exercising while bfing. And try to empty them out before working out.
Any large chested ladies have tips for exercising while BFing? I'm a little scared of the girls...is it just all about a really supportive sports bra and strapping them down?
Eek - sorry for the huge link. It holds the girls down well, and comes in my size, AND the straps act like a nursing bra, even though it isn't technically a nursing bra. They Velcro in the front. It's a great bra.
Any large chested ladies have tips for exercising while BFing? I'm a little scared of the girls...is it just all about a really supportive sports bra and strapping them down?
Eek - sorry for the huge link. It holds the girls down well, and comes in my size, AND the straps act like a nursing bra, even though it isn't technically a nursing bra. They Velcro in the front. It's a great bra.
Thanks for sharing. Those are really interesting with the front adjustment. I am at have to invest in one.
Post by monicageller on Mar 20, 2017 20:30:26 GMT -5
ls2012 sorry things have been so tough. Make "D"H help!
flyinghorses6 I hope you figure out what's going on with R soon.
pivot I hope you get antibiotics and feel better soon!
I agree that it's way too soon to be getting rid of pre-pregnancy clothes. I am anxious to lose the weight and fit into my clothes again too, but I know it will not happen in 5 weeks. I think we all need to be patient with our bodies, and give yourself at least 6 months or so before getting rid of clothes. They being said, I haven't hesitated to buying some cheaper stuff to wear during the in between time.
With DD1 I gained 50lbs and it took me 6 months to fully lose all of the weight and fit back into my clothes so I was glad I didn't get rid of anything.
This time I didn't do anything differently other than having to chase a toddler and only gained 30lbs, I have about 8lbs left. Which is crazy to me since it was so hard last time. I also don't breastfeed so I can diet and exercise without concern. I do however need a purge of my closet. My style has changed a lot and I need to cut out the crap. I made an appt to bring clothes to consignment on Thursday so it's giving me a deadline! I will use the money earned toward new stuff for when I finish losing all the weight:)
Post by linewifekat on Mar 20, 2017 21:57:42 GMT -5
We're having a rough night already. Same symptoms from when I ate cabbage in something and it didn't agree with him. The only thing I can think of now that could be making his tummy upset is dark chocolate and caffeine I'm not sure how I'm going to parent without coffee.
Well something i ate has made these babes not happy and unable to poop. Lil G fot better after a warm bath and some massage. Guess Miss O is up for joke poor girl!
Paging @wineandcupcakes & @mrsbalwdin2012 (you're both pedi RNs correct??) the
TTMA about laryngomalacia. I am highly suspecting this in R. Her reflux has improved so much with the Prilosec--no more coughing or gagging at night. HOWEVER, Her breathing at night is giving me so much anxiety. I work in a SCN that takes care of mostly NAS babies and a few have had this as a side affect of a med that treated their withdrawal--but I know very little about it otherwise. Especially in a healthy full term baby. Obviously I'm going to talk to the pedi, but just curious if you guys or anyone else knows anything about this.
I'm going to try and record the sounds she's making tonight to show the pedi and get an ENT consult. I honestly think this kid can't sleep on her back. Wtf am I supposed to do?
This is up my alley. Lots of kids I work with have this. You are near Boston, right? If so, I HIGHLY recommend you go see Dr. Hartnick at Mass Eye & Ear. She will likely need a scope to determine if it's laryngomalacia, tracheomalacia or both. Most cases are managed by him and are a watch and wait sort of thing provided oxygenation is sufficient and the extent of the malacia isn't severe. Severe cases require a trach usually. It sounds super scary but it's not and the kids are gradually weaned off and have it removed entirely by 10 months to 2 years. That would be an absolute worst case so I'm sure she isn't in that category if she has a malacia at all.
My best guess is that the pedi may not be experienced in this and may overlook/misdiagnose so if you feel strongly about it, go the ENT route. But then again, a malacia wouldn't be the most likely issue anyways so chances are it's something they will handle.
This is pretty much my exact patient so let me know if you have questions. Does she have stridor? Malacias would be a constant issue and not as much at night only.
Just now logging on, so I'm glad that you were able to give some insight! I don't see a lot, if any of these types of pts so unfortunately I'm not much help.
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