Post by crazycatlady6 on Mar 21, 2017 11:38:31 GMT -5
pivot - that is awesome! I haven't decided which half I want to run this fall, depends on money as I would like to take a weekend away with DH and DS. I'm also not happy with the race in my city now that they have the half on Saturday and full on Sunday. It was all on Sunday until this year and I have multiple friends that run both distances so I can't see the full marathon runners unless I go to the city the next day which would be pushing it with a baby.
Post by crazycatlady6 on Mar 21, 2017 11:45:44 GMT -5
DH let me sleep all night which was awesome as I had a really rough day yesterday. I don't know if it's PPD/PPA or just a meltdown since R has had a lot of issues with gas since Thursday and has been a crying mess most of the day every day. We added gripe water and that seems to be helping.
Then cue massive guilt when i had the thought that I wish life was back the way it was before R arrived. Cue extra layer of guilt when thinking of the long struggle to have him. Thank goodness DH is home this week as he did the majority of feedings yesterday.
I need to find ways to relax and find my release. My 2 things before R were music and running and I'm on a music hiatus until May with my 2 wind ensembles and it still hurts to walk too far let alone think about running.
Post by flyinghorses6 on Mar 21, 2017 11:53:07 GMT -5
So sorry crazycatlady6 it's really hard when you're tired, your baby is being challenging, and you're hard on yourself, as most of us are. Be patient with yourself...and remember that you will get through. One day at a time is what I keep reminding myself when things seem so tough.
Can you do some yoga or stretching in quiet? Or with some light music you enjoy? Not the same as running/walking but might feel good and relaxing.
Poppy and I were just walking out the front door and JASON SEGAL was walking down our street and we almost ran right into him. Zomg.
This is a post you should share in the blinds thread on parenting!!!!!! That's awesoming!
Right? I was so excited! He filmed a movie in town last year but I never saw him, but they did a screening at the local historic movie theater last night so I guess he came back to town. He was so tall!
I signed up for my cities half marathon today. It's not until November but now I have something to work towards when working out/running. I need a goal to work towards or it's likely not to happen.
This is such a great idea! I never run if I don't have a race I am working toward, it's great motivation.
flyinghorses6 I didn't use to be a runner but once I got into it I loved it. I doubt I'll ever feeling great in a bathing suit again but I definitely feel my best when I'm running regularly.
crazycatlady6 That's a bummer that they moved the marathon. We run along side the marathoners and it's so motivating! I hope you can find a good race soon! Also sorry about the rough couple days. It's totally normal to feel that way sometimes. Babies are hard.
DH let me sleep all night which was awesome as I had a really rough day yesterday. I don't know if it's PPD/PPA or just a meltdown since R has had a lot of issues with gas since Thursday and has been a crying mess most of the day every day. We added gripe water and that seems to be helping.
Then cue massive guilt when i had the thought that I wish life was back the way it was before R arrived. Cue extra layer of guilt when thinking of the long struggle to have him. Thank goodness DH is home this week as he did the majority of feedings yesterday.
I need to find ways to relax and find my release. My 2 things before R were music and running and I'm on a music hiatus until May with my 2 wind ensembles and it still hurts to walk too far let alone think about running.
Sorry for the long post.
Hugs to you! Just know that the feelings that you have are normal. I could have written that word for word. There is nothing wrong with missing your old life. I have the same guilt as we also struggled to get pregnant. But some days I wish I could just go to lunch or go shopping or take a nap like I used to. But then I remember that while I had the luxury of doing those things, there was also a huge void in my life by not being able to get pregnant and that hurt so much more. Having a fussy, crying baby does not help either. One of my girls is super gassy and we have been using gas drops, which seem to work better for her than the gripe water did. Just remember that this phase of life is temporary. That's what I have to keep telling myself to make it to the next day while I'm struggling with ppd/ppa.
Post by loves2shop4shoes on Mar 21, 2017 14:18:22 GMT -5
Awwww. crazycatlady6, hugs. Try to be kind to yourself. New motherhood is an enormous, life changing transition.
I think it's probably normal to have moments where you miss quiet, the ability to be selfish, daily showers, etc. while still loving your baby. Hell I have definitely felt that way. "Ugh, I miss sleeping through an entire night. I wish it could be that way again." That doesn't mean you're a bad mom or don't love your baby. It means you're human and adjusting during a transition that requires constant sacrifice.
Post by loves2shop4shoes on Mar 21, 2017 14:21:29 GMT -5
My TMI today...
Had therapy today. Talked about my family and childhood. Had a super, super tough session.
It's like any depression/sadness I'm having isn't about E... it's situational because of all of that nonsense.
I actually am really enjoying the distraction of a baby with constant needs because it makes me forget about all the other crap.
ETA: also, now that I have E, I want like seventy billion kids because 1) we make cute babies 2) I can just build an enormous loving family of my own 3) I'll have plenty of good distractions 4) E won't have any cousins on my side 5) I love E with everything I've got and want more tiny people 6) we make cute babies..
crazycatlady6 It gets easier. I know that doesn't help much right now because it's hard to see. I miss my pre-kid life, but it is so worth the sacrifices. It's taken me a long time to find peace in that. (With 4u2, I'm kind of committed to this path :-P)
Post by musicallyinclined on Mar 21, 2017 15:24:48 GMT -5
Hi everyone! So late to the party today. Weird day. DS2 was up all night. We suspect because he napped most of yesterday and his longest nap was 5:30-8:30pm and promptly feel back asleep at 9. So, I am tired. I start back to work in like a week and a half. I have mixed feelings about. Sending positive vibes to all the ladies struggling with fussy babies, sleep deprivation, and ppa/ppd. Y'all are all amazing mommas!
loves2shop4shoes Yes, come join the lots of kids club. You too can have strangers at Walmart tell you to stop having kids. 😉
That's so rude! If someone at Walmart said that to me, I'd probably make some really snippy Republican reply akin to "don't worry...my tax dollars are sufficient to pay for your AND my children."
loves2shop4shoes Yes, come join the lots of kids club. You too can have strangers at Walmart tell you to stop having kids. 😉
No kidding. I swear these days if you have more than 2 kids people think you're insane or trying to start your own band like the Partridge family. 3 people stopped us at the beach the other day to ask us about our kids ages. If we didn't have DS, guarantee nobody would bat and eye at 2 kids who are 3 years apart.
Picked DD up from the babysitter and the babysitter said she hadn't been acting herself today and was really tired all day. Get to her pedi appt. and let her know she wasn't feeling well so they took her temp and tested for the flu. 102 temp & flu positive. Really freaking awesome. Thank you for spreading your illness to our house, FIL.
This next week should be fun. At least both kids looked fine for their normal checkups.
Post by shawnabm1320 on Mar 21, 2017 15:40:27 GMT -5
Edited because it double posted somehow.
Did anyone have the wrong time born written on baby's birth certificate? Should I get it corrected for that? I don't know how important that piece of information is...
Post by dancerspose on Mar 21, 2017 15:40:33 GMT -5
Oh no pivot I'm so sorry. Hope DD feels better soon!
crazycatlady6 all the hugs friend. Please don't beat yourself up. I've had the same thought too every once in awhile. I think it's totally normal. You can love your child and new life with your whole heart and still mourn the loss of your old life and self. I don't think it makes you any less of a mother or less grateful for what you have. It just makes you human.
Post by monicageller on Mar 21, 2017 15:44:19 GMT -5
@crazycatlady6 don't be so hard on yourself, babies are hard. Honestly, I'm not the mom that is sad to see her babies grow up. The older DS1 gets the more I enjoy him. The first year is not the most enjoyable for me, even when they're not being fussy.
@crazycatlady6 don't be so hard on yourself, babies are hard. Honestly, I'm not the mom that is sad to see her babies grow up. The older DS1 gets the more I enjoy him. The first year is not the most enjoyable for me, even when they're not being fussy.
+1. I even have an "easy baby" so far, and I'm still struggling to remember that these days will pass, and not to panic about the lack of sleep and schedule. I'm trying to enjoy her, but babies are hard, and you don't have to love the newborn stage.
Post by musicallyinclined on Mar 21, 2017 17:10:39 GMT -5
Food question: anybody do overnight oats with steel cut oats in a crockpot? I made some "banana nut" ones last night. DH liked them, but they aren't my favorite. Looking for other recipes, bonus if they are kid approved.
Yesterday my 25 min circuit took 40 minutes. Two toddler interruptions for milk and snack, 1 poop explosion with R, and a quick nursing session. I have yet to get through it top to bottom with no interruptions; but I'm hopeful today is the day.
Today my 30 minute workout took about an hour and a half. I had to pause 3 times in the first 15 minutes to calm fussy baby and then gave up to nurse him. Nursing while all gross and sweaty is not ideal! Then tried to finish after nursing and had to pause a few more times to calm him before he finally fell asleep and stayed asleep. It was frustrating to say the least.
You were still I jeans at 10pm?! 😱 Also, dreary day? Stay home and make cookies 100%.
I have had no jeans that fit comfortably since before kids. I miss jeans.
Yeah, I was in jeans at 10 p.m. Long day...
And I bought these at Target to get me through. They're 2 sizes bigger than normal, but that's because they're a higher rise... You know... To suck in the flap. My PP jeans fit, but definately give me an unfortunate muffin top. No thanks!
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Post by oldbaylover1024 on Mar 21, 2017 19:27:42 GMT -5
My TMI is the numbness on my stomach is spreading. It's just under my belly button and completely across my stomach now. WTF FX it's not serious... But it's definately not normal.
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Post by flyinghorses6 on Mar 21, 2017 19:34:51 GMT -5
monicageller so frustrating! My 5 minute warm up was paused for 20 minutes. R then continued to lose her paci between sets until the last one. After which she fell asleep for 2 hours....seriously child?!
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