Hi everyone, I am new to this board but I've been struggling and I am not sure if it's normal or what I should do. I have 2 girls (May '14 and Feb '16) and it seems like since having them, my anxiety has been really bothering me. I had the postpartum baby blues from weeks 1-3 with both of them. I'm not sure if my anxiety is related to the pregnancies or if it's just a separate thing. It doesn't stop me from doing my normal day to day activities but it definitely affects my mood. Does anyone have advice for dealing with this?
Post by roseinbloom on Mar 26, 2017 18:19:03 GMT -5
Hello there! Welcome to the board.
Sorry you have been having a rough patch, but it's really nice to hear that right now you are doing manageably well. And I have a baby from Feb '16, too.
About your anxiety...Do you know what triggers it? Obviously thinking about physical/bodily wellness is always the best place to start. But social anxiety triggers can be really different from traveling anxiety or violent crime anxiety.
What is PDQ? Thanks for responding! Do you hang out on the Feb '16 board? My anxiety is about everything it feels like but my biggest trigger is hearing/seeing stories of children dying/human trafficking. I also have a lot of anxiety of someone close to me dying or that I will die and leave my girls without a mom. I know this is a common fear but I think about it a lot Another thing is that I'm sensitive with friendships/family. If I invite someone out and they don't come along, I instantly start thinking it's because of me.
Post by rocknrollfriend on Mar 27, 2017 13:40:49 GMT -5
@wallflwr926 might be able to delete the quote.
krl52014, does your health insurance cover talk therapy? It sounds to me like your triggers could be addressed through something like cognitive behavioral therapy. I've spiraled on triggers like that and the techniques I learned in CBT helped me a lot.
Post by roseinbloom on Mar 27, 2017 17:06:22 GMT -5
Thank you, both.
I would second the suggestion to find someone in CBT to work with because that's a proactive step.
As for the child abuse and abandonment fears/triggers, that's the kind of thing where I think educating and making plans can be really helpful, even if they don't make the issues magically go away. Have you been able to make up a will and determine who would be willing to raise your kids if disaster fell? Do you think about stranger safety and how you are teaching your older daughter to be aware of danger and to identify it and get help? I know if I were feeling anxious about those things, not having a plan in place would make me feel worse about them.
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