What's Up Wednesday (on a Thursday) CAL Revival!

[Rama]

Welcome to the Dark Side CAL What’s Up Wednesday!



Good morning, friends!

Welcome to Dark Side CAL What's Up Wednesday! It is posted on Wednesday(ish) every week. Come on in and let us know how you're doing. If you need anything between check ins, or if you get a BFP, please PM me. Please, do NOT feel the need to reply to everyone else’s updates!

So, ladies…How are you doing? Please post an update including any news, thoughts or questions you may have.

NEWBIES: We are so sorry you find yourself here but are happy you have found us; welcome. Feel free to join in when you are ready! Also please check out our CAL blog which is filled with a wealth of information. Make sure to post an intro on the board, and add in an avatar and/or siggy when you can so we can recognize you more easily.

Newbie Questions - to help us get to know you!

1. How are you?
2. What is your status? (TTC, TTA, etc.)
3. Tell us something about yourself - Hobbies? Pets? Favorite TV show? Anything you'd like to share!


QOTW: What other threads would you like to see in CAL?  Are there any CAL-related topics you'd like to discuss on a regular basis?  What about NCALR?

[Rama]

Newbie Questions - to help us get to know you!

1. How are you? Okay. Feeling more and more like myself.
2. What is your status? (TTC, TTA, etc.) I'm in the weird in-between of post-D&C but not cycling on my own again yet.
3. Tell us something about yourself - Hobbies? Pets? Favorite TV show? Anything you'd like to share! I'm a massive geek/nerd/whatever you want to call me. I'm probably at least peripherally involved (or have been) in anything stereotypically nerdish. I enjoy a good stay at home weekend, but I also enjoy just chilling with friends sometimes. Don't really have a favorite TV show, but I like a lot of stuff. GKU is my "home" board, but I spend a lot of time all over the place. Consider me lurking everywhere at once, haha.

I'm up for answering any personal questions anyone wants to ask, too, so feel free. :)

[Deleted]

Hey! I hope this place picks back up. It's my safe place and it makes me sad it's so slow.

I'm doing alright, though my anxiety about WWIII is pretty intrusive at the moment. But I'm working on that. I'm excited for picnic weather to get here already. I ordered a new, bigger, picnic blanket and I'm itching to use it!

[inaya]

Hi! I'm representing the west coast so forgive me ahead of time for always being late to posts. It's not completely my fault.

1. How are you?
I've been better. This has been a super terrible week, including a broken jar of juice all over the floor at the grocery store, a flat tire, hitting another car not once but twice (first I backed into MH's car at our house and then I sideswiped someone yesterday -
I'm normally a decent driver!), and of course the super low point of MC #3. The stress is getting to me and I'm trying to be intentional about managing it in healthy ways, because this is clearly not going well. MH and I are going out to dinner tomorrow night and I'm excited, even though it will be a pretty low-key evening.

2. What is your status? (TTC, TTA, etc.)
Currently still bleeding from the miscarriage. TTA once my cycles start back up so we can have a little time to look for any treatable issues.

3. Tell us something about yourself - Hobbies? Pets? Favorite TV show? Anything you'd like to share!
I love to sew. I'm starting to learn how to dye things, too, and it's been a lot of fun (although sometimes very irritating, too). There's a thing going on about 100 days of ___, and while I literally only know that much and that it started recently, I'm trying to give myself at least 10 minutes of sewing each day. It will be slow going but at least I can finally get some stuff done. I never have big chunks of time to work on "my" stuff so I'm hoping that I can be productive with a lot of short bits of time instead.

[Rama]

inaya, No worries, I'm West Coast, too! IIRC, we're actually in the same place (or very close)?

[inaya]

Apr 13, 2017 18:01:35 GMT -5 Rama said:

inaya , No worries, I'm West Coast, too! IIRC, we're actually in the same place (or very close)?

I think we're near each other! I live in Sonoma County.

[scoutradley]

1. How are you? Not the greatest today. Definitely feeling down.

2. What is your status? (TTC, TTA, etc.) TTC

3. Tell us something about yourself - Hobbies? Pets? Favorite TV show? Anything you'd like to share! Hobbies: Reading, photography (has actually been my job off and on since college), writing, some web design/coding. Pets: none. I did grow up with fish, birds and cats though. Favorite TV show: depends on my mood. We're binging on Big Bang Theory right now.


QOTW: What other threads would you like to see in CAL?  Are there any CAL-related topics you'd like to discuss on a regular basis?  What about NCALR?

[esgrunner]

Hi, Rama!
Build it and they will come.

1. I had a good day today! Going one day at a time (most recent loss started 3/31) so a good day is something to celebrate. And it even included a crappy hair cut at a different salon...DH got me a gift certificate (not blaming him though) and I tried it but the girl botched it. I went back in the afternoon and she still couldn't fix it, so I'm going to my "regular" girl at my regular salon tomorrow to get it fixed. I say "regular" because I usually get my hair cut every 6 months or so, so I'm not a frequent salon go-er.
(long answer to an easy question)

2. Heck, we're TTC. No one at the OB office told us not to and we go for our first appt at the RE on Monday but I figure we might as well give it a try, right? I just need DH to spend less time working on his car and more time working on me...

3. I am a marathon runner on a hiatus, probably for a good number of years. I love endurance running, I've run up to 50 miles at once but the marathon is what I like. I am fairly competitive, in that when I'm in shape I can place very well in shorter local races and I can run fast enough to qualify for Boston. I'm not in shape at all right now but hope to get back to it after having kids and when they get older and want less of my time.

TW previous LO mentioned: my DS is 20 months old and is the apple of our eyes but we very much want to give him a brother or sister. I've been pregnant twice since getting my period back in August. (didn't get it until 12 months PP) I thought we were going to have 2u2 then I thought we'd have another soon after he turns two and now I don't have a clue. 
end TW


What the heck is NCALR?

[esgrunner]

inaya , I like to sew too! I have to get my machine looked at though, the presser foot will not go up or down. I've tried googling solutions but everything I find says "take it to get fixed."  
ETA: I mean the presser foot is stuck, I don't remember which position!

What kinds of stuff do you sew? I used to sew all sorts of things but in the past few years it has more been things we need, like a new cover for the ottoman or curtains or whatever, not really anything fun.

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esgrunner ncalr=not conceiving after loss related

[kariann12]

1. How are you? Doing pretty good actually. Had my m/c on 3/27 at nearly 8 weeks. The more I talk about it the better I feel. Feeling very positive about our TTC future.
2. What is your status? (TTC, TTA, etc.) Fuck it, we're TTC. I think MH and I both have an unspoken goal to catch that first egg before my period starts. We're both ready to be pregnant again, and are confident it'll happen again this year. Plus, the sex is bringing us even closer after our loss, so it's double helpful.
3. Tell us something about yourself - Hobbies? Pets? Favorite TV show? Anything you'd like to share! I live with MH, our roommate (who is my BFF from college), and our 2 cats. I'm a surgical tech working in a large hospital on the neurosurgery team. In other words I help with brain and spine surgery everyday. My hobbies are crocheting (my sister and I have an Etsy site!), running, yoga, and doing just about anything outside.

In a related topic: While in the locker room yesterday I overheard a co-worker talking to another co-worker on the phone. I was trying not to listen, but it was hard not to. It was clear the co-worker not present had just found out she had a m/c. It seemed she went to her first u/s and there wasn't a HB. I want to reach out to her when she comes back. But I don't know her super well, and don't want to intrude if it was something she doesn't want to talk about. There's probably over 100 of us in the OR, so if one knows they all know. But I feel like we could both benefit from having someone going through something at a similar time. Any suggestions for how or if to approach her and what to say?


QOTW: What other threads would you like to see in CAL? Are there any CAL-related topics you'd like to discuss on a regular basis? What about NCALR? Honestly, anything that is a good distraction.

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kariann12, could you just get her a simple card and say something along the lines of understanding and being there if she ever wants to talk? I'm bad with wording, someone could probably give more help there, but I think a card or something would be nice.

[menrandes]

Hello everyone!

Nothing CAL related here for me, as per usual. Not trying. Long story.

Another therapy session today. Ugh.
We talked about my food issues. I get inflamed super easy and there are very few foods that don't contribute to inflammation for me. And inflammation generally leads to anxiety because of chest tightness. So food equals panic attacks in the deepest parts of my mind. So all of that means that food scares me.
I'm scared to eat.
I've been in this cycle before and lost 80 pounds in half a year because I refused to eat anything that wasn't vegetables, fruit, and occasional chicken or fish.
Sounds healthy to my brain, but doing it because I'm scared of food?
Not so good.
And family is coming on Sunday and I'm cooking things outside of the "safe in my mind" foods. So I'm nervous.

Therapy for me really boils down to, I'm tired of the physical pain I'm in but I need to learn to cope with and maybe ease tension that contributes. And I'm tired of being scared of everything all the time, because it's no way to live

Blah, what a downer post! But I always feel down on Thursdays after therapy.


And I think we should definitely do more gif offs again!

[Rama]

Apr 13, 2017 20:46:34 GMT -5 @led said:

kariann12, could you just get her a simple card and say something along the lines of understanding and being there if she ever wants to talk? I'm bad with wording, someone could probably give more help there, but I think a card or something would be nice.

kariann12 I agree with LED. A card with a heartfelt message of regret and an open for to talk if she needs it seems plenty good. Maybe something like, "I'm so sorry for your loss. We just lost a baby in March, so if you ever need someone to cry with, my shoulder is here for you to lean on."

I might be a cheeser. But the sentiment is there!

[esgrunner]

menrandes, I feel for you. I understand the idea of food causing you anxiety and it is so tough to deal with. I know this is a cliche way to explain it, but it's not like alcoholism and you can just avoid it...you HAVE TO EAT TO LIVE. I hope you have people close to you that can support you, that helps a lot.


kariann12, we are in the same place. We had such an early loss and ***TW LO mentioned*** we conceived our DS with the first egg after an early loss so I feel like that makes us think this is going to work. **TW over***
So we are having all the sex. And I am finally enjoying it, which has been a long time coming, I feel like my hormones are actually more balanced than they've been in years right now. I'm hoping the last pregnancy sort of reset everything back to normal. 
Good luck to you guys!

[Rama]

Apr 14, 2017 1:14:05 GMT -5 Rama said:

Apr 13, 2017 20:46:34 GMT -5 @led said:

kariann12, could you just get her a simple card and say something along the lines of understanding and being there if she ever wants to talk? I'm bad with wording, someone could probably give more help there, but I think a card or something would be nice.

kariann12 I agree with LED. A card with a heartfelt message of regret and an open for to talk if she needs it seems plenty good. Maybe something like, "I'm so sorry for your loss. We just lost a baby in March, so if you ever need someone to cry with, my shoulder is here for you to lean on."

I might be a cheeser. But the sentiment is there!

I'm dying. I was obviously in some kind of sleepy trance whenI wrote this last night!

[Rama]

Hi, @wickedcandy. <3 How is recovery doing? And how is the car? It looked pretty bad when I saw the pics. Is your mom doing okay?

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@eliida, I've ovulated when my betas were still as high as around 100. Bodies are weird. Sorry about the retained tissue. I hope you don't have to wait too long for the hysteroscopy.

[scoutradley]

@eliida oh yeah. I definitely got burnt out a bit. Especially the longer weddings. 12+ hrs shooting plus commute is so exhausting. My poor feet.

[scoutradley]

@eliida some of the weddings were horrible but I totally agree about the boring and stressful aspects. Charting lighting, making sure you get everything and then all the dead time in longer shoots is disconcerting and boring.