Looking for advice--loss mentioned.
Feb 18, 2015 11:10:09 GMT -5
Post by smithy on Feb 18, 2015 11:10:09 GMT -5
Hi,
Let me begin by saying, I am not in your place and I won't get into great details as I don't want to trigger or offend anyone--believe me this is the absolute last thing I want to do. I need some advice for a friend and I'm not sure where else to go. This is brand new territory for me. Please don't read on if this will upset you.
A family we are friends with just recently lost their 4-year-old son, suddenly and tragically. He had special needs (long story), but otherwise was completely healthy. They were completely blindsided by this occurring and are (obviously) beside themselves with grief. I know some of you are in similar situations, and my heart breaks for you. It truly does.
As far as background on our relationship, we are friends but not "best friends" with them. We are friends mainly because our oldest daughters are friends in school. We have hung out socially a bunch of times, but in my mind we are not "super close." Although, I think this incident has kind of made us automatically closer since we were at their house the night before their son died. It was a small gathering with a couple other families from school. We were among the last people to see him. It has been hard on everyone--us, our kids. (obviously NOTHING at all compared to their grief--just giving background).
Basically, I just want to ask--what can I do for her? For the family? They have 3 other kids. This just happened 2 weeks ago. They went away for a few days after the funeral as a family and just got back. A mutual friend emailed last night and said she was worried about the mom, she got an emotional text from her and was not sure what to do. I am planning on calling or texting the mom today to see how she is doing. I feel I'm in a weird place though, because I don't want to overstep boundaries. Is there anything more specific I can do--again, without overstepping boundaries?
Any insight would be helpful. Again, I apologize if I hurt anyone here. I am trying my best to not offend as I understand your position--not from being in it but close to it. I feel for you. Thanks for reading this and offering any suggestions!
Let me begin by saying, I am not in your place and I won't get into great details as I don't want to trigger or offend anyone--believe me this is the absolute last thing I want to do. I need some advice for a friend and I'm not sure where else to go. This is brand new territory for me. Please don't read on if this will upset you.
A family we are friends with just recently lost their 4-year-old son, suddenly and tragically. He had special needs (long story), but otherwise was completely healthy. They were completely blindsided by this occurring and are (obviously) beside themselves with grief. I know some of you are in similar situations, and my heart breaks for you. It truly does.
As far as background on our relationship, we are friends but not "best friends" with them. We are friends mainly because our oldest daughters are friends in school. We have hung out socially a bunch of times, but in my mind we are not "super close." Although, I think this incident has kind of made us automatically closer since we were at their house the night before their son died. It was a small gathering with a couple other families from school. We were among the last people to see him. It has been hard on everyone--us, our kids. (obviously NOTHING at all compared to their grief--just giving background).
Basically, I just want to ask--what can I do for her? For the family? They have 3 other kids. This just happened 2 weeks ago. They went away for a few days after the funeral as a family and just got back. A mutual friend emailed last night and said she was worried about the mom, she got an emotional text from her and was not sure what to do. I am planning on calling or texting the mom today to see how she is doing. I feel I'm in a weird place though, because I don't want to overstep boundaries. Is there anything more specific I can do--again, without overstepping boundaries?
Any insight would be helpful. Again, I apologize if I hurt anyone here. I am trying my best to not offend as I understand your position--not from being in it but close to it. I feel for you. Thanks for reading this and offering any suggestions!