WWYD? Extended Maternity Leave = $6000 "loss"
May 7, 2017 22:14:11 GMT -5
Post by Somers Isles on May 7, 2017 22:14:11 GMT -5
TL;DR = should I take $6000 from savings to stay home 20 weeks instead of 12? It won't deplete savings, but it will be a BIG hit.
Just curious... here's the scenario. (warning: this is also a semi vent...lol)
My work allows me 12 weeks paid time off. Anything beyond that is either a) unpaid personal leave or b) paid via doctor's note. I have no reason to believe anything will happen that will necessitate a doctor's note ... so for me, my option is an unpaid personal leave.
My current mindset..... with DS, I was able to stay home for 5 months. This felt just right. I was ready to go back (albeit a bit sad.. but ready). He was mostly sleeping, nursing was going well, and I was able to maintain my supply with the 1 pump session I'm allowed (aka, lunch break) at work. That pregnancy was well planned... I work in an elementary school so when we were trying we aimed for a late March birthday so I could use my 12 weeks and then roll right into summer vacation. We were blessed with perfect timing.
Currently... because of my delivery date, 12 weeks will run out literally 3 days before we have to report back to our schools. It doesn't matter that the majority of my paid leave is actually during summer vacation. Once the 12 week span has passed, it's over.
Honestly, this causes me more anxiety and stress and sadness than I care to admit We were able to get pregnant at the ideal time and had a due date of late March but sadly that ended in miscarriage. I'm beyond grateful to have been able to get pregnant again so quickly but I can't stop dwelling over how much that sucked.
SO here's the breakdown.... I want to be able to bond with my baby for the same amount of time as DS. I vividly remember what it was like when DS was 12 weeks old and how I felt. My current job is, to be honest, hell. My principal causes me more stress than I care to admit. Knowing how I felt and knowing the work environment I'll be eventually returning to gives me an insane amount of stress and anxiety. I just don't want to go back at 12 weeks.
In order to take the extra 8 weeks off... it will result in lost wages AND I will actually have to pay "full retail" for 2 months worth of health insurance because I carry the insurance in the family (and DH's open enrollment has come and gone before we realized this...). I've crunched the numbers and in order to function on the same budget that we currently live on, I need to take $6000 out of savings. We have it, but it'll be a big hit.
Would you do it??? On a good day I feel like $6000 is worth it. On a bad day I feel like that's irresponsible. I don't like putting a price tag on bonding time.
**I also want to add that I fully understand that 12 weeks paid is already better than what many get, and I am beyond grateful to even have that luxury... but I will also add that just because 12 weeks (for the US) is "good" doesn't actually make it right for families... just because it's the norm, or better than the norm, I don't feel like I should be content with that... I don't think anyone should be content with 12 weeks. It breaks my heart when I hear about people's brief bonding time... something has to change... it's just awful**
Just curious... here's the scenario. (warning: this is also a semi vent...lol)
My work allows me 12 weeks paid time off. Anything beyond that is either a) unpaid personal leave or b) paid via doctor's note. I have no reason to believe anything will happen that will necessitate a doctor's note ... so for me, my option is an unpaid personal leave.
My current mindset..... with DS, I was able to stay home for 5 months. This felt just right. I was ready to go back (albeit a bit sad.. but ready). He was mostly sleeping, nursing was going well, and I was able to maintain my supply with the 1 pump session I'm allowed (aka, lunch break) at work. That pregnancy was well planned... I work in an elementary school so when we were trying we aimed for a late March birthday so I could use my 12 weeks and then roll right into summer vacation. We were blessed with perfect timing.
Currently... because of my delivery date, 12 weeks will run out literally 3 days before we have to report back to our schools. It doesn't matter that the majority of my paid leave is actually during summer vacation. Once the 12 week span has passed, it's over.
Honestly, this causes me more anxiety and stress and sadness than I care to admit We were able to get pregnant at the ideal time and had a due date of late March but sadly that ended in miscarriage. I'm beyond grateful to have been able to get pregnant again so quickly but I can't stop dwelling over how much that sucked.
SO here's the breakdown.... I want to be able to bond with my baby for the same amount of time as DS. I vividly remember what it was like when DS was 12 weeks old and how I felt. My current job is, to be honest, hell. My principal causes me more stress than I care to admit. Knowing how I felt and knowing the work environment I'll be eventually returning to gives me an insane amount of stress and anxiety. I just don't want to go back at 12 weeks.
In order to take the extra 8 weeks off... it will result in lost wages AND I will actually have to pay "full retail" for 2 months worth of health insurance because I carry the insurance in the family (and DH's open enrollment has come and gone before we realized this...). I've crunched the numbers and in order to function on the same budget that we currently live on, I need to take $6000 out of savings. We have it, but it'll be a big hit.
Would you do it??? On a good day I feel like $6000 is worth it. On a bad day I feel like that's irresponsible. I don't like putting a price tag on bonding time.
**I also want to add that I fully understand that 12 weeks paid is already better than what many get, and I am beyond grateful to even have that luxury... but I will also add that just because 12 weeks (for the US) is "good" doesn't actually make it right for families... just because it's the norm, or better than the norm, I don't feel like I should be content with that... I don't think anyone should be content with 12 weeks. It breaks my heart when I hear about people's brief bonding time... something has to change... it's just awful**