Post by sweetieheart32 on May 15, 2017 7:13:07 GMT -5
First day back at work today. I'm doing the first pumping session with my new Spectra. Had a mini heart attack when I plugged it in and it didn't turn on. Luckily the connection was just loose. Sad day. My tiny one goes to daycare for the first time. She nursed one last time this morning, oblivious to the fact that she won't be able to snuggle until this evening. My heart melted as she popped off the boob satisfied and smiled a huge sleepy smile. It's going to be a long day! What's going on today F17?
sweetieheart32 I hope you have a smooth transition back to work!!
We had a great Mother's Day yesterday. I wish every Sunday was Mother's Day. It's supposed to be in the 90's all week here which means we will probably be able to open the pool this weekend, yay! So that means we will be working on that most evenings after work to try to get it all ready before the weekend.
Post by oldbaylover1024 on May 15, 2017 7:43:28 GMT -5
sweetieheart32 - Good luck at your first day back. It's so hard. {{Hugs}}
I'm going with a vent/random/confession thread this morning.
Vent: I got nothing for Mother's Day. Well, that's not true. I got a card from my kids and a card from MH. That's it. I spent the morning wrangling the two munchkins while MH finished putting shelves in the playroom. Then, I made lunch for J and put her down for nap. I did get an hour of alone time to shower, get dressed, and pump while MH took the kids to the park. I thought we were going out, but nope. I ended up making dinner for J, putting C to bed, and ordering Chinese take-out for dinner. FML.
My mom sent me a sweet card and a shaw for MD. It was a really nice gesture since she's been in a mood lately and not-so-nice to me.
Random: I'm getting a haircut on Wednesday and I'm considering growing it out. Right now my hair looks like this, so growing it out will be a PITA. But I kind of miss having hair. We'll see...
Confession: I'm furious at MH for how MD went down, and I'm not sure how to get over it. I woke up upset about it. I gotta get past it because I honestly think he doesn't think he did anything wrong. For background, when I brought up going shopping alone he was upset about it - he wanted to spend the day together. So I assumed we were all going together. Apparently we weren't going at all, or at least that's what he heard me say. Whatever... I guess I'm really mad there was no plan. He just didn't do anything at all, like put no thought into the day. Shit, I had to COOK and CLEAN. WTF.
Sigh. Well, I guess being a mom is a thankless job, right?
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Post by sweetieheart32 on May 15, 2017 7:51:00 GMT -5
Sorry you had such a crappy mothers day oldbaylover1024 maybe you can ask him to arrange babysitting one night so you can go to dinner? If you let him know how important it is to you, maybe he can make it right somehow.
I'm enjoying a latte from my new espresso machine while S is down for her nap. Mother's Day was nice yesterday, but totally surreal. Last year I spent half the day crying because it had been a year and a half since I lost my first pregnancy, I recently got an IF diagnosis, my husband was reluctant to do fertility treatments which was destroying our marriage, and my family didn't recognize me in the celebrations. What a difference a year makes. I'm so grateful to have S.
My MD...was ok. We came home from visiting my parents in the morning. DH made noises about heating up leftovers for lunch, but I hustled us right down to the corner for roast beef sandwiches and ice cream. Then DH took a long, loud, snorey nap while I was snuggling the baby, so I did not get frappucino happy hour.
Then MIL came over, and my irritation was out of control. We had dinner reservations, but when we got there, it was going to be a 30 minute wait. No. I called around to other restaurants and found a place to go. In the meantime, DS got smacked in the head by a door. And MIL was super freaking weird while I was trying to get him back in the car.
Post by notagoddess on May 15, 2017 7:59:02 GMT -5
Sorry your husband was so thoughtless on MD, oldbaylover1024. I get wanting to spend the day together but hell no to having to cook and clean. I'd be furious.
Post by monicageller on May 15, 2017 7:59:38 GMT -5
sweetieheart32 hugs mama. Hang in there today. I still have 3 weeks today and I'm already depressed about it.
pivot I'm so jealous of your pool! I grew up with spool and my parents sold that house last year and I'm so sad I don't have a private pool at my disposable.
R is currently napping in my arms. I have an eye Dr appt this afternoon and hope to excercise. I really need to clean my house too, but that might wait until tomorrow. MD was really good. Nothing fancy, just a normal day hanging with my little family. We picked up Chipotle for dinner and C and I got ice cream after dinner. I feel like we haven't had a nice day to just be together in a while.
Post by oldbaylover1024 on May 15, 2017 8:00:26 GMT -5
shellbell - LOL perfect! At this point, I just need a change. I thought about highlights, but meh. I don't want the upkeep.
In other news, we had to transition C to the crib since he almost rolled out of the PnP bassinet. I was terrified he wouldn't sleep. Well, he slept from 7 p.m. - 7:30 a.m.
At least C got me something for MD - sleep!
sweetieheart32 - Yeah... I'm not sure what he can do at this point. I think I need a day to calm down before I even consider spending a date night with him.
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Morning! Sorry about the rough day yesterday oldbaylover1024.
Good luck today sweetieheart32! It's my first full week of work. I have all the feelings.
H did good for Mother's Day. My dad gave me a charm that was my mother's. It says "#1 Mom". I just need to find a chain for it so I can wear it. It's funny because he taped it into the card so I almost missed it but it meant the world to me to get something of my mom's. I had a bunch of her jewelry, but we had a break in and guess what they stole?
@oldbaylover104 I really want rose gold highlights, but I'm not sure it's a look I can pull off.
Man, now I'm image searching highlights and really wanting to adjust my appointment...
Rose gold ones look fun! I have medium brown hair with some natural blond highlights, so I imagine she could tone them down/up for impact, right? I'm stupid when it comes to highlights.
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@oldbaylover104 I really want rose gold highlights, but I'm not sure it's a look I can pull off.
Man, now I'm image searching highlights and really wanting to adjust my appointment...
Rose gold ones look fun! I have medium brown hair with some natural blond highlights, so I imagine she could tone them down/up for impact, right? I'm stupid when it comes to highlights.
Highlights sound nice. My hair has turned so much darker than it was a year ago. Pregnancy hormones? I have only had highlights once, but I'm thinking of doing it again to brighten things up.
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Post by linewifekat on May 15, 2017 9:37:50 GMT -5
oldbaylover1024 hugs you're not alone. I had a crappy MD too. We went to church and I put ds2 in the nursery for the first time so that was my 1 hour of kid free time. Then we drove an hour and a half with a crying baby and a toddler who refused to nap to my in laws house. I didn't really want to go but DH's dad isn't doing very well so I felt obligated to go. We gave mil her mother's day presents and I got nothing. Then we stayed there until 4:30 and I told DH we were going to my friend's house who lives over there and he was grumpy about it. We stayed there for 2 hours then got to sit next to a crying baby again on the hour and a half drive home. No cards or gifts. I understand that we are on a tight budget but find a way to save some money to get me a card! Geez!
Post by littleredfish on May 15, 2017 10:08:14 GMT -5
I'm sorry about your day oldbaylover1024, if he had no plan he could have at least let you do your planned day alone. I didn't know DH planned to get my sister to help surprise me so I had already upgraded my mothers ring and bought myself a glass piece from a local shop as a little "to Me, from Me, with love". You should just do something for yourself and if he questions it say "it's my mothers day gift, you're welcome".
The cherry on my mothers day was DS decided to give me his own gift. Not sleep of course, he's abandoned that concept, but a real laugh! A cute little belly laugh cause I tickled his chins when I put on his bib. I died.
Today is rain all day so we're going to the aquarium and then my sister and I are getting our nails done for their last day here. I don't want them to leave tomorrow.
I hear you on the lackluster MD, oldbaylover1024. Here's the rundown of mine.
My kids only took a short nap in the car while we ran errands yesterday.
Otherwise it was a normal day with a somewhat shortened workout time at the gym. MH was crabby for part of the day because he wanted more time to work out and he'd committed to going to a late movie with SS2. This morning I did everything to get the kids fed and to daycare because it wasn't worth getting MH up since he'd probably be crabby and spend most of the time drinking coffee or getting himself ready for work. Amazingly, the kids got to daycare before 8am. Often we struggle to get them there by 8:20am for breakfast.
I appreciate the roses on Saturday, at least. I wish it seemed like there were a bit more forethought behind that rather than walking past a stand at the graduation ceremony and picking something up because he left me that morning with all four kids, one of whom had just peed all over himself and me.
I don't expect gifts, but a little (relative) pampering for all I do for the family would be nice. And not just that he hires a babysitter so I get a break, but that he actually steps up and does more so I can do less. Is that hoping for too much?
Post by musicallyinclined on May 15, 2017 11:15:52 GMT -5
IT seems mediocre Mother's Days were a theme. DH and the boys got me a card and a travel mug with pictures of the kids on it which was sweet. We went to lunch, begrudgingly and then DH took a nap, while I held the baby. And then we went to the grocery store where DS1 proceeded to have multiple meltdowns. Then DS1 continued to have meltdowns until dinner time. DH's awful stepmom called to hash things out with him (she is a troll and there has always been a conflict there), and he was in a shit mood for the rest of the day so I made dinner and ate alone then listened to DH bitch about her until I finally fell asleep only to have him wake me up to talk about it some more. OVER IT.
Post by oldbaylover1024 on May 15, 2017 11:30:46 GMT -5
Ugh, sorry to everyone that had a cruddy MD. That just sucks.
Honestly, this made me even MORE determined to stop caring about his personal needs and focus on my gym time/'me' time. Obviously, the kids being fed/clean/happy will be my priority. But my gym time is 2nd and my personal time is 3rd. His time can be last. Because that's how I felt yesterday... last.
Okay. Time to stop thinking about yesterday and be productive!
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Post by wildflower810 on May 15, 2017 12:18:11 GMT -5
Y'all, I would have been THRILLED with a card. I got one verbal "happy mother's day" in the morning and that was it. H decided not to go to church (again... fourth week in a row), and he was sleeping when I got home. I did all the chores, most of the kid work, etc, etc. Just a normal day in our house. We did order dinner (sushi!), but H "wasn't hungry" and ate leftovers.
I got my MIL a card from us, a card from the kids, and flowers. Now, I screwed up the flower delivery time so they won't be there until *this* Friday... and the cards didn't arrive on time either. But, I at least tried and they will be there eventually.
I'm pretty sure I'm going to get myself flowers at the store when I make it out with both boys for groceries. In the mean time, I'm waiting for the dryer delivery people to get here. They were supposed to be here over an hour ago. My luck would have it that I need to nurse E right when they arrive.
Post by billybumbler on May 15, 2017 12:19:18 GMT -5
oldbaylover1024 you're right to be upset. I think you should talk to YH about it. Lord knows I have my own marital problems but I've learned over the years that MH will not pick up subtle hints so now I flat out tell him what I want on "my" days like birthday and mothers day.
oldbaylover1024 you're right to be upset. I think you should talk to YH about it. Lord knows I have my own marital problems but I've learned over the years that MH will not pick up subtle hints so now I flat out tell him what I want on "my" days like birthday and mothers day.
That's what's crazy! I DID say, "I want to go to breakfast [here] and go shopping [here]. I thought about going alone." And he wasn't thrilled with the 'alone' part since he wanted to spend the day together. My words somehow were confusing and he didn't know what I wanted to do.
We've been together 14 years. Believe me, we passed subtle hints about, oh, 13.5 years ago LOL
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Post by billybumbler on May 15, 2017 12:35:29 GMT -5
My mother's day was OK. DH made me breakfast as requested and we had lunch at SIL. Thankfully her ILs weren't there because her home is small and it gets too crowded when she invites everyone.
I didn't want to do dinner with my parents the same day but had to. It was OK though, my dad picked up takeout and DD was pleasant.
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