Hi ladies, I wanted to let y'all know that the Loss ladies created a board. We have created an IF section as landing zone is y'all are interested. lifeafterloss.freeforums.net
It's there if y'all need/want it. We just wanted to make sure y'all had a place to go. 3T saved my butt in the TD days. I would hate for y'all to not have a place to go.
ETA: spelling is hard.
Could you possibly create a late term loss board? If so the LTL ladies might head over. But idk.
Looks like there is a 2nd and 3rd tri section and a child loss section, so I'd lose some of my ladies 3rd tri ladies here. Not a good option for me.
rslh10 , I don't know super specifics, but SM poster said something racist, the TCF-jumpers over there called them out on it, SM admins apparently didn't address the racist comment but told the TCF people about the "culture" there instead. Word is it got way out of hand, then boom 💥 - shut down.
I added the life after loss forum to my tapa feed so I don't get lost in any shuffling that happens, but all of you ladies here have been amazing and I will go where you go.
***Grad warning*** I'm not shocked about the racist comment. When I went over just cruise the scene there was one regular SM poster who said she needed an "urban dictionary" to figure out all the acronyms that were being used. Since when is "cd1" urban vernacular. 🙄I was done after that...
Married 10 years. DX: AMA, DOR, endo, one tube, +NK, homozygous MTHFR C677T, and abnormal endometrial function test. MFI with high DNA fragmentation and pericentric inversion on chromosome 9.
Someone popped into PAIF to invite the smaller boards (like us? still awaiting confirmation of that) to GBCN (another earlier spinoff group from TB mentioned to earlier).
I have requested to register as a user over there just in case. It is the most like our board that I think we might find. There are several users here who have been active on both sites for years.
Married 10 years. DX: AMA, DOR, endo, one tube, +NK, homozygous MTHFR C677T, and abnormal endometrial function test. MFI with high DNA fragmentation and pericentric inversion on chromosome 9.
The TTTC board on gbcn is fairly slow, so I would be very surprised if they were reluctant to have more active posters.
(Sorry for the drive by posting from an unknown. I was somewhat active on GKU in the IF thread for a few months, but always lurked here as well. My break from posting was long, but I do want to find a new home once we figure out our treatment timeline in the next couple of months.)
*****grad warning**** Hey ladies. I've been on the GBCN 3T board for 3 years and the ladies there are wonderful. I actually started there a year before I came over here. The board is slowing down and I'm sure they would welcome you. It's a little different from here in that 3T grads don't have to post warnings before posting but we are a pretty close group and those ladies are wonderful. We'd love to have you over there.
Post by gabride2010 on May 21, 2017 15:27:31 GMT -5
I have briefly looked over GBCN and LifeAfterLoss, and I think either would be fine for our groups. I don't think either board seems fast-paced, but we will definitely add traffic wherever we go.
Saw RE 1/11/17 HSG x 2 - 2nd revealed both tubes open and arcuate uterus Cycle #1-2 Femara 5mg + TI = Cancelled - poor response Cycle #3 - Femara 7.5mg and Dex 0.5mg - another poor response - waiting to see when I O
Post by hoosiermama76 on May 22, 2017 0:36:35 GMT -5
I just spent an hour trying to read "the talk" and "state of the union" threads, and I'm still confused. Can someone give me the skinny? All I can surmise is that people were angry at the mods' passivity. Then, at other times, they thought they were bullies or abusing their powers. Some people lied. I can't figure it the exact details of that one. It seems the main goal was to go somewhere where there was more activity and then SM is down. And now people are making several other boards. It seems like that defeats the entire purpose of moving. I'm staying.
*****grad warning**** Hey ladies. I've been on the GBCN 3T board for 3 years and the ladies there are wonderful. I actually started there a year before I came over here. The board is slowing down and I'm sure they would welcome you. It's a little different from here in that 3T grads don't have to post warnings before posting but we are a pretty close group and those ladies are wonderful. We'd love to have you over there.
I need someone to tell me what GBCN stands for. I poked around and couldn't figure it out.
I'm completely lost. Is there one place the community will be? Or are people going every which way?
They are really really trying to keep everyone together. I know a lot of you have reservations, but everyone migrating does want to hear from you and attempt to do what they can to make you all comfortable coming with.
Please consider it, and go here
politicsorwhat.freeforums.net/thread/38
to make your voices heard (I do believe you can post as guest without creating an account). If you don't want to post yourself (for whatever reason) feel free to reach out to me and I will anonymously convey messages.
yes....they are doing nominations currently and they are asking to make sure everyone is heard. Then decide what site to go to.
Engaged May 2003 Married June 2005 TTC #1 since October 2014 H-1% morph, low motility, low count Me-.1 AMH levels, low AFC, DOR/POI, perimenopause Foster Care journey begins March 2016-licensed 11/7/16 Foster parents to A & J 1/31/17 www.fertilityfriend.com/home/5525ef
I'm completely lost. Is there one place the community will be? Or are people going every which way?
They are really really trying to keep everyone together. I know a lot of you have reservations, but everyone migrating does want to hear from you and attempt to do what they can to make you all comfortable coming with.
Please consider it, and go here
politicsorwhat.freeforums.net/thread/38
to make your voices heard (I do believe you can post as guest without creating an account). If you don't want to post yourself (for whatever reason) feel free to reach out to me and I will anonymously convey messages.
So that's where the parenting folks are landing. But I want to know about the loss and the IF communities. I'm definitely not going anywhere near a place that hasn't set up specific boards for those groups.
Yes please come over and have a say in the nominations. I was part of this 3T community for about a year and don't really post here much anymore, but I care about you guys and stalk you often. I would love if we could find a way to keep everyone from all the boards together in one place.
They are really really trying to keep everyone together. I know a lot of you have reservations, but everyone migrating does want to hear from you and attempt to do what they can to make you all comfortable coming with.
Please consider it, and go here
politicsorwhat.freeforums.net/thread/38
to make your voices heard (I do believe you can post as guest without creating an account). If you don't want to post yourself (for whatever reason) feel free to reach out to me and I will anonymously convey messages.
So that's where the parenting folks are landing. But I want to know about the loss and the IF communities. I'm definitely not going anywhere near a place that hasn't set up specific boards for those groups.
It is not a final landing place. It was a temporary forum set up originally just for politics discussion, but everyone ended up there when SM shut down. So that is where the discussion is happening to make future plans.
The plan (I think) is to eventually create a new forum with boards for everyone (definitely including IF and loss) with admin representation from all or at least many of the communities/boards here.
TTC #1 since August 2013 DX: Endo November 2014: Hysteroscopy, D&C June - September 2015: Clomid + Novarel + IUI #1-3 January 2017: Laparoscopy - endo removed
So that's where the parenting folks are landing. But I want to know about the loss and the IF communities. I'm definitely not going anywhere near a place that hasn't set up specific boards for those groups.
It is not a final landing place. It was a temporary forum set up originally just for politics discussion, but everyone ended up there when SM shut down. So that is where the discussion is happening to make future plans.
The plan (I think) is to eventually create a new forum with boards for everyone (definitely including IF and loss) with admin representation from all or at least many of the communities/boards here.
that's what I'm seeing as well....there aren't separate boards for ANYTHING yet-it's all general because where we are doing this nomination doesn't seem to possibly be the final resting place. However, there have been repeated comments of any nominations-can they be fair and what area(s) do they represent....they are TRYING to include everyone so please go make your voices heard-you can also comment as a guest for now.
Engaged May 2003 Married June 2005 TTC #1 since October 2014 H-1% morph, low motility, low count Me-.1 AMH levels, low AFC, DOR/POI, perimenopause Foster Care journey begins March 2016-licensed 11/7/16 Foster parents to A & J 1/31/17 www.fertilityfriend.com/home/5525ef
Also I don't want you to think that we suddenly swooped in trying to force you to do anything you are uncomfortable with. That's not the intention. I just want to make sure you are heard if there's any chance that you might join.
This 100% I just am posting on the boards I belong to so they know that this is going on....I just want everyone to get heard.
Engaged May 2003 Married June 2005 TTC #1 since October 2014 H-1% morph, low motility, low count Me-.1 AMH levels, low AFC, DOR/POI, perimenopause Foster Care journey begins March 2016-licensed 11/7/16 Foster parents to A & J 1/31/17 www.fertilityfriend.com/home/5525ef
Post by ohinvrtedworld on May 22, 2017 10:18:16 GMT -5
I'd love for everyone to be together again in some way also, personally. So that hopefully when all of us (ALL OF US!) graduate here, we can go play in a BMB with ease. Or if someone on GKU unfortunately feels the need to join us for support, we are there.
But... I have whiplash, and the people who keep making decisions seem just as disjointed and confused as I am. Or are described as stable people but then go and say nasty things that make them sound very UN-stable. I personally am just waiting to trust some people over there.
If some of y'all in here come to feel that trust, I will probably follow, because I see every day how much you guys have everyone in TTTC's best interest at heart 💜
Post by easilyunamused on May 22, 2017 10:19:42 GMT -5
Grad warning****
I haven't had much time over the past few days to post, but I've been trying to catch up here and there.
I really hope you ladies make it to where ever we land. The IF community is a very important part of the TCF family. Though this place is imploding, and some may feel like we aren't being heard, I know that we are wanted.
The AL situation is tough and I see both sides, but I don't want it to be the deciding factor on if you go or stay. There's more to this than one small fight. Hightened emotions have caused enough riffs. I know I'm only a small poster, but I value all of you so much. I'd hate for us to separate.
So that's where the parenting folks are landing. But I want to know about the loss and the IF communities. I'm definitely not going anywhere near a place that hasn't set up specific boards for those groups.
The hope is to get everyone together. I realize it may not be feasible, but people really want to try. If there's any hope that it can happen then weigh in over there or let one of us that are over there do it for you.
I know there are some who want an apology, I'm guessing for the MCB exchange. I don't condone that, and I didn't see the whole thing because there were account deletions by the time I realized it was there. I'm going to be honest, I don't think there's going to be a formal apology.
lilsneezy I'm speaking for myself here, but I don't get the impression that anyone is down with making loss moms feel like shit (I'm a loss mom myself). I've seen it said numerous times that the experiences and voices of everyone (loss and IF posters included) are appreciated and valued. I know hawkward and heartbot are trying to work with the loss ladies to see if there's any chance they want to be on board.
It's not an excuse, but emotions have been running high with a lot of people for the past week. So please, if there's any chance you might join then weigh in.
And if you don't want to join then that's perfectly fine. I can see that viewpoint. I already said in the DOR check in that if they stay here I'll still be rooting for them and keeping tabs on them.
I don't truly believe they're down with making loss moms feel like shit but none of them spoke up against McB's rant. In fact, a few of them came in to defend her and to hand out hairpats. If they don't think there's any wrong doing there then who's to say that won't happen again? That exchange just left a bad taste in my mouth.
Last Edit: May 22, 2017 10:23:04 GMT -5 by lilsneezy
TTC #1 since August 2013 DX: Endo November 2014: Hysteroscopy, D&C June - September 2015: Clomid + Novarel + IUI #1-3 January 2017: Laparoscopy - endo removed
I'd love for everyone to be together again in some way also, personally. So that hopefully when all of us (ALL OF US!) graduate here, we can go play in a BMB with ease. Or if someone on GKU unfortunately feels the need to join us for support, we are there.
But... I have whiplash, and the people who keep making decisions seem just as disjointed and confused as I am. Or are described as stable people but then go and say nasty things that make them sound very UN-stable. I personally am just waiting to trust some people over there. [\b]
If some of y'all in here come to feel that trust, I will probably follow, because I see every day how much you guys have everyone in TTTC's best interest at heart 💜
I agree with this. I don't know the people setting up a new place well enough to know that I can trust it more than this place. I mean, I used to post on Parenting sometimes, and I've lurked there off and on for years, so I'm familiar with a lot of them. But can I trust them more than this place? I don't know. And I'm not ready to advocate for moving into an unknown right now.
Post by gratefulandthankful on May 22, 2017 10:34:56 GMT -5
I just read the new TCF News post. I assume it's from Naria & it's stating that this site is remaining active.
I will stay here. I really have had no problems on this site. Parenting people seem to be the majority of the people who are leaving. I hope they find a place they are happy with. I have no desire to go where they go.
I know there are a lot of mixed feelings within the IF boards. I hope you all make the best decision for yourselves. I wish you all lots of luck with your journeys. You ladies are without a doubt the strongest ladies I've ever met. ❤️
The hope is to get everyone together. I realize it may not be feasible, but people really want to try. If there's any hope that it can happen then weigh in over there or let one of us that are over there do it for you.
I know there are some who want an apology, I'm guessing for the MCB exchange. I don't condone that, and I didn't see the whole thing because there were account deletions by the time I realized it was there. I'm going to be honest, I don't think there's going to be a formal apology.
lilsneezy I'm speaking for myself here, but I don't get the impression that anyone is down with making loss moms feel like shit (I'm a loss mom myself). I've seen it said numerous times that the experiences and voices of everyone (loss and IF posters included) are appreciated and valued. I know hawkward and heartbot are trying to work with the loss ladies to see if there's any chance they want to be on board.
It's not an excuse, but emotions have been running high with a lot of people for the past week. So please, if there's any chance you might join then weigh in.
And if you don't want to join then that's perfectly fine. I can see that viewpoint. I already said in the DOR check in that if they stay here I'll still be rooting for them and keeping tabs on them.
I don't truly believe they're down with making loss moms feel like shit but none of them spoke up against McB's rant. In fact, a few of them came in to defend her and to hand out hairpats. If they don't think there's any wrong doing there then who's to say that won't happen again? That exchange just left a bad taste in my mouth.
I admit that I scanned most of that exchange because there was so much going on. But, maybe because I lurk parenting so much, I've seen the "if *this or that* is affecting you so much, maybe you should step away from the internet for a bit" conversation happen a few times. So I didn't take much from it other than that. Was it rude and tone deaf, of course. But posters came hard for her too and said some pretty personally mean things too. I don't think there were any winners from that conversation.
I'm not WKing her at all, I just think things were being thrown around, everyone is airing their personal grievances all over the place. I've seen a lot of hurtful things being said about a lot of posters. It's messy as hell, but I think in the end we can come together again. /sappy AF
*****grad warning**** Hey ladies. I've been on the GBCN 3T board for 3 years and the ladies there are wonderful. I actually started there a year before I came over here. The board is slowing down and I'm sure they would welcome you. It's a little different from here in that 3T grads don't have to post warnings before posting but we are a pretty close group and those ladies are wonderful. We'd love to have you over there.
I need someone to tell me what GBCN stands for. I poked around and couldn't figure it out.
I don't truly believe they're down with making loss moms feel like shit but none of them spoke up against McB's rant. In fact, a few of them came in to defend her and to hand out hairpats. If they don't think there's any wrong doing there then who's to say that won't happen again? That exchange just left a bad taste in my mouth.
I admit that I scanned most of that exchange because there was so much going on. But, maybe because I lurk parenting so much, I've seen the "if *this or that* is affecting you so much, maybe you should step away from the internet for a bit" conversation happen a few times. So I didn't take much from it other than that. Was it rude and tone deaf, of course. But posters came hard for her too and said some pretty personally mean things too. I don't think there were any winners from that conversation.
I'm not WKing her at all, I just think things were being thrown around, everyone is airing their personal grievances all over the place. I've seen a lot of hurtful things being said about a lot of posters. It's messy as hell, but I think in the end we can come together again. /sappy AF
It wasn't so much the OP that I found disturbing, it was more of the exchange that followed. And I'm not saying the other posters are innocent but McB took it to another level, IMO. I don't recall ever seeing someone fly off the handle like that at another person on TCF and I just found it gross. I feel like people that know her were just like "McBenny be McBenny'ing" but I think a lot of people who don't know her were probably thinking WTF, like I was. I think part of the problem is the assumption that everyone lurks/hangs out on Parenting so they should know people's posting style and the culture of the board but that's not the case. I do appreciate your input though!
TTC #1 since August 2013 DX: Endo November 2014: Hysteroscopy, D&C June - September 2015: Clomid + Novarel + IUI #1-3 January 2017: Laparoscopy - endo removed
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