Re-intro ***living child warning***

[DrHooch]

Hello again, 3T. I was here for about a year in 2014-2015 while trying to conceive my first child. You can tell me if you don't think I should be back yet, but I'm feeling stressed and needed somewhere to share.

I am 36, and this time around we've been trying for about 4.5 months. Last time it took about a year, and I was 34 when I found out I was pregnant. We had gone through a lot of the initial testing but no treatment other than treatment for hypothyroidism for me (and an HSG). This time, I went off the pill Jan 1, but it took a while for me to get my period and so my OB did some blood tests (AMH, prolactin because I was still breastfeeding, thyroid), and found nothing conclusive. I've been using a fertility monitor and tracking secondary signs with Fertility Friend and so I'm pretty sure I've been ovulating since the end of January.

I'm trying to decide what we should do next. Fertility testing and treatment isn't covered by my insurance so I don't want to rush things but I also feel like I'm not getting any younger and the longer I wait the less likely we are to end up with the family we want. This is further compounded by the problems I am having with my parents recently disowning me and the extra struggle and loneliness that I am feeling with being an only child myself. I don't want that for my son.

Feel free to tell me to go away for another couple of months. I'm not gonna lie, it would make me sad, but I will understand. Thanks for reading this far.

[lemonliz]

I've often wondered what happened to you! I remember you graduated but PAIF had stopped hearing from you. I'm glad all is well!

Of course you can play here. NBD! I don't see why you'd need to wait another x number of months when you were dx'd IF in 2015, even if they couldn't find an explanation for it.

Hope it goes smoothly for you.

[mrspotatohead91]

*lurking from SAIF* to say hi!! Happy to hear from you. I've often wondered how you are doing. I'm glad to hear all is well with you and your LO. Sorry for the stress with TFAS.

[milkeyway]

Dirtyyyyy lurker grad warning I have to admit I got so excited to see your name:) though I'm sorry it's because of IF:( if I were in your shoes I would be going for testing or a consult at the very least but that's me because I am anxious about "wasting time" when it just won't happen for me without treatment.

[heartpresidents]

Hi, welcome! Sorry for your stress, and I hope your stay here is short!

[lillee]

Welcome back!

[bananas22]

Welcome back! I think it's good you're not wasting time. I'm younger than you but I'm regretting the year we waited when we had an IF diagnosis.

[bonzo2012]

Welcome! I think it's fine for you to jump back in here, since you had an infertility diagnosis last time. I hope you find success quickly!

[ProfessorChaos]

I remember you!


**SAIF warning*** A lot of folks don't bother to try on their own with #2 (or beyond) before they go back to the RE, so you don't have to.

[DrHooch]

Thanks for the welcome, ladies!

******, I was never able to get good data from temping the first time around, and now with a little one who often has me jumping out of bed before I'm awake enough to remember to take my temp, I just haven't even bothered.

lemonliz, mrspotatohead91, milkeyway, ProfessorChaos, hi! I know I just disappeared. I was so stressed with work and my pregnancy after IF, and just in general knowing the science behind how many things could go wrong, so being constantly reminded how hard it was for me to get pregnant in the first place was just too much for me to handle... so I disappeared. And then when Nathan showed up I was, I think, suffering from depression which made it hard to get through life, let alone reach back out after all those months. I feel guilty that I haven't been around to help others like you all helped me. I am going to try to do better this time.

[gabride2010]

Hello and welcome!