So let me just summarize some options, and lemonliz can chime in if I get anything wrong.
1. Stay here. Here may become very quiet, especially bc I think Naria is planning on changing the TOU in response to what's gone down (Can't say I blame her, but she may alienate more people). Still no way to get new members here. No good place to graduate to as PAIF is on FB.
2. APTM. Enchanted is the primary admin and seems very reasonable, but a large contingent of the usership does not. As others pointed out, this place does not have a plan to recruit new members, either.
3. The Life After Loss boards. Seems very tiny and unlikely to survive to me, but could be a calm and supportive place.
4. GBCN. A pre-existing community that we'd have to integrate into. Seems very nice, but it would be a slightly different world than our current home.
Did I miss anything? Return to TD? Hahahahaha, just kidding.
Soooooooooooooo, maybe we try staying here for now and then reconsider these options if these boards are dying off? What do people think?
Yep, these are our options.
And I also think that a lot of the loss people are straddling, just as we are.
My strategy right now is just to let dust settle and I'm feeling like everyone else is feeling that way too?
Grads, if you guys want buddies too, we can make this an all-IF thing!
Married 10 years. DX: AMA, DOR, endo, one tube, +NK, homozygous MTHFR C677T, and abnormal endometrial function test. MFI with high DNA fragmentation and pericentric inversion on chromosome 9.
I've made an account at the new place and posted a little. Partly, the GKU posters who aren't IF seem to have mostly moved over there, and I don't want to lose track of all of them.
I do worry a bit that this place will shrink even more now. All of TCF, not just IF. Currently, we don't really have anywhere to graduate to, and with GKU empty now I worry that our numbers will just dwindle. On the other hand, I don't want to move just for the sake of moving.
I still have mixed feelings about all options, so I'm fine with posting in two places until the dust settles a bit and we decide what we want our new normal to be.
Post by hoosiermama76 on May 26, 2017 0:00:04 GMT -5
I have too much stress in real life to deal with this bull. I think that the people staying are good people, and even if the community is small, it is intimate, and that is supportive and good for where we are:-)
Correct. But apparently the only thing she will be doing at the new site is being a reg. No admin or mod duties. It is the preferred option, I gather, because it's already set up.
The other option is an entirely new forum, which would take more time to set up.
But, having been an admin, does that mean she will retain any magical powers that a reg won't have? I was actually reading the thread about voting to go to APTM versus elsewhere (here) bc procrastination. I only glanced at the original thread containing the interaction with W&C (too disgusted to read more than a few posts), but I gotta say I think McB is certifiably nuts, comes across as outlandishly bitchy, and I'm not sure I want her having access to any of my personal info.
I have no background knowledge of these people, so this is just my impression of reading these highly charged threads.
What happened was this - people used this opportunity (me having created the forum) to pull out and air their grievances. It's what passive aggressive people do sometimes. Never address things when they should. Use other times to throw stones and hide their hands so to speak.
Let me bring you up to speed - THE PLAN WAS ALWAYS A ADMIN TEAM. This was actually my idea. The crazy person.
Can I be a bitch? Sure. I don't go around fucking with people, no.
Personal info - email and IP? Maybe create a burner email for your message board accounts.
Google IP address and tell me what you can find out.
Also, let the record show I have been posting over 7 years. I have never been involved in any crazy off board dramatics or shenanigans. Nothing. If I have something to say to you, I do.
You could have just come and asked me what was going on. I could have made you an Admin at APTM and let you read everything you needed to on the Admin board to ease your mind.
I know Larry happened. Please do not try to convince me otherwise. Please don't talk to me about coffee. I don't drink it. I don't caffeine. When I state my opinion, that is me chiming in on a topic. This is not me saying you suck at life if you do or feel differently. If I want to say that, I will. If I want to speak on you, I will.
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