UO time!

[BostonKisses]

Spill it.

[helenahhandbasket]

If you comment on an article on line, you should actually read and understand the article .

[tomorrowisanotherday]

I would be totally okay with being a 50s housewife. I realize that it's not for everyone, but I feel like being a SAHM was a more respected role in society before the feminist movement really took off.

[helenahhandbasket]

Feb 19, 2015 9:29:36 GMT -5 tomorrowisanotherday said:

I would be totally okay with being a 50s housewife. I realize that it's not for everyone, but I feel like being a SAHM was a more respected role in society before the feminist movement really took off.

But, you can be a feminist and a 50s housewife.  Or be a feminist and want to be a 50s housewife.

Feminism is about the equal treatment of females in society (in the workforce, in politics and in general), so it really has nothing to do with rejecting traditional roles.  I hope everyone is a feminist (not just here-- I mean in the universe.)

If you are happy being a "50s housewife" and your husband loves, appreciates and respects you and your opinions on everything (not that he agrees with all of them-- just that he treats them with consideration and respect)-- that's awesome.

[BostonKisses]

Feb 19, 2015 9:09:16 GMT -5 helenahhandbasket said:

If you comment on an article on line, you should actually read and understand the article .

Hell yes!  This is one of my biggest pet peeves.  It's always glaringly obvious who reads the headline only and starts spouting a tl;dr tangent.  It's fine to have opinions, but FFS read the damned article before commenting so you don't make yourself look like an idiot!

[tomorrowisanotherday]

Feb 19, 2015 9:53:13 GMT -5 helenahhandbasket said:

Feb 19, 2015 9:29:36 GMT -5 tomorrowisanotherday said:

I would be totally okay with being a 50s housewife. I realize that it's not for everyone, but I feel like being a SAHM was a more respected role in society before the feminist movement really took off.

But, you can be a feminist and a 50s housewife.  Or be a feminist and want to be a 50s housewife.

Feminism is about the equal treatment of females in society (in the workforce, in politics and in general), so it really has nothing to do with rejecting traditional roles.  I hope everyone is a feminist (not just here-- I mean in the universe.)

If you are happy being a "50s housewife" and your husband loves, appreciates and respects you and your opinions on everything (not that he agrees with all of them-- just that he treats them with consideration and respect)-- that's awesome.

I agree, I just feel like in the quest for equality (especially in terms of the workforce), society has sometimes felt the need to put down women who want to choose to "just" stay at home and work in the traditional roles, as if it is less than and we should be able to "do it all" (work and be the main caregiver). I feel like the sentiment overall when I say that my job is to care for my house and family is, "Yes, but when are you going back to work?"

[helenahhandbasket]

tomorrowisanotherday- the people that are judgmental for you choosing to be a SAHM are not being fair and I would say don't understand femininsm at it's core. A lot of it is about choice and having choices (beacuse for a lot time, there weren't many choices for women)

FTR--possible UO-- I have not ever been a SAHM (aside from my 12 week mat leave) and to me it was harder than working outside the home.

[eyenigh]

Feb 19, 2015 11:13:06 GMT -5 helenahhandbasket said:

tomorrowisanotherday- the people that are judgmental for you choosing to be a SAHM are not being fair and I would say don't understand femininsm at it's core. A lot of it is about choice and having choices (beacuse for a lot time, there weren't many choices for women)

FTR--possible UO-- I have not ever been a SAHM (aside from my 12 week mat leave) and to me it was harder than working outside the home.

I will say, though, those first 12 weeks might be the worst time to make that assessment because everything's still so new and such a shock to your life routine. I was absolutely miserable being home on mat leave and couldn't wait to go back to work. I remember at 2 months thinking "OMG, I have to do this for another month," and almost breaking out into tears. These days, I get a lot of time off where I work and often have my son home for 3-4 days at a time and, I'll say, now I think I could stay home if my lifestyle wouldn't suffer (but it would, so I won't). I don't find the days hard, they can just be trying at a more task and emotional level whereas work just causes me to do a lot more critical thinking and complex decision making. They're both challenging and I really think it would depend on the day to say which was harder than the other. The biggest difference is that, at home, you have to be on top of that kid all.the.time to make sure he doesn't break himself or something-- there's never a break in responsibility even if you are just sitting around doing nothing. At work, I don't have to watch out for people at that level so even though I can have difficult days, it's a way different kind of difficult.

[helenahhandbasket]

That's a great point eyenigh.

I mean it is such a SHOCK. I remember feeling the same way you did, crying that I wanted to be at work, sitting at my desk and not holding this red- faced stranger that screamed at me all day.

It's so much easier now, but I guess I just feel like I wouldn't be much good at it. Like, I would like to think I would be the mom that did all sorts of Pinteresty art projects, and have a million activities planned, but I know I would wind up on the couch most of the day in my leggings and letting DD put makeup on me all day. (her fave activity right now)

[helenahhandbasket]

They should have hired me for that job I interviewd for 3 times. Unpopular with the hiring manager at the company. Just got an email saying the position has been filled.

Damn it. I want to cry.

[namastebiotches]

Feb 19, 2015 12:00:45 GMT -5 helenahhandbasket said:

They should have hired me for that job I interviewd for 3 times. Unpopular with the hiring manager at the company. Just got an email saying the position has been filled.

Damn it. I want to cry.

Oh man, I'm so sorry.

[tomorrowisanotherday]

Feb 19, 2015 12:00:45 GMT -5 helenahhandbasket said:

They should have hired me for that job I interviewd for 3 times. Unpopular with the hiring manager at the company. Just got an email saying the position has been filled.

Damn it. I want to cry.

Boo, that sucks! I'm sorry

[TheEleventhHour]

helenahhandbasket I am so sorry. I am sending you lots and lots of hugs!!!

[helenahhandbasket]

Thanks ladies.

Trying to look at the bright side-- I have a good job that I am comfortable with, good co-workers, an awesomely understanding boss and we are about to have a big-ass Chinese New year party so I can go drown my sorrows in MSG

[eyenigh]

Feb 19, 2015 12:00:45 GMT -5 helenahhandbasket said:

They should have hired me for that job I interviewd for 3 times. Unpopular with the hiring manager at the company. Just got an email saying the position has been filled.

Damn it. I want to cry.

Man, I'm sorry. That totally sucks.

[emmaswan]

I'm so sorry helenahhandbasket, you should have gotten that job!

UO: When men on online dating sites want to get a response from a girl, they should message more than "hey sexy what's up".

[helenahhandbasket]

Feb 19, 2015 13:57:25 GMT -5 emmaswan said:

I'm so sorry helenahhandbasket, you should have gotten that job!

UO: When men on online dating sites want to get a response from a girl, they should message more than "hey sexy what's up".

Popular!

[legomyago]

Feb 19, 2015 12:00:45 GMT -5 helenahhandbasket said:

They should have hired me for that job I interviewd for 3 times. Unpopular with the hiring manager at the company. Just got an email saying the position has been filled.

Damn it. I want to cry.

Big hug!  That hurts.

[violette]

Feb 19, 2015 12:00:45 GMT -5 helenahhandbasket said:

They should have hired me for that job I interviewd for 3 times. Unpopular with the hiring manager at the company. Just got an email saying the position has been filled.

Damn it. I want to cry.

That stinks!  Three interviews is really putting you through the wringer and getting your hopes up.  How obnoxious!

If it's any consolation, there must be at least one or two people who are really pissed off at that final decision-maker now, because clearly someone really wanted to hire you.

[helenahhandbasket]

Feb 19, 2015 14:06:45 GMT -5 violette said:

Feb 19, 2015 12:00:45 GMT -5 helenahhandbasket said:

They should have hired me for that job I interviewd for 3 times. Unpopular with the hiring manager at the company. Just got an email saying the position has been filled.

Damn it. I want to cry.

That stinks!  Three interviews is really putting you through the wringer and getting your hopes up.  How obnoxious!

If it's any consolation, there must be at least one or two people who are really pissed off at that final decision-maker now, because clearly someone really wanted to hire you.

LOL-- thanks-- that's a good spint to put on it!

[cam]

Sorry about the job, helenahhandbasket. It always seems to suck more to miss something by an inch than miss it by a long shot.

My UO (more of an unpopular feeling than opinion I guess) is that it doesn't really bother me to think of LO growing up, even though I love the stage he is at so much. I saw some sweatshirts for an awesome price last night, so I bought a couple in future sizes. It was a switch from the toddler section to the little boy section, and my only thoughts were how ridiculous some of the clothing is (also thought that of some toddler clothes but usually in a different way) - no sadness at all about him looking older. Maybe I am broken, or maybe I am too excited about finding a sweatshirt for under $5 (in his favorite color even) and a dress shirt for under $10 to care about the implications of needing bigger clothes.

[helenahhandbasket]

Thanks cam

And I feel the same way about DD-- I am so enjoying her at this stage.

[TheEleventhHour]

Feb 19, 2015 13:57:25 GMT -5 emmaswan said:

I'm so sorry helenahhandbasket, you should have gotten that job!

UO: When men on online dating sites want to get a response from a girl, they should message more than "hey sexy what's up".

ACCURATE. DH was the only man I met for a date from Match.com because he was the only one who could carry a conversation and avoid calling me things like "sexy" and "baby" before even meeting.

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Feb 19, 2015 12:00:45 GMT -5 helenahhandbasket said:

They should have hired me for that job I interviewd for 3 times. Unpopular with the hiring manager at the company. Just got an email saying the position has been filled.

Damn it. I want to cry.

Oh man, I am sorry. That sucks!

[skategirl128]

Big hugs helenahhandbasket!!

[Deleted]

Feb 19, 2015 12:00:45 GMT -5 helenahhandbasket said:

They should have hired me for that job I interviewd for 3 times. Unpopular with the hiring manager at the company. Just got an email saying the position has been filled.

Damn it. I want to cry.

That sucks! I'm sorry.

[cam]

Feb 19, 2015 14:36:45 GMT -5 @misspeansmama said:

Feb 19, 2015 14:11:24 GMT -5 cam said:

Sorry about the job, helenahhandbasket. It always seems to suck more to miss something by an inch than miss it by a long shot.

My UO (more of an unpopular feeling than opinion I guess) is that it doesn't really bother me to think of LO growing up, even though I love the stage he is at so much. I saw some sweatshirts for an awesome price last night, so I bought a couple in future sizes. It was a switch from the toddler section to the little boy section, and my only thoughts were how ridiculous some of the clothing is (also thought that of some toddler clothes but usually in a different way) - no sadness at all about him looking older. Maybe I am broken, or maybe I am too excited about finding a sweatshirt for under $5 (in his favorite color even) and a dress shirt for under $10 to care about the implications of needing bigger clothes.

The thing for me with moving up to the next clothing sizes is that with each size jump, (newborn to toddler to girls) I like the clothes even less as the sizes go up.  There were tons of cute things in the 0-24 month sizes.  In the toddler sizes there are so fewer choices for cute clothes.  And I've looked at the girls clothes as I have nieces in those sizes, and I just don't like the styles they have.  I am hoping to find things I like by the time she moves in to girls sizes, but I think I am resigning myself to the fact that I am going to have to dress her in some things I just don't care for.

I agree with that aspect. With boys, there seems to be such limited variety to start. It seems the majority of options are incredibly plain or graphic tees, with the ratio of decent tees to inappropriate tees seeming to get drastically worse with age (no, clothing maker, I do not think my future 5yo needs an "I hate school" shirt). There are some cute casual button-down shirts, but those are harder to find and typically more expensive, so I snatch them up when I find a good deal. I buy way ahead if I see something that looks nice and is a great price so I don't feel quite as stuck when he actually needs those upper sizes (i.e. Cute shirt on the clearance rack but only one left is 3 sizes too big. Oh well, it will fit eventually.). He is getting close to the end of 3T for long sleeves and pants, and I have had a nearly full 4T wardrobe on hand for months with several random pieces in upper sizes already, so I am keeping an eye on all stuff in the little boys' section now (well, pieces that are a bit more timeless and won't be out of style in the next 2 or so years and where specific fit such as with pants won't be an issue).

[Deleted]

I'm sorry helenahhandbasket! That sucks!
My UO, or maybe it's more of a C.. I want DH to act more like a step-parent! Helenahhandbasket's post yesteday was an ah-ha moment for me. The discussion about how SO's role should be to support you as a mom and you are in charge of the parenting.. I was like, "Yes! That sounds awesome!" This is definitely a C.. I am clearly a terribly controlling wife! Flame away, it's only Thursday...

[penguin129]

Sorry to hear they went with someone else helenahhandbasket.

[helenahhandbasket]

Feb 19, 2015 17:43:07 GMT -5 @rocknrollfriend said:

I'm sorry helenahhandbasket! That sucks!
My UO, or maybe it's more of a C.. I want DH to act more like a step-parent! Helenahhandbasket's post yesteday was an ah-ha moment for me. The discussion about how SO's role should be to support you as a mom and you are in charge of the parenting.. I was like, "Yes! That sounds awesome!" This is definitely a C.. I am clearly a terribly controlling wife! Flame away, it's only Thursday...

Haha-- this totally made me laugh!