Help me decide on a middle name please!

[eburgmama]

So, we have decided on Dashiell as the first name (pronounced Dash-el, like Rachel, daniel, etc.) I know the name isnt everyone's favorite name on here and I am ok with that. No need to tell me the name is not your style!  

That said, I do need opinions on his middle name. We have a Zoe Elizabeth and a Finnegan Charles already. Both kids' middle names are after grandparetns who were very special to us (my grandma, DH's grandfather) if we continue with this we will use my grandfather (who died when my mom was 8), his name was Edward. That is really the only option for male relatives. DH's other grandfather was John but his brother was already named after him and I dont want to use anything from my dad's side (for personal reasons). it would mean the world to my Mom. Losing her father at such a young age had a big impact on her and still makes her emotional.  But I dont like the name Edward! Everytime I think of my baby I think of him as Dashiell Jude (Jude was our runner up first name), I just love the way it sounds together! 

So do I follow tradition and name the baby after a relative even though I dont love it together? or go with my heart and name him the name I really love?

[cashews]

I think you should name your kid a name that you actually like. If you don't like Edward, I wouldn't name him Edward. Does your grandfather have a middle name you could use to honor him?

[Idani]

Personally I think Dashiell Edward flows and sounds better but if you don't like I don't see why you would use or consider it.

[sissykate21]

Feb 19, 2015 12:00:11 GMT -5 Idani said:

Personally I think Dashiell Edward flows and sounds better but if you don't like I don't see why you would use or consider it.

This exactly. 

[draeray]

FWIW, I love Dashiell and it was in the top 3 names for me if this baby would have been another boy and MAYBE only getting beat out by Gideon which I think I love just a little bit more.

I also agree with the previous two posters that Edward flows better in my opinion, but if you don't like it, don't use it.

[AleWife]

I like both Jude and Edward. But as PP's have said, choose a name you like, too.

[leahb12]

I think Edward has a better flow, but don't use it if you don't like it.

[dreadpiratebuttercup]

Edward sounds and flows better. I also like it as a name much more than Jude. But if you don't like it, then you shouldn't use it.

[Deleted]

Feb 19, 2015 12:00:11 GMT -5 Idani said:

Personally I think Dashiell Edward flows and sounds better but if you don't like I don't see why you would use or consider it.

This, 100%.

[brynnlux]

Do two middle names! A lot of people do! A friend of mine did recently with her son for the exact same reasons you mentioned. She wanted to honor a loved one but also use a name she loves. 

[chibiyui]

Feb 20, 2015 0:53:22 GMT -5 brynnlux said:

Do two middle names! A lot of people do! A friend of mine did recently with her son for the exact same reasons you mentioned. She wanted to honor a loved one but also use a name she loves. 

I would not recommend this. I have heard it is nothing but hassle in regards to government forms, id's and anything standardized (testing, applications, credit cards, etc)

[catahoulatte]

I prefer Edward over Jude but you shouldn't use a name you don't like.

[brynnlux]

Feb 20, 2015 11:44:02 GMT -5 chibiyui said:

Feb 20, 2015 0:53:22 GMT -5 brynnlux said:

Do two middle names! A lot of people do! A friend of mine did recently with her son for the exact same reasons you mentioned. She wanted to honor a loved one but also use a name she loves. 

I would not recommend this. I have heard it is nothing but hassle in regards to government forms, id's and anything standardized (testing, applications, credit cards, etc)

I have two last names and my daughter does too so we know the hassle. It's annoying but worth it for the reasons we chose to have two last names. I don't normally recommend it to others due to the hassle (when my daughter was born one of the tests she needed at birth were filed with insurance through a misspelling and she was over 2 years old before it got fixed) but I wanted to throw it out there since she seems to have two names she is stuck on. Also that way when he grows up he could choose whichever one he wants if he wants to shorten it himself. 

[macchiatto]

Feb 20, 2015 11:44:02 GMT -5 chibiyui said:

Feb 20, 2015 0:53:22 GMT -5 brynnlux said:

Do two middle names! A lot of people do! A friend of mine did recently with her son for the exact same reasons you mentioned. She wanted to honor a loved one but also use a name she loves. 

I would not recommend this. I have heard it is nothing but hassle in regards to government forms, id's and anything standardized (testing, applications, credit cards, etc)

As someone with two middle names, I concur.

I think Dashiell Edward and Dashiell Jude both work fine. I would go with Dashiell Edward; it sounds a lot better to me while in terms of style, Dashiell and Jude seem like an odd combo to me. I really think you can go either way though since it's just a middle.

[mags]

Parker?