Post by spiraltheory on Feb 20, 2015 10:18:22 GMT -5
I had a first the other night : put M's pacifier in my mouth after he dropped it on the gym floor at a high school basketball game. I knew it would happen. I was just waiting.
Post by littleapplemom on Feb 20, 2015 10:33:45 GMT -5
DH is on my last nerve already today.
He had a work meeting last night, SS was at a sleepover so it was just LO and I. We had our nightly routine, I ate dinner late...a small batch of buffalo chicken mac and cheese that I had already made and defrosted, sleepover and meeting were last minute and I thought everyone would be home. I was exhausted so I left the pan out to cool before putting it in the fridge and went to sit and watch some tv. I passed out on the couch with LO until DH came home and woke me...I was half delerious and he said he shut down the kitchen (lights and whatever). I remember specifically asking if the pan was away and him saying yes. What does he ask me this morning....."hey hun, was the mac and cheese SUPPOSED to be left out overnight?". Like a jerky jerk. I said of course not and told him to toss it.....so he tosses it....while I'm in the shower....and proceeds to wash the pan...cue icy blast shower and a super cranky wife.
Post by ninergirl52 on Feb 20, 2015 11:07:59 GMT -5
I am absolutely dreading going to the grocery store & to a friends house w/ lo today. I've got a pretty happy baby ... Unless I put him in the car. He doesn't love the car seat but will tolerate it if I'm holding it or even when we get to the store. The second he gets in the car he loses it. We're talking complete meltdown. I think my friends think I'm lame for not wanting to drive anywhere!
ninergirl52 I knew someone else with the same car problem. She said playing white noise on her phone helped a lot. She may have specifically used the "baby got colic" video on YouTube, I'm not sure. Anyway, maybe that's worth a try? Babies freaking out in the car is so stressful!
I wonder what today will bring? Usually at this time, baby's been up, changed, fed, and back to sleep. She's sleeping in this morning. I wish I could too! Of course, this is the day the cleaning lady comes before lunch, so there's another interruption.
I am determined to have a good day today. It helps that LO slept pretty consistently from 3:30-7:30am after needing soothing pretty much every 35 minutes before that. I hope everyone else who was suffering had a similar stretch!
In "duh" moments, cleaning the kitchen and picking up the living space before bed makes for a much less stressful morning. HUH. Let's see if I remember this come 10pm tonight.
ninergirl52 car freak outs SUCK. you can't do anything. you just have to sit in them. horrrrible.
I've got appointments at two day cares today. My twelve weeks is up Monday but I've got a big stash of sick and vacation. Not planning to go back until April or May. I've been procrastinating big time but it felt really good to make the phone calls yesterday and send inquiry e-mail to another half dozen places.
We had a good stretch last night. 9-1:30 and he refused his bottle after bath before bed. So he went from 7-1:30 before eating again. Totally strange for him, but we slept! So that's most important.
We have had two successful naps in the PNP today and yesterday. I think tomorrow night we will transition to overnight PNP sleeping!
Post by ashleymm197 on Feb 20, 2015 12:38:58 GMT -5
briannea good luck with your day care appointments today!
thank you ladies for the support on the job interview, Katie said I should probably hear from them on Monday. She said they have a long process, so the next step would be meeting the entire team to make sure I feel like its a good fit. I'm glad she's pulling for me to get it, it would be awesome to work with her again.
During the audit last night, I luckily avoided having contact with the guy the entire time! So relieved! I know that I would have been fine, but this week was so stressful I'm glad I didn't have to deal with it.
So mad at DH right now, I slept on the couch last night (I actually sleep really good on it, so I wasn't too mad about being out there). He thinks its funny when I'm mad and likes to just get me worked up for no reason, this makes it so I actually can't tell when he's being serious or not. Anyway, when I was talking to him while I was still at work, he brings up a discussion we had last night about if I was stopping at my moms house after my interview. I had said probably not since I didn't know when it would be over and then Katie wanted to meet with me afterwards, so I'd probably just go home for a bit before work. He could not understand this and kept saying I don't know why you won't go, you can hang out with Henry and take a nap. I got mad, I told him we'll see it. So yesterday, I had to walk outside a few times in the snow to get to their different offices, so my feet were soaked and my pants covered in salt. By the time I got to my house, I had an hour to relax, change, and warm up before work, and I actually left early so I could pick up the intern so he wouldn't have to walk to work. I called my mom and checked in on the baby, everything was fine.
So my DH tells me later that he asked my mom if she knew what time I was supposed to go into to work. She said no, and he told her 3. So she starts (and shes joking) that she had the baby for 12 hrs today for no reason and that I could have had the baby for 3 hrs. I know my mom wasn't being serious, but I am so sick of him picking on me and for some reason trying to shame me for having an hour to myself yesterday. I already feel bad enough leaving Henry every day and that my mom has to watch him, I do not need him trying to make me feel even worse. He makes me feel bad anytime I am not constantly the main caregiver--if I'm not holding him enough, jumping to change his diaper, etc. I love my son, I cry when I talk about how much I love him and how proud I am of him. I think after our Dark Week in December when I didn't sleep for 36hrs straight because Henry didn't sleep, I have earned 1 flipping hour to eat and change my clothes alone.
Sorry the GIANT rant. I just needed to vent. I hope everyone has a good Friday!
Post by littleapplemom on Feb 20, 2015 13:09:15 GMT -5
ninergirl52, do you have toys or a mirror for the car? I find LO is fascinated with them when we're in the car. He's a sleeper too though, he'll pass out as soon as we bundle him up for a ride.
zengal, pumping at work totally sucks!! I hate it. I go for 2 30 minte breaks, 20 of which is pumping. I have to set up and break down the pump each time because there isn't a place where I can leave it set up. Then storing in a cooler bag...cleaning the flanges....UGH! I feel like half my day is spent pumping. Then I have to haul it all home on a train, a bus and then my car.
Sorry for complaining today...I'm a negative nancy after that ice blast this morning!
Post by rosieb0514 on Feb 20, 2015 13:13:37 GMT -5
zengal, Pumping at work really sucks. The only "private" place at my work is the breakroom. It has a door so I put up a "Pumping, Please Knock!" sign. I am super mindful of breaks/lunches and go at the same time every day. I even verbally communicate that I am heading down there before I go! Three times this week I have been walked in on mid pumping session. It's a good thing I turn my back to the door!
I thought DS cough was getting better, but this morning it didn't sound good at all. I know we are doing all that we can, but it just breaks my heart. It has also brought on the mommy guilt big time. I'm thankful DH has the time and can stay home with him/work from home, but I want to just stay home and take care of him. Ugh.
Post by rosieb0514 on Feb 20, 2015 13:20:35 GMT -5
ninergirl52 so sorry about the car craziness. I have a friend that also used white noise when they put their son in the car and it worked for them. That is the only way we can get DS to take a bottle at the moment. I never knew white noise had such power!
Post by calimomof1 on Feb 20, 2015 14:13:46 GMT -5
ashleymm197 Fingers crossed for the job! And I want to slap your husband. He's not being very supportive of you. I'm sorry.
ninergirl52 I totally empathize! My LO always screams in the car. Usually I cover her seat with an Aden and Anais swaddle to keep the sun out. I've figured out that she doesn't like that! The last few times I've driven, I've left that off and she's been fine. Do you cover the seat at all?
Just came across this post and thought I'd share with all of you mama's! I think, especially for the mama's who are working, this will help you feel a little better about your decision. Whether it's optional or not.
Nothing like playing middle man middle man on a Friday afternoon between your insurance company and the hospital. I got the billing for Josephs cir. last month, 3 months after the fact, and I just noticed when I went to pay my balance that it had not been sent to insurance. That's 300 that can go toward other medical bills. Hell I still haven't gotten the bills for just the doctors because they still have him labeled as Baby Boy. Found out all I have to do is send a copy of my insurance and his SSC. If I had know that I would have sent it 2 months ago. On the plus side I got almost 6 hours of sleep.
My original plan for going back to work next week was for me to stay home Mondays, my dad to watch Norah on Tuesdays and Thursdays, and our friend to nanny for us on Wednesdays and Fridays. Well a few days ago, our nanny canceled. Now I have to last minute look up daycares for those 2 days per week and scramble to pick one even though I've had all this time off, because I was relaxed and thinking Norah would be able to stay home and avoid daycare until I went back to teach next school year. FML
ashleymm197, Thanks, I was really happy with the first one. We have another appointment this afternoon for one that's practically walkable from my house. The first one is even willing to do cloth diapers. I feel better knowing that we have options.
I have gotten so much tidying and final bits of unpacking done today. What I haven't done? Eat food or drink water. I've also missed a pump session. But my house looks better!
Post by ashleymm197 on Feb 20, 2015 15:57:38 GMT -5
For the ladies with car problems, Henry sometimes does this too. What has been 95% effective for us has been his glow Sea Horse. When we put him in the car, we push the blanket so his hand are out again (he hates them covered) and then I place the sea horse on his lap and squeeze the belly so the music starts, since it only lasts for 5 minutes we wait till he's in the car. Henry really likes music, it soothes him to sleep and calms him. When we get him out of the car, he's usually asleep with his hand resting on it's head. It's really cute, I'll take a picture tonight when I pick him up.
It's been more effective than his binkie. He almost never cries now, and every once in awhile he'll start talking to it. so cute.
Post by wildflower810 on Feb 20, 2015 16:03:30 GMT -5
Sounds like it's been a rough day for all of us! M has fought sleep like nothing else today and I was just about at my breaking point when he finally went down for a nap. I'm hoping it's not another crap nap. I'm leaving M with H tonight for a mom's night out... he can try a bottle for the first time if M gets fussy!
Oh, and my FFFC because we don't have that thread.... I love how my baby smells when he hasn't had a bath in a week. That "newborn" smell has worn off, but baby BO is almost the same. Baths make me sad.
Post by ninergirl52 on Feb 20, 2015 16:04:59 GMT -5
Thanks for all of the suggestions. He has toys & a mirror, we don't cover his seat & haven't tried white noise (definitely will try that). We have found at night he freaks because it's so dark so I try to sit back there with him with a light on & that seems to help. It's the solo rides that are the worst.
Post by ashleymm197 on Feb 20, 2015 16:46:14 GMT -5
ninergirl52 I think maybe the glow toys may work if its the dark that is upsetting him. I think its reassuring to Henry when he can see its belly glow. Hopefully something works soon, it's always so stressful when they cry and you can't do anything while you're driving!
Add me to the carseat hating club, although white noise works well most of the time now!
@calinomof1 thank you for the article it did actually make me feel a little better about working!
I'm stressed, we switched insurance when I was 6 months pregnant bc my H switched jobs so having lo went from costing us $250 to costing over $7,000 (I just got the final bill from the hospital and set-up the payment plan today). So sad that we didn't have a chance to plan for this expense before getting pregnant but he is definitely worth it!
littleapplemom, that's frustrating! I hope the rest of your day has been better!
wildflower810, I'm glad you're getting a mom's night out! Enjoy it!!
pixie523, hurray for getting things tidied up! I always think that feels so good. But take care of yourself too mama!
Wow, today has been crazy! After getting only 3 hours of sleep last night, I woke up to DD fussing at 5:20 this morning to a cold, dark house. Our power had gone out at some point in the early morning. The temp was in the single degrees outside. It turns out our entire town was out of power. Thankfully, DH's parents live about 10 minutes away, so we packed up DD and our dog and drove there. After a few hours, the power company said we had power back, so I drove home myself to make sure, and guess what? No power still! So, I picked up all of our recycling which the snowplows had so kindly scattered everywhere, and drove back. On my way back, I slid into a snow bank, cracking the plastic on the front-underside of my husband's new-to-us-old car. Thankfully a nice old gentleman came and helped dig me out, and DH was really nice about it. When I got back to my in-laws, I fed DD, after which she had a HUGE blow out diaper. We changed her on a changing pad on the kitchen table, since our dog and my in-laws dog were ruff-housing on the floor. DD was screaming the entire time and very poopy, so we decided just to give her a quick bath. As soon as we pulled off her diaper, she peed all over the table. Now DD is screaming every time I try to feed her. So yeah, not a GREAT day.
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