It has been super busy this week a d I haven't been able to post as much...dang work.
My LO is normally great at eating and going right back to sleep after MOTN feedings. Tonight he has woken up twice at his normal times with his hungry cry but then just cries when I offer him a boob...he eventually settled down and is even now eating normally but it is very frustrating because I'm not sure what the issue is/was. I'm hoping this isn't a new normal.
We are getting our taxes done today and going to lunch with some friends... I had to force myself to agree to the lunch for my husbands sake. I find that I have no desire to go out when I can stay home and snuggle my baby. I was a homebody before lo but it's definitely worse now. My H is pretty social and loves to go out so I need to make an effort.
spikesmom That is weird. Hope it's not an issue tomorrow night.
I've lurked a bit over the past week or so, but have just been busy with the move I guess. DH decided on a whim yesterday that he wanted to fly me down for the weekend to see him off before these long nine months. I can't believe I left my baby overnight. Who knew choosing between your husband and child would be so incredibly heart wrenching..
I feel your sleep pain. Earlier this week, I thought we had finally turned a corner, I was getting 4-5 hours in the first stretch. But...not to be. We are back to 2-3 the last two nights.
The MIL visit is going OK. She is leaving tomorrow very early, so today is really it. She hasn't been helpful to be honest. Yesterday she cleaned my kitchen and bathroom, which I guess I should appreciate, but it really just bugged me! She hasn't changed one diaper, and has actually "joked" about not wanting to. She holds the baby for a few minutes at a time, but isn't confident about it, which baby can sense, so he gets fussy. Then it's handed right back to me. She lives far away so I can't really complain, we don't have to see her often, but there it is, my bitch for the day!
spikesmom I'm a ftm but what I've learned so far is that no stage lasts very long - so even if this is your new normal (which I hope it isn't), it hopefully passes quickly!
Good to see you here kfo22! That is a tough choice; I agree. Enjoy your husband time!
npg1982 Strength for one more day...and know that you can absolutely complain! MIL "jokes" do not amuse me.
My baby will be going to her first birthday party - her cousin is turning five! I'm excited about the party, and I'm also looking forward to giving my niece her present. She's the girliest girl and I'm taking her to the salon to get her nails done. ...and there will be cake!
I'm up. spikesmom I'm sure you have thought about it but sometimes my lo will do that when she's gassy. She also did it for a few days during her last growth spurt, hopefully it will get better!
kfo22 how did it go being away? I bet that was hard
npg1982 good luck getting through today, you can do it!
I think I convinced my H that I should stay home or get a part time job where I can work a couple evening a week. I'm just not really feeling the daycare we chose. The ladies are very sweet but they have a lot going on and I'm not sure if they can give her the attention I think she needs. It's stressful to find another job but I really feel like it's worth it for us
spikesmom, it's so frustrating when our LO's go through these stages! I hope things get back to normal for you soon!
kfo22, I hope you have a great weekend! It definitely is hard to be away from our LO's, but it's also good just to bond as a couple!
kfaye, I'm so glad you were able to bring your H around!
zengal, that sounds like so much fun! Have a good time!
DD has been in this awful eating phase where she'll start to scream after a short time on, and then also want to eat more frequently and has not been sleeping well at all. Last night went awesome though through the night, and I REALLY hope that we've turned a corner! Now I need to work more on not having to rock DD to sleep every time, but instead getting her to be able to fall asleep on her own. Oh, and getting her out of her rnp and into her crib or pnp!
I've also been taking reglan to try to increase my supply, but it hasn't been working very well. The pediatrician suggested fenugreek if the reglan didn't cut it. Any recommendations on brand for those of you who have taken it or know somebody who has? Our pediatrician was also really vague on the amount to be taken; I'm hoping there's instructions on the bottle!
kaimee27 - depending on the fenugreek product, the dose is usually 2 capsules 3x a day. Nature's Way is one brand I've seen in stores and it's also available at Amazon (I have mone on subscribe and save). The Vitamin Shoppe also carries fenugreek. I'm sure others can chime in with where they buy theirs.
Drive by posting! Hope everyone has a nice weekend lined up after the shitty week we all seemed to have. I'm headed out by myself tonight. There will be TWO cocktails consumed.
I'm currently on binkie patrol. I'm desperate for a nap to last longer than 45 minutes, so I'm hovering over the crib hoping to catch LO stirring before full wake up. She wakes up so cranky. I know she's not getting enough day time sleep.
kfo22 glad to see you!! I've been wondering how you and LO are settling in.
Post by jax1182014 on Feb 21, 2015 11:19:32 GMT -5
kaimee27... How much do you get when you pump? I'm thinking I may have to increase my supply but I just want to get an idea what other people are producing
I have been so busy and soooooo tired. Hugs to everyone who needs them. Hope you guys have a good weekend.
I'm thinking of getting the Magic Merlin sleep suit. This kid thrashes and flails non stop. He has not been sleeping and I just can't anymore. Rushed around this morning to get to work for my 9 am appt and they cancelled last minute.
Post by wildflower810 on Feb 21, 2015 11:29:47 GMT -5
kfo22, oh, the heartstrings! I can't imagine. See my story from last night...
I left M with H last night for 2.5 hours. I had my phone on the table and was looking at it constantly. I finally get a text that says "I think he's getting hungry" so I wrap things up and leave. I was 5 minutes away. I come home to the most desperate look on H's face, real tears in M's eyes, and an attempted bottle of milk on the table. H had gotten a half an oz into M before he freaked out again. M latched on and nursed for 30 minutes straight! He wouldn't let me out of his sight the rest of the night, either. I feel zero mommy guilt, but goodness, it might be a while before I leave them both in the evening.
Here's to a good weekend of sleep, calm babies, and snuggles.
wildflower810 I had a similar situation Monday night. Came home to full-on meltdown! I think the majority of the 2 hours I was gone went well, but she wouldn't take the bottle I left and nursed for a long time when I got home as well. I'm glad you didn't have any mommy guilt! I sorta did, but only because it wasn't a scheduled night out and I just decided last minute to hang with some friends. We need that time to ourselves though!
Had my first argument with H about scheduling a visit with his parents in March. I go back to work (PT) on March 9th and he suggested the weekend before or after. I flat out said no. I know I'll have withdrawals and will be in no mood to share her He got defensive at first but came around to my way of thinking. Last time his folks were here I did all the cooking and cleaning and I'm in no mood to do so after or before my first week back at work in almost 4 months.
Hope you all have a great weekend! We are supposed to get an ice/sleet storm here in Texas on Monday :/ I know it's nothing like the snow you ladies have been dealing with, but I'm not looking forward to it.
Post by calimomof1 on Feb 21, 2015 14:00:51 GMT -5
After LO fought so hard to nap yesterday and took forever getting to sleep, she slept from about 10:30p to 8a! I nursed her, took a shower (sweet, sweet shower!), then pumped and got almost 2 ounces. Now I'm nursing her again and she's in heaven. We're gonna make an attempt at Costco today...what a big day... Lol!
This last week has been super hard. I always feel better when the weekend comes and I have help from my husband.
jax1182014, if I pump about a half hour to an hour after I feed DD, I get about 2.5 - 3 oz total between both sides in the morning, which is when my supply is highest. I only pump on mornings when DD hasn't eaten as often during the night, because on nights when she feeds more frequently, I don't really have anything left over on the morning feeds. I don't usually pump at night since I'm pretty empty in the evenings/at night.
jjh1119, I'm thinking we're going to try the sleep suit also. DD startles herself awake so much!
For those who have the Magic Merlin sleep suit, do you find that you're able to put fleece pajamas on underneath it also, or is that too warm for your LOs?
Post by runnershan on Feb 21, 2015 14:55:17 GMT -5
calimomof1 I feel the same way about the weekends. My husband helps so much and I find myself counting down to the weekends starting on like Monday afternoon!
kaimee27 I also take fenugreek and drink mother's milk tea every day. It has helped my supply quite a bit but I still don't make enough to EBF. If you just need a little bump I'm sure the fenugreek will help a lot. I take it 3x a day and the label has instructions.
Do any of you have any advice for breastfeeding while side lying with larger boobs? I haven't had much luck trying to feed LO side lying because my boob covers her whole face and I'm worried that she can't breathe. My boobs aren't super huge (36 C) but they are big enough to cover her whole face while feeding in that position so I spend the whole time holding my boob up so she can breathe. Yesterday she refused to nap and was hysterical because she was so overtired so I put her in my bed and tried to nurse her to sleep that way just so she would sleep more than her usual 40 minute nap. She ended up sleeping for 3 hours! I was shocked. Once she finished nursing and was asleep I was able to move her up by my face and actually nap a little too but I'm worried about falling asleep while she's nursing and my boob covering her whole face. I tried kind of arching my back and tilting her head up which helped a little but I still think there must be a better way to do this.
Tomorrow is the anniversary of my BFP, so I just went and lurked on N15. People are starting to post over there now. I can't believe it's been a year already!
runnershan I don't have big boobs, but when I do side-lying nursing I put my arm under LO's neck so his head is propped back a bit. That way he's more at the same level as my boob.
runnershan I also but my arm under lo to nurse on my side and it works great! I'm currently a DD so pretty large and mo issues with him breathing like this!
runnershan I was a DD before and one of the things I found helpfully was pulling her feet towards me and kind of having her head a little further away so that her nose is away from my boob. I also lean a little bit towards my back. I hope that makes sense? Learning to nurse on my side has been a life saver at night. Good luck!
For those who have the Magic Merlin sleep suit, do you find that you're able to put fleece pajamas on underneath it also, or is that too warm for your LOs?
We have the micro fleece suit (they also make one that is cotton on the outside—I think the interior fabric for all is cotton) and we just put LO in a onesie + socks. We are in SoCal, but our room gets down to about 68-70 at night right now. When we were having a heat wave last week, I just did diaper + suit and no socks. If we were in a cooler climate I might lean towards cotton jams + suit. Fleece + suit seems like a lot, though I haven't noticed the suit making her sweat or anything so might be fine depending on your LO.
For those who have the Magic Merlin sleep suit, do you find that you're able to put fleece pajamas on underneath it also, or is that too warm for your LOs?
We have the micro fleece suit (they also make one that is cotton on the outside—I think the interior fabric for all is cotton) and we just put LO in a onesie + socks. We are in SoCal, but our room gets down to about 68-70 at night right now. When we were having a heat wave last week, I just did diaper + suit and no socks. If we were in a cooler climate I might lean towards cotton jams + suit. Fleece + suit seems like a lot, though I haven't noticed the suit making her sweat or anything so might be fine depending on your LO.
Not sure how helpful that answer is
We have the same one and LO sleeps in cotton footed pjs.
Post by wildflower810 on Feb 21, 2015 16:43:18 GMT -5
runnershan, I do what sadie74 does. Put LO in bed next to you so that your nipple touches her nose. Make her tilt her head back and up to get it in her mouth. Once her neck head is up and back, she will be able to breathe. I'm a 36C/D right now and we nurse in bed every night! I do hold my breast back at the beginning of the nursing session if I'm really engorged, but then let it go as I empty out. We have both fallen back asleep next to each other a lot (I don't like doing it, but I also don't like forcing myself to stay awake at 3 am!) and M has had zero breathing problems. Good luck, side lying nursing has saved our nights here!
Post by spiraltheory on Feb 21, 2015 17:48:01 GMT -5
calimomof1 - I meant to thank you for the article you posted yesterday. It has given me a lot to think about in terms of going back to my job (not that I've really had a true maternity leave).
runnershan I was a DD before and one of the things I found helpfully was pulling her feet towards me and kind of having her head a little further away so that her nose is away from my boob. I also lean a little bit towards my back. I hope that makes sense? Learning to nurse on my side has been a life saver at night. Good luck!
This. I'm currently (and always have been, unfortunately,) a DD.
Lost my 24-year-old cousin to a car accident today. Blew left front tire, went off road and flipped. We weren't close in our teen/adult years but I have memories from our youth. I haven't seen my aunt or her since my grandmother's funeral 7 years ago, but I do feel so much for her. Especially after having a daughter. Hug your LO's close tonight.
My parents and brother had just landed in NOLA when they got the news and my dad turned around and flew right back. Going to take LO over there tonight and hopefully she will cheer us all up. She's 3 months today. Where does the time go, y'all?
Post by calimomof1 on Feb 21, 2015 18:50:04 GMT -5
spiraltheory Glad to know it got you thinking! I feel like I'm caught in this weird situation where half of me is glad I'm going back to work and half of me isn't. It's not that it's a unique situation, as I'm sure many (most?) working mothers feel the same. Part of me does feel guilty...but then, why did I spend all of those years pursuing a college degree and all of those years working myself up the ranks, only to quit now? I have the best job for the best company I've ever had! I just started there last July, so I have to go back and show them what I'm made of and why it was worth it to hire me. I shouldn't feel guilty about going back. I'm going to miss my LO terribly...but it will be nice to be able to just go for a walk or go out to lunch. Ok, end of my rant!
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