Belated Self-Care Post for 2/23

[cam]

Oops. I have not been able to keep track of what weekday it is at all this week and somehow jumped ahead (I currently keep going back and forth between thinking today is Thursday and Friday). Anyway, here is the self-care post 2 days late.

What did you do for self care last week?

What positive messages did you tell yourself?

Any plans for (what is left of) this week?

Challenge: Catch up with someone you have been out of touch with for too long (I.e. the friend you haven't talked to in two months, the parent you haven't stopped to see in three weeks because you have put off your usual weekly visits, the sibling you forgot to email back from last week in a just 'What's happening?' kind of email instead of the 'something that needs to be addressed/coordinated/taken care of' kind, or whomever has been on the backburner for however long).

[cam]

I set up some stuff I need to take care of and didn't wait until last minute (which would end up with me being up late for several nights and cutting into my sleep).

I came up with some designs that I am pretty pleased with so reminded myself how creative and talented I am in that area. I tried on a bunch of dresses to figure out what I was wearing to a number of upcoming events. Some dresses are older, well before I had LO, and I felt really good about how I looked in them. I also noticed some of my old jeans fitting great again. I felt positive about my body for the first time since mid-pregnancy (so nearly 4 years).

I am not sure of specific plans yet for this week.

[mamaturtle]

Last week for self-care: It was more like DH was taking care of me and we celebrated Valentine's Day later! DH and I went to Buffalo Wild Wings last Friday on a date. We went to Dairy Queen afterwards. DH also bought me Hello Kitty Pajamas which I desperately needed because I wear DH's old shirts and boxers. I also got to take a nap on the sofa and later our bed this past Sunday for 1 hour.

I don't think I had any positive messages to tell myself. Last night was a good example: DS was scratching his leg till it scabbed and has started on his hands. He will not stop with all our efforts. I got frustrated and thought to God "what did I do to get a broken baby?" I cried and told myself "I love DS! He is the only child I am going to get. There is no way we would get another baby."

Plans: I do want to get into watching some "Reign." I have never seen it before and have already watched one episode.

Challenge: I will try to text someone. I sent my sister a text last Thursday and she responded a few days ago. It was not much. I would call her but I have no clue what her schedule is and I would hate to call her when she is at work. We use to talk on the phone a lot but she got married and is a stepmother now to 3 kids.

[numbbears]

What did you do for self care last week? I worked on not procrastinating and that helped my stress levels. I also have been eating either salads or sandwiches for lunch every day. We're still grabbing fast food occasionally for dinner, but it's getting better.

What positive messages did you tell yourself? Not so much last week, but today I did positive messages before a demonstration for school and rocked it. I should make a note somewhere to do it more.

Any plans for (what is left of) this week? I want to plan to get more sleep. I just need DS and DH to cooperate with that.

Challenge: There are quite a few people that I need to catch up with.

[numbbears]

Hugs mamaturtle I've done that for the same reason. It's so frustrating and seems so hopeless to get him to stop sometimes. I feel like if he isn't living in his sleeper, he'll claw the rest of the skin on his ankles off. Hopefully, when it starts getting warmer, they'll stop scratching.

[mrsbuttinski]

Last week was a big fat fail.

I'm pretty good about reaching out to those in my circle- I check in with my niece now that she's moved out about 5 times a week. I touch base with my BFFs, especially the one who lost her dear brother to a heart attack last fall. And my parents, ugh, I talk my mother off the wall at least twice a week- she's sick and on steroids so I'll be doing daily phone checks to sooth her and to validate my father for a while. Steroids + Mother =/= Peace & Harmony at home. Phoning my mother is always a challenge. She doesn't always have her phone with her- sometimes it's in the car or at the bottom of her handbag. She has a new smartphone she doesn't understand that randomly ends calls mid convo. Then I have to listen to the rant about how she doesn't understand her phone script. Not fun.

I will endeavor to write thank yous to the local papers for publishing some of the scout articles I sent. I have Troop 29 and 99 "Snow Angels" shoveling out the elderly on the cover of my hometown paper and 4 Eagles from the next town on the cover of their local freebie and the community news section of the county paper.

I'm going to treat myself to a couple new bras. I've lost a little weight and my bras don't fit properly. I tried on 10 bras at Marshalls and another 15 at Kohl's. I bought one and it's very uncomfortable- it stretched and is chafing. WTF? I hate to spend $$$ on bras, but this has gotten ridiculous.

[kmc2]

As Mrsbuttinski said, "last week was a big fat fail" for me as far as self care goes. Didn't have too any positive thoughts either, but I will say my patience with the kids is slowly getting better and better over time it seems. This is a big deal for me and something I do feel really good about.

Its a little frustrating though because even though I can clearly see how much better the kids feel when I can keep calm and relaxed with them, they have been acting out more in general. I guess I'm confused because for once I can't really blame it on my crappy parenting. lol

On the challenge I have good news to report: I've been doing much better with trying to reach out to and keep in touch with people who I care about and miss that I'm not as close to anymore.

[mrsbuttinski]

Ugh.

You know how everyone says the vast majority of women are wearing the wrong size bra? Specifically how we're all in too big a band and too small a cup? And how all my friends were saying "get a professional fitting, you'll look 10 years younger and 10 lbs lighter"?

Well, I took the girls to the spendy lingerie store with the top notch professional fitting staff and the expensive bras in brands most people never see? So the fitter measures me and puts me in a bigger band and cup. I seriously thought the girls were going to escape out the bottom. It was awful. Long story, short. I came out with a single bra in exactly the same size I came in wearing looking as old and as heavy as I did going in. And I paid retail, I like never pay retail for anything but shoes. Last time I paid full price for something was when I needed a black dress for a funeral in an hour.

[bubbalicious]

I saw an old friend and went out with dh. Went to the gym several times.

I need to work on self talk.

Gym and diet need to keep working on.

[kmc2]

Bras are the worst. I have one that's so comfortable I can't even tell I'm wearing it and its surprisingly very flattering. If you asked me where I got it or how much I paid for it, I couldn't tell you. Of course. The rest I can't stand and if I get stuck wearing my other ones they get ripped off the minute I come in from outside or the minute I know all the therapists are gone from my house. lol

[olivegoose]

I completely fail at self care right now. My husband has been working a weird schedule all week so I haven't gotten much "me time."

[bubbalicious]

Workouts. Check.
Increase water intake. Check.

Go to an IEP meeting....eat everything. Check.

Got to get back on the train!