Article (WARNING: Sensitive/Possible Triggers)

[dandb925]

Hi ladies, I came across this and wanted to share. Her last paragraph really struck me.

www.buzzfeed.com/jenniferchen/why-i-dont-want-my-miscarriage-to-stay-secret

[mellymel15]

Thanks for sharing this article. I have opened up to a lot of people about my MMC-- just not on social media. I hate that there is such a stigma attached to having a miscarriage, and I wish it was more socially acceptable to talk about. I don't want people to feel sorry for me, but I did go through a traumatic experience and I don't like the idea of keeping my feelings bottled up inside. The last paragraph got me too.

[nobb14]

I just shared this on my newsfeed! And, immediately felt guilty for inevitably becoming the black cloud on my friends newsfeeds. But that's the stigma that needs to stop. Life isn't just perfect Facebook moments... There are painful times that are worth sharing, and only stupid people make others feel stupid for opening up about something so powerful. I need to remind myself this on the regular, including right this very second. Thanks to a few glasses of wine and feeling a wee bit sentimental, I wanted to share something that relates to my experience and I'm glad I'm not the only one who saw this link. I'll be damned if Facebook strictly becomes the land adorable pregnancy announcements and newborn shots (I literally have friends posting pics of their child at "38 weeks". What?) As we've all learned this past week with TB, the dark side isn't something to be so afraid of.

[mellymel15]

Good for you, nobb14. I'm proud of you

[nobb14]

Thanks ladies! Honestly, I have a bad habit of word vomiting when I'm upset, so I posted on Facebook immediately after both losses while I was in shock. I recognize, though, that unless I'm over emotional or tipsy I probably otherwise wouldn't have the guts (I'm active on Facebook and have nothing to hide but I also hate the concept of oversharing.) I know many ladies who aren't very active on social media with their private life good or bad or are just not in a place to be open, so I try to kind of use my wordvom as a voice for them too. Sometimes I regret it, but mostly I just hate that I end up feeling guilty for being honest in a public forum like facebook that my life isn't all rainbows and glitter.

[dandb925]

Jan 18, 2015 21:15:19 GMT -5 nobb14 said:

I just shared this on my newsfeed! And, immediately felt guilty for inevitably becoming the black cloud on my friends newsfeeds. But that's the stigma that needs to stop. Life isn't just perfect Facebook moments... There are painful times that are worth sharing, and only stupid people make others feel stupid for opening up about something so powerful. I need to remind myself this on the regular, including right this very second. Thanks to a few glasses of wine and feeling a wee bit sentimental, I wanted to share something that relates to my experience and I'm glad I'm not the only one who saw this link. I'll be damned if Facebook strictly becomes the land adorable pregnancy announcements and newborn shots (I literally have friends posting pics of their child at "38 weeks". What?) As we've all learned this past week with TB, the dark side isn't something to be so afraid of.

I wish there was a love button for this!! You have nothing to feel guilty about.

[mellymel15]

nobb14, part of me wants to share this article and open up about my loss on Facebook, but DH doesn't want me to. He says he is comfortable with me telling people in real life about it, but doesn't want everyone on social media to know. This happened to him too, so I need to be respectful of his feelings.