Are they better off?
Mar 2, 2015 12:10:17 GMT -5
Post by xanthepants on Mar 2, 2015 12:10:17 GMT -5
I was sad the other night realizing that Cosette will most likely not have all the things/opportunities I had growing up. I feel a growing pressure to try and provide those as we save for college,vacations, pursue getting a larger house in a district with better schools etc. Probably all of which was just second nature for me growing up (we weren't upper class by any means but upper middle class). I now compare myself to my brother and sister and how they are able to afford such amazing things for their kids and for us it is a struggle and a sacrifice to keep up. This was weighing on me and I was thinking about how I had it better than Cosette in this way and I was sad honestly. And that got me to thinking about how the world is simply much harsher now. I rode my bike 3 miles to the local pool during the summers by ourselves and never thought twice - Coco -um no way.
I said this to my H and he completely thought the opposite and I was floored. He thinks she has it so good compared to how he was brought up. They struggled with unemployment, lived with his grandmother, were on assistance, etc. I guess sometimes I just forget how different we are and how we landed in the same place. He thinks we spend way too much on her if we buy a gift outside of a birthday or christmas for her. That activities outside daycare are frivolous. I would hazard a guess that a lot of our parenting disagreements (which honestly there really arent too many actually) stem from this economic barrier more than anything else. We balance each other out and I appreciate that in him.
I guess my question, or point is, do you think your child will have it better or worse than you did? Maybe this could mean in a financial sense. Maybe an emotional sense. I thought it might be an interesting discussion.
I said this to my H and he completely thought the opposite and I was floored. He thinks she has it so good compared to how he was brought up. They struggled with unemployment, lived with his grandmother, were on assistance, etc. I guess sometimes I just forget how different we are and how we landed in the same place. He thinks we spend way too much on her if we buy a gift outside of a birthday or christmas for her. That activities outside daycare are frivolous. I would hazard a guess that a lot of our parenting disagreements (which honestly there really arent too many actually) stem from this economic barrier more than anything else. We balance each other out and I appreciate that in him.
I guess my question, or point is, do you think your child will have it better or worse than you did? Maybe this could mean in a financial sense. Maybe an emotional sense. I thought it might be an interesting discussion.