Post by Life is interesting on Mar 3, 2015 21:47:22 GMT -5
We are working on it and DD ( technically no medical dx but has a school one) typically plays well on playgrounds but whenever anything happens anywhere she has a difficult time apologizing or verbalizing her empathy. It's there but the strong will, shyness, or whatever elusive dx that exists won't let it out.
Anyway, she was playing on the swings pushing empty swings. Now DH was With her but off in lala land and I was with DS. Suddenly I heard a child screaming and holding his face. DD was near the slide very quiet. I asked her what happened to the little boy. She said the swing hit him. I asked how that happened. She said she was pushing it and it accidentally hit his face. She said she did not mean to hurt him. I told her thank you for honesty and we need to tell him she is sorry and make sure he is ok. ( he was with his mom). She refused and clammed up. I apologized for her and checked on him. The mom and kid were fine.
It's just difficult to handle these situations snd honestly they don't come up often, DD is a "rules" girl but still has a difficult time with offering help or apology when something is an accident. She will do this if on purpose but the difficulty lies in the accidental Injury or spill or break of something. Anyone else have this concern?
I do understand it is socially appropriate for her to apologize but as much as we go over things I can't force her.
We are working with a therapist to help with some of these things but just hard. Maybe it's the way I take it. She was fine. The mom was fine. And judging by the moms words and kids reaction to DD later the child she hit accidentally probably had ASD or some similar diagnosis.( not that this matters at all it was just an interesting dynamic)
Anyway, she was playing on the swings pushing empty swings. Now DH was With her but off in lala land and I was with DS. Suddenly I heard a child screaming and holding his face. DD was near the slide very quiet. I asked her what happened to the little boy. She said the swing hit him. I asked how that happened. She said she was pushing it and it accidentally hit his face. She said she did not mean to hurt him. I told her thank you for honesty and we need to tell him she is sorry and make sure he is ok. ( he was with his mom). She refused and clammed up. I apologized for her and checked on him. The mom and kid were fine.
It's just difficult to handle these situations snd honestly they don't come up often, DD is a "rules" girl but still has a difficult time with offering help or apology when something is an accident. She will do this if on purpose but the difficulty lies in the accidental Injury or spill or break of something. Anyone else have this concern?
I do understand it is socially appropriate for her to apologize but as much as we go over things I can't force her.
We are working with a therapist to help with some of these things but just hard. Maybe it's the way I take it. She was fine. The mom was fine. And judging by the moms words and kids reaction to DD later the child she hit accidentally probably had ASD or some similar diagnosis.( not that this matters at all it was just an interesting dynamic)
