Post by junebug060609 on Mar 4, 2015 8:07:42 GMT -5
Maybe rivalry isn't the right word, but it's the closest I can think of at the moment.
I know it's relatively normal for his age, NT or not, to be pushy with a younger sibling. He's going up to her and randomly pushing/pulling her down though. Even when she's not into his things. I think some of it is attention seeking, if I get after him he smiles.
I don't know how to address it with him. Obviously it isn't ok to be pushing/pulling people down, and his teacher at the IEP meeting yesterday mentioned he'd been doing so with kids in class as well. She described it there as he wants to interact with them, but does so by pushing/pulling which they find off-putting and they freak out. Gently correcting him doesn't seem to work. Time outs are a joke (he literally smiles and laughs). I can't really completely ignore it if he's hurting baby sister. They've had me at the end of my rope this morning. Him pushing/pulling/kneeing her in the back (not hard, but its the principle)...and of course she's recently learned that the louder and more dramatically she screams the more likely we are to intervene (even when he's not actually done anything, I've totally busted her for crying wolf).
The only time I've gotten a reaction out of him besides smiles and laughter was when I yelled at him this morning (not my proudest moment). I suspect though that the reaction was that I scared him, which makes me feel awful.
Thoughts? How can I get the message across to him that this behavior isn't ok?