AW - Insensitive comments from my mom
Jan 18, 2015 20:59:22 GMT -5
Post by booklover811 on Jan 18, 2015 20:59:22 GMT -5
So on Thursday I was talking to my mom about where we are in our journey and what the progesterone I'm taking is doing to help. She got all excited and said "Then with that stuff you should be fixed!" I told her that was not how it worked and I wouldn't ever be "fixed." Then she started going on and on about how I need to be more open. And you always here stories about how couples are told they will never have children and then magically they do! And if I were more positive and open, something like that would happen for me to. I was an absolute mess. I was sobbing and told her that was so hurtful. I am so fucking open for a child, that I am shoving pills up my vagina. I am so fucking open for a child that I pee on endless sticks all cycle long. I am so fucking open for a child that I take my temperature every morning and am going in for endless amounts of testing.
She then tells me that she had to try for 5 months to get pregnant with my brother and she totally understands where I am coming from. I told her that unless she has been trying for 16 months like I have, she has no idea. I told her that I am open, but I don't blindly get my hopes up every month, because then when I'm not pregnant, it hurts so bad every month. She continued with the stance that I just need to be more positive and open. I ended the call sobbing and just so upset. My mom is usually one of my best friends, who I talk about everything with. The fact that we are so close and she isn't even trying to be supportive just hurts so much.
Today she tried calling 3 times and I didn't answer. She left a VM saying she doesn't understand why I'm so upset and that she's sorry she hurt my feelings. I'm not ready to talk to her yet, everything still hurts too bad. Especially because AF came today.
Does anyone have any good articles or websites for family? I'm hoping if she reads up on IF a little more, maybe she'll get a clue? Ugh thanks for reading. If you made it all the way to the end, gold star for you.
She then tells me that she had to try for 5 months to get pregnant with my brother and she totally understands where I am coming from. I told her that unless she has been trying for 16 months like I have, she has no idea. I told her that I am open, but I don't blindly get my hopes up every month, because then when I'm not pregnant, it hurts so bad every month. She continued with the stance that I just need to be more positive and open. I ended the call sobbing and just so upset. My mom is usually one of my best friends, who I talk about everything with. The fact that we are so close and she isn't even trying to be supportive just hurts so much.
Today she tried calling 3 times and I didn't answer. She left a VM saying she doesn't understand why I'm so upset and that she's sorry she hurt my feelings. I'm not ready to talk to her yet, everything still hurts too bad. Especially because AF came today.
Does anyone have any good articles or websites for family? I'm hoping if she reads up on IF a little more, maybe she'll get a clue? Ugh thanks for reading. If you made it all the way to the end, gold star for you.